Top 2020 Relationship Lessons From Solomon Buchi. PART 1

1. No matter how much you love a toxic person, no amount of love can repaint the red flags.

2. It’s one thing for someone to show toxic traits and they make effort to change after you call them out, and it’s another thing for someone to have a consistent toxic pattern. Run away from the latter.

3. Trying to save a toxic relationship or trying to change an abusive person is a trauma response. It’s a way of feeling better by repressing your own trauma by playing SAVIOR for others.

4. Believe people when they show you who they really are. Many times what we call “giving people benefit of doubt” is our way of disrespecting our own boundaries with a delusional belief that they’d change.

5. Don’t ever get into any relationship without defining it. No matter how casual it is, set boundaries, know what you’re doing. Don’t assume the other person knows what you want because you spend long hours on the phone or you share stuff. Define it verbally.