5 ways to succeed in your youth

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I- Investment

Investment is a necessary factor for your good development.

If you want to grow your income, you will have to invest.

This step is not optional.

You are often told to save money, this is bullshit.

The value of your money will decrease every year.

II- Be fearless

Fear is man's worst enemy.

It gnaws at him until it makes him a docile person.

Risks must be part of your daily life.

If you don't take them, you don't move forward.

The best way to learn is to fail.

Since "at 22" is trending and I coincidentally changed my profile picture to this on facebook yesterday, here I am at 22 back in 1984 and in my final year at university. 1/14

Earlier in the year I'd dyed my hair pink and yellow as a rag week stunt, and then all pink so as it wasn't quite so crazy. In a way, dying my hair like this may have helped determine the course of my whole subsequent life. 2/14

A few weeks later, with the hair dye still very much showing, I landed a job at a small software company based in a farmhouse near #Peterborough. I turned down an interview for a job with a big company, Ferranti, because I'd become aware of its links to the defence industry. 3/14

My mother thought I was making a big mistake, passing up the chance to work for a famous and long-established blue-chip company, and choosing a company that would probably go under quickly. 4/14

The software company often struggled. Sometimes when we got our pay cheques we were asked not to pay them in just yet, until those who were married and had kids had got their pay cheques cleared, in case some of the cheques bounced. 5/14

@Will_Bunch OK, so 25 years ago I set off with 3 friends (one who I am now married to) to hike amongst the Dogon people of Eastern Mali. Little did I know that the research I made for that trip was to have this moment for me to shine. A thread:

10 big ideas for the next 10 years. Here are 10 ideas I think will make fundamental shifts in innovation, politics, money as we head towards 2030. Feel free to add yours

1. Tech focused youth involvement in governance. Over the next decade, there'll be greater involvement in the political process by the young digitally savvy demographic. Technology will play a massive role in helping young people build movements & in demanding for accountability

2. Build for export: With the Naira's continued depreciation, and decreasing purchasing power of Nigerians, more entrepreneurs will be forced to look outwards in search of fortunes. Nigeria will essentially become the incubation centre for businesses with global ambitions

3. Remote working neighbourhoods/cities. As entrepreneurs look outwards, the talent with exportable digital skills will also look outwards for employment opportunities. Investment in real estate that caters to remote workers will become an opportunity

4. Engineering offices. As Nigerias tech ecosystem matures & the current mid-level programmers, designers, PMs, transition into senior roles, foreign mid-sized tech companies'll start opening eng offices in Nigeria to get early access to the talent pipeline before coys like FB do

Yikes. I’ve had a bit of a shitty night. Woke up from a dream where I was sobbing - proper distressed, inconsolable body sobs - about work. I was living in a tiny cramped flat with my deceased family members, with no room. People from work were coming in and out & I felt >

> ashamed and I was trying to say that I used to live on my own in a bigger flat and not share a bedroom with my siblings & live with my Mum but I couldn’t. There was a new manager who came to see me and somehow bizarrely ended up in my bedroom waiting for me and it felt >

> intrusive & shaming because she saw my poor living conditions and I knew she would have been told by management that I was unstable/troublemaker/no good/rubbish. So then I cried and cried and cried and cried (to show how stable I was 🤣) and then I woke up 😳😳😳 >

> also random ppl I work with, coming in and out of my home, making snide remarks about no wanting to be there. All the time I felt embarrassed because it was small, cramped, dark, full of people. Ugh. Woke up mid cry and felt awful. That wasn’t quite it though... before that >

> I’d woken up just before 7am, wide awake, with vivid thoughts. The thought was of my (now deceased) brother. I remembered a time around my Mums funeral when I went to pick him up and he was slurring, all over the place, couldn’t stand up. So I took him to the Doctor. >

One of the sad things we know about abusive parenting is that it often propagates over generations.

I’m very glad my grandfather broke that chain and didn’t become his abusive step-father. Because it turns out that supportive parenting *also* propagates over generations.

About the time I was 9 I was pissed at my parents for something or other, as kids are. And I angrily thought, “When I have kids, I won’t do xxx to them.”
And then it occurred to me that I really liked who and how I was, and their rules had helped make me that.

So I decided I probably *should* parent the way they did.

In retrospect, that was probably a bit too much faith in nurture over nature. I was an only child, so I didn’t have a counter example. Having two kids abused me of *that* theory. :)

But I really value my supportive dad.

My father was *so* supportive of my endeavors, even as an adult, that my first wife’s dad asked her if there was something wrong with me that I needed that much support. (He was the dad she had to actively deceive to study math, and to come to the US).

And it wasn’t just big stuff, it was little things. Like when I had a cloth board for my cosmic wimpout game, and the edges were fraying, he surprised me by sewing a border on it. Or the bunk bed he helped me make for college to fit over my desk. And the stereo cabinet we built.

24 SELF DEVELOPMENT TIPS

1. Make friends with successful people and occasionally buy them gifts and surprise them with lunch because successful people always give and hardly get, so when you give them, they value the gift a lot.

2. Get a mentor and follow his instructions

and respect the relationship. Never beg your mentor for money or disrespect his or her privacy.

3. Make new positive friends as often as possible and ensure you keep the communication line open. Create a network of friends and not just connections.

5. Show kindness to everyone. Some small boys today will be big boys tomorrow. The biggest dog in the neighbourhood was once a puppy. Keep the information/secret to yourself.

