Kanyini Prayer… For the World…

On behalf of all of us of indigenous ancestry from the First Peoples of Australia, to all the great Creators of Nature, who have always loved us without condition throughout all our natural life and beyond, I offer this prayer:

I have a message to all you who told us to remain inactive, or those that told us to stand down when emotions were high THREAD

Now Ministering: Pst @AwoguJoel
Topic: Praise in The Storm

#ChurchGRA #Gratitude #MyTurnToShine

In life, we are meant to succeed despite the challenges. They come as storms in your life. This storm can be a season of repeated undesired outcomes.

#ChurchGRA #Gratitude #MyTurnToShine

The Lord goes with you but in it all, you go through Valleys. These valleys are downward moments. That's a part of the journey.

#ChurchGRA #Gratitude #MyTurnToShine

We face shadows in life, no one is exempted from this phase. The storms are capable of pulling tears from our eyes. The shadow of death is not a pleasant experience.

#ChurchGRA #Gratitude #MyTurnToShine

In spite of this, God is with you and He brings us comfort. You need to hold on to that. Even in the storm, God remains with you. Psalms 34:19 assures you of this.

#ChurchGRA #Gratitude #MyTurnToShine

Too many Soldiers have made ONE mistake and received a Hug,

instead of an All-Night Fuck.

HOW TO NEVER FALL INTO THE FRIENDZONE EVER AGAIN:

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The #1 reason guys get friendzoned?

They aren't physical enough.

They act like one of her girlfriends or g@y friends.

Being Physical-

It's an expression of yourself.

You're not trying to accomplish anything.

you're doing it because YOU want to.

When should you be physical?

As soon as possible.

You don't want be another "girlfriend"

You want to be MAN TO WOMAN.

If you're not Physical,

you're not a Sexual Threat.

Women will vibe with you, but in a very platonic way.

You want her girlfriends to go- "Who is this guy!?"

Do the real thing.

Whatever your goal is, do the real thing.

Don't do fake things to prepare for the real thing, while fooling yourself that you're making progress in the real thing.

You're not.

I'll explain to you what I mean.

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I've taught thousands of people make smart decisions without getting lucky.

Here is a thread on 5 of the biggest reasons we fail to make effective decisions.

1. We’re unintentionally stupid

We like to think that we can rationally compute information like a computer, but we can’t. Cognitive biases explain why we made a bad decision but rarely help us avoiding them. Better to focus on these warning signs something is about to go wrong.

Warning signs you’re about to do unintentionally something stupid: You’re tired. You’re emotional, in a rush, distracted, operating in a group, or working with an authority figure.

The rule: Never make important decisions when you’re tired, emotional, distracted, or in a rush.

2. We solve the wrong problem.

The first person to state the problem rarely has the best insight into the problem. Once a problem is thrown out on the table however, our type-a problem solving nature kicks in and forget to ask if we’re solving the right problem.

Warning signs you’re solving the wrong problem: You let someone else define the problem for you. You’re far away from the problem. You’re thinking about the problem at only one level or through narrow lenses.

The rule: Never let anyone define the problem for you.

#nofgm thread about immediately after I was mutilated . Especially me how I felt. Trigger warning.
So first My body was raging with pain. My soul was crushed. My humanity was protesting

Smell of blood was absolutely engulfing and horrific . I was violently shaking. I i didn't have any control over my body. Every move my body made. It was extra sharp pain which was everywhere. I just wanted my body to stop just for a minute so that I can catch my breath.

Then the cutter is screaming that if I don't stop shaking .my stitched will come out and she will have to stitch me up. But I can't control how my body is reacting,I can't. I cant scream either
My voice is gone from screaming. I am swimming in the river of pain.

I am confused. I can't look at my mother or my unty. I am in so much pain that I pray to die. Cant take it. The Hut is my butchery Hut. The sun hits and the smell of blood is horrific. I can't stop smelling it. I am only 6yrs. Just tender age of
6yrs. I am surrounded

By family yet I am on a desert island just me and my pain. Why I ask in my head
Million thoughts running through my head. Why was I ignored when I scream. What was this .why did it happened. Why am I hurting this much. Million whys no answer

fuck this guy for pulling this shit when I have a deadline honestly

Hi there, I work in ag!

I also do canvassing in rural areas, including knocking doors in Bladen county NC- home of the NC-09 election fraud.

You have no idea what you're on about.

I see a new-ish home on a private tract of land. Not a moldering old trailer on a rented plot in a park.

I see TWO big pickup trucks, one of which seems to have a motorcycle or ATV in the back.

I see a satellite dish and the dude's got his own dumpster.

I see a lot of coolers, a grill, yard tools, & racist flags in mint condition. That takes effort- those things fade fast.

This is the home of someone who spends a lot of time and $ on leisure! This right here is a country playboy.

"Radicalized by economic circumstances" ayfkm

If you stop & actually look at the stuff that's strewn around by the porch, it's not junk. It's in good condition.

It's strewn around and the window's broken because THIS HOME JUST GOT RAIDED BY THE FBI

NOT BECAUSE IT'S THE AVATAR OF YOUR WHITE-TRASH FANTASIES

Did you know that almost half the population of Bladen County works in the pork industry?

Most of them work in the Tar Heel plant, aka the largest slaughterhouse in the world. It's 20 minutes from our house.

So let's talk what RURAL POVERTY looks like. 'Cause this ain't it.

All relationship advice that focuses on “doing stuff for each other” is superficial and is unlikely to yield a lasting result. Satisfying each other’s material desire and playing into tropes seen on tv and movies just makes bad relationships feel bearable.

Only when the two people are joined on the basis of the spirit can true understanding of the other be achieved. Genuine compassion between lovers only happens when the fulfillment of material and mental expectations planted in us by the world become secondary to our devotion.

Worldly relationships are just that, worldly. They function only to temporarily relieve the general physical discomforts of existence.

A relationship based on the spirit is one that honours the flesh but is not of it.

When we are willing to put aside our demands of our husbands and wives to soothe attachments or urges, we can begin to build a union based on service and duty to one another. Wherein all needs are still met but the meeting of those needs are no longer the point of being together.

You do things for each other because you aren’t functioning as two separate people with separate needs. When spirits join taking care of one another is synonymous with taking care of oneself.

My happiness is not isolated from my husbands happiness and vice versa.

TW: Abuse

[THREAD] Let's talk about recognizing signs of emotional abuse. For a lot of people, it can be hard to recognize those signs, especially early on, or we may not realize what they were until we have suffered under them and it affected our mental health.

For the most part, people who engage in a lot of emotional abuse won't show it at the very beginning. They need feelings to develop or an attachment to happen in order to be able to show those signs when it is harder for the other person to leave. It can also be progressive.

However, there are some ways to recognize those signs early on. One of the main ones is how these people talk about others they shared a relationship with in the past. If every ex was a bad person or every friendship has issues, then it is generally a bad sign.

This is especially true for men who may badmouth women they have been it by calling them names that are not worth typing. That's a big red flag because it means that this man is likely to be the bad person here. They may be volatile even in their friendships.

They seemingly seem to lose friends quickly and get new ones quickly. This is because these friends may recognize the toxic tendencies of the person and leave them, and they constantly have to integrate with new people that they want to use for one purpose or another.

Trying to get my husband a Christmas present: a thread.

My husband is very hard to shop for. He is quite particular and buys everything he wants for himself anyway. But THIS year, he mentioned one thing one time, and it was perfect. All-weather mats for the Jeep. Great!

I'm texting the whole family like I'm pitching a multi-level marketing scheme. I am offering YOU the opportunity to get in on the ground floor and sponsor a floor mat and finally get this man something he actually needs and wants. Let me take this off your Christmas plate.

I have my friend @okmaher order the mats for me so it doesn't show up on the credit card. Oh, we are so clever! Surely, the mats will arrive at my home in a nondescript box just like every other Christmastime order!

Car dealership: Pulls up to the house, knocks on the door, and hands my husband a clear plastic bag full of cargo liner and floor mats. For those who do not know me, I am very invested in surprises, and clearly I need better op-sec. This was a stroke of bad luck.

But I have another Christmas present idea. And this one is EPIC. For those who don't know my story, I was married before, for 4 years to my 1st husband, Jake, who passed away suddenly in 2015. We had a beautiful, sassy 2-year-old daughter and I was pregnant with our second.

Our inflated bios, our curated images, our growth addictions, our me-ministries, our carnal networking, our jealous hearts, our talent-idolatry, our unsubtle platform-building, our fear of going unnoticed, our internal scoffing at small things—what have we become?

Why don't we notice anymore? Why don't we care? Do we think Jesus isn't serious? Do we think he's not really coming back? Do we think we won't stand before him?

Do we even stop and think at all anymore, or do we just do what others seem to be doing?

"There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death" (Proverbs 14:12).

There are some things that Jesus says that are mysterious. These are not in that category: "Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven" (Matt 5:3). "Those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted" (Matt 23:12).

It's Christmastime. We talk about the manger—dirty! Bethlehem—small! Shepherds—dingy! Mary—disrespected! "No crib for a bed," we sing. "Mild he lays his glory by," we sing. God the Son—blindingly humble! But do we realize this story is the "master story" of the Christian life?