6. Always plan ahead and be proactive. He that plans the future works less in the future.

7. Listen to speeches and messages from great teachers, both religious and educational.

8. Attend seminars and trainings on any area you need to improve yourself - Train the trainer, personal development, public speaking, sales etc.

9. Have the habit of keeping a pen and a writing pad handy because ideas come in the form of flashes. The smallest pen is bigger and better than the biggest brain.

10. Make sure at every point in time you are reading a book. If you spend 20 minutes reading daily,

🧵 Learnings from #Year2020

1. 🙋‍♀️ There are no bad questions, only bad answers. So ask away, be brave. Because if you never ask, you will never know. It's better to ask and be stupid for 5 minutes that stay quiet and be stupid forever.

2. ✏️ Being Simple Is Hard, but being simplistic is just..being Supandi. The trick is to be relevant. There is a time to channel your Wordsworth and there’s a time to be a #Spartan. I am still learning the economy of words.

3. 💪 You are hired for your strengths at the cost of your weaknesses. That job description that gives your jitters — is just an ideal scenario. Don’t work for filling those gaps. Rather cement your strengths to overshadow your not-so-great qualities :)

4. 🌸 In a world where you can choose to be anything, be also — kind. So help that new colleague get to know the team better, ask if someone drowning in work has had their lunch, bring some sweets back from your fancy trip to Europe. No one ever forgets how you make them feel.

5. 👩‍✈️ Good leaders ensure that you are never scared of feedback — good or bad. Any critical feedback that I receive is not feedback on me personally but on the work itself. We are all on the same side, we are all trying to solve the same problem.

Here are a few thoughts on everything from this humble reply guy:

1: The establishment/uniparty/whatever are about to go scorched earth on whatever is left of the MAGA movement. The pampered rich kid just got a bloody nose and is about to send his lawyer parents after the bully.

If anyone wanted to defuse this, they'd offer amnesty to the protestors and give Trump a backdoor deal where he's uncharged but stays out of the political world and gets to go back to being a reality TV personality, with a bit of Dubya-style character rehabilitation thrown in.

From there, they'd steer the MAGA movement back into the ideological walled garden of Dan Crenshaw and Charlie Kirk. There'd still be rallies, but now it'd be Marco Rubio or Nikki Haley. The vast majority of Trump's voter base would lap it up like puppies.

But everyone either doesn't want to defuse this (so they can scorch even more earth) or they're so blinded by partisan furor (and their base is so fired up) that the calls for blood become a vicious cycle that pushes this towards the territory of 19th century American politics.

2: The clearpill is that even when galaxies collide, individual star systems are barely affected. Focus on yourself, focus on your job, focus on building and sustaining a good home life, and no matter which way the political winds end up blowing, you'll probably be alright.

Have you met your Inner Child?

You might see them as yourself in your early years.
You might seem them as a patchwork of childhood.
You may even just see dreams of youthful play.

An awareness of your Inner Child can you bring balance to your life.

#innerchildwork #csa #healing

First, not everyone associates childhood with playfulness and fun. If you, like me, have experience the wounds of emotional, physical, mental, sexual, or any other type of abuse - childhood can rouse feelings of suspicion, fear, and vulnerability. You may carry pain buried deep..

inside that aims to protect you from both your present self and the child you once were.

For years, I buried this pain afraid to release it for fear I might disappear in the weight of it. I feared connecting with my inner children as much as they feared being seen.

THIRTEEN, 13 THE OPERATION OF WISDOM,

THE number thirteen is unlucky for ignorance
only.
All so-called laws of nature may be reduced
to thirteen.
The origin of words and their application
vary widely.

Shyness can make you lose great opportunities in life.

Here are tips on how to break free from shyness.

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1. Know the reasons why you’re shy.

It could be a traumatic social experience, environmental influences, genetics etc.
Being aware of the root of your shyness can help you become aware and accept who you truly are.

If you believe it has to do with your upbringing, examine your relationship with your parents now. Are they still domineering or are they shy themselves?

2. Identify the triggers.

By identifying what triggers your shyness, you can plan ahead and create a course of action for when you're placed in those situations. You can practice what you would do if faced with your triggers and work to overcome them.

3. Create what i call shyness bucket list

List out all the things you can't do because of your shyness and start overcoming them one by one. It is not easy but you have to build up confindence (if you perish you perish), you will not perish. talk to random people, join clubs etc

Being away from family can be tough during the best of times but this pandemic has truly tested and damn near broken me.
It was only a matter of time that someone closer to you gets infected and that happened 3 weeks ago when my brother fell ill (he's recovered now).

The initial bout of panic and scrambling for travel arrangements (it was looking pretty bad for a while) as his condition started to deteriorate was thankfully short as we needed cool heads more than rash decisions (taking 2 flights and passing through 3 big airports).

My other brother and my sister had to physically stop my parents from being in the same room as him. Shouting was involved. All that was quite difficult to manage from a distance but we have learnt of thousands of families around the world go through much tougher situations.

The medics, I can't even imagine how they are managing. The governments and the people are both siding with the virus in this long war.
Its all just so baffling to me, and even more absurd with every passing day that we have imposed it upon ourselves. On the most vulnerable.

Anyway, my brother is an otherwise fit 34 years old cyclist and he loves to go hiking every chance he gets so he probably had the best chance out of whole family to recover from the pneumonia in both lungs and dropping oxygen levels...
I don't think either of my parents will.

#HOPEPORN+

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Any more disclaimers??? It's a screen play, writers notes...

SO, I hear from a friend who heard from a friend... vvvvv see thread