A list of questions and checks to help you see if you should automate a process or not.

I've had a lot of people asking for this.

This is just what I use.

1st half are open-ended questions for exploration
2nd half are rankings for prioritization.

Hope this helps you!

1. Do I understand what I am automating?

Often times we think we are automating a process, but instead, we may be automating a destructive pattern.

Do it manually for a few weeks.

Dont perpetuate bad actions.

Go through the learning as a person, automate what you learned.

Example:

If you are filtering people for hire, and you automate right off the bat, you may automate based on the wrong criteria.

Its better to filter manually, do some calls, have some interviews, and adjust the process a bit until you are automating the right thing.

2. What do I gain?

Automating, just to automate is not useful. It just creates another system to maintain without any upside.

Each automation adds to the complexity of your business process. As complexity increases, so does areas for breakage and unintended consequences.

3. What do I lose?

Every automation results in loss.

Proximity to the process.

You may miss a "regime shift" as things change.

You may lose closeness to your customers and personal interaction.

You miss an understanding of your operation as it grows or changes.

A #thread about #autistic #meltdown. One of the reasons I can suddenly and unexpectedly become overwhelmed is the difficulty I have monitoring how distressed I am. The tipping point when things kilter out of control is as much a surprise to me as it is to other people.
#autism
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Emotional regulation is difficult when I’m not fully aware of how emotions are making me feel, until overwhelmed. And for me the ‘why’ is always important. My mind wrestles with possible explanations for feelings that are strong but confusing.
#AllAutistics
#ActuallyAutistic
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Like many #autistic people I find that past #trauma often intrudes on the present. Analysis and recognition of patterns is how I best understand human behaviour. Something happening now that maps onto ways in which I was bullied previously can be utterly terrifying.
#bullying
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The way I process things as an autistic person means that there’s often a lag in making sense of what’s going on. The thing that completes the picture and tips me into #meltdown can be so slight as to seem ridiculous. The proverbial straw that breaks the camel’s back.
#autism
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For me #autistic meltdown is a huge release of energy. A catharsis so intense it sometimes feels unsurvivable. The aftermath is the complete opposite. Total physical and mental exhaustion. Since my #autism diagnosis I’ve become far more analytical about why I was overwhelmed.
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Most think the youngest age it's appropriate to talk about race is age 5 or so, as they are ready to start kindergarten. This is too late.
A short thread.

We have years and years of research on children and their recognition of race. We know that 3-month-old babies already show preferences for faces that reflect specific racial groups.

By 9 months, children begin to categorize faces by perceived race-- this person is White, this person is Black. And by 3 years old, they are already associating Black faces with negative traits.

By age 4, a year before most people think it's appropriate to talk to kids about race, children already link White people with higher status and wealth.

By the time kids enter elementary school, researchers find that race-based discrimination is everywhere. Just as parents are beginning to have conversations about race, their children are already stereotyping others because of their color.

My 2020 recap

-a thread-

Well, i think this year isn't the hardest, but it's most likely heartbeating.

Feels like when i'm at the highest latitude on a roller coaster, then the gravity suddenly swallowing me, endless.

January was just the rest of 2019 struggle. Such a thesis revision and etc.

February, was a celebration. And also, a new beginning.

Glorious moment covered with a clueless story. When i got my first (but second actually) interview, with one of the most agritech in jkt.

I thought that i was well prepared. But..

2 weeks later, i got rejected. But that's the sweetest one. They kindly having me during the interview session.

There's this young couple I have known for a while. I see the way they dote on each other.

It is very rare you see the husband without the wife and even if the wife appeared first, the husband was never far behind.

During church service you would see them eyeing each other.

I recall during a Sunday Service in which his wife was to take the Bible Reading, I could remember him blowing her a phantom kiss as she climbed the pulpit.

It was her blush and smile that made me look at him only to see him making faces at her.

It was beautiful.

As Men's fellowship leader back then, I teased him a lot and told him in all honesty how many men are learning how to treat their wives.

He sighed and said "Bro., it was not always like that initially. Our first year as a married couple was a disaster".

"Let me tell you a story and then you would understand why I cherish this woman so. I know that God has said a husbands should love their wives but I never understood that love". He said.

Deep down, I was always afraid I would make a bad husband and an even terrible father.

During our first year, this man you are looking like this had been celibate for 4 years since I met my wife.

No other woman interested me - NONE! However, as I got married, my ex came out of nowhere and we opened communication.

I told myself "Nothing can happen".

I was wrong