Ten components of being compassionate to yourself:

1. Self-friendship: treat yourself at least as well as you would treat a friend who is going through the same situation

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2. Worthiness: remember that you have value (as all people do), and that your happiness and preferences matter.

3. Self-talk: notice when you are saying something mean to yourself (aloud, or in your head), and rephrase it in a gentler, kinder, more considerate way.

4. Connectedness: reflect on the fact that, whatever challenge you are facing, there are others who are also facing a similar challenge. You are not alone in your pain.

5. Change: note that everything changes with time. If you are dealing with feelings that are difficult to stand at this moment, they will subside. This too shall pass. Things are usually not as important or permanent as they seem to us in the moment that we are focused on them.

6. Self-empathy: orient towards yourself with tenderness, understanding and compassion, especially when you are suffering. Take on the perspective that you would towards a child or loved one that was hurting.

#SundayMotivation

I read yesterday about the #PowerOfBlessings and felt it was #TooGoodNotToShare

Do you #BlessOrCurse?

When something goes wrong do you bless it or curse it?

Our natural reactions often lead us towards the negative, but that will only breed more negativity.

Catherine Ponder in her book, _'The Prosperity Secrets of the Ages', talks about blessing people and the situation. It is a very powerful tool and brings instant success manifold. It is a very simple way to say a positive prayer for someone or something.

One of Catherine Ponder’s favourites is “I bless you, and bless you for the goodness of God that is within you.”

You can #CreateYourOwnBlessings

When you are sending positive thoughts and vibrations towards a person they are much more likely to respond in kind.

It always has much better results than cursing them

When to use blessings?

1.Anytime when you are angry at someone or can’t seem to settle a disagreement with them.

In Catherine’s book, she cites several examples of people being paid debts owed to them once they blessed the debtor and saw them as prosperous and able to pay.

2.Any part of your body that experiences pain or illness can be blessed. U can bless yourself & your own emotions too.

One thing I am grateful about is the ability I have always had to keep living my life on my own terms without being drawn into trends. I am an obsessive extremist. I don't do middle ground obsession. When I love something, I don't do half measures. I can also do dislike that way.

What I have learned is that there are some trends you can't avoid even when you don't like the hype around them. One of those trends is crypto.

My boss @osuide ALWAYS without fail, predicts big things in tech. He introduced me to the Internet with my first infoweb account.

He introduced me to crypto too in spite of my misgivings. I bought $300 bitcoin and promptly lost it. The fact that I could lose something valuable that easily was my pain. I didn't at first see the bigger picture of custody aggregation. This was before coinbase became a thing.

I had actually searched for the domains ”bitbase” and ”coinbase” and maybe I even owned one of both domains at some point, I can't remember. I was, however, a very early adopter who dropped off when it seemed to become a fad. I was even on some ICO advisory board at some point.

I remember I wrote to @iaboyeji and @TechProd_Arch to take it seriously at Flutterwave. I also had a chat with one of the founders of the local exchanges about not using the .ng domain and using .africa to avoid the Nigerian government and their potential issues.

You can always keep track of things like your money and solve certain real-life problems by putting things in an equation and then resolving them.

Knowing the algebra is something that people should do to achieve it to find a good job and for success in college, as well as life. Learn mathematics such as algebra and arithmetic now because as time passes, it becomes more difficult to learn things.

So I met her. An old writer.
She said to me, I have read some of your stories and I must say, you write so well. I gave her a smile with my hands held together in much appreciation.

I like the way you speak, your voice is pleasing. I said to her.

And she laughed. This is how happy I am when I read you Mr Akeju.

I told her I didn't know it would be much fun visiting her and having a chat.

Well, Many young people believe we old ones are boring, She said.

True. Very true!

You know, I wish I can still write like I used to one more time.

I kept listening.

I have this story, my life story I will love to share with you.

It will be a great privilege to hear you share your life story, I said.

She chuckled, and then gave a face in deep thought.

Many many years ago as an undergraduate student in the university of Lagos. I met a guy. He was in my faculty.
That evening, he walked up to me while I was with my friends. He was so gentle in his approach and in a good manner requested I give him a few minutes.

30 things you can do that might help #autistic people in your lives.

A thread. Please read and share widely, and add to it as you see fit.

#autism #autistic

1. Let us decompress in quiet areas when we need to. Our desire to be alone is not judgement on you, it's simple self preservation. #autism

2. If you need us to do something, give us very clear, unambiguous instruction. Don't feel like you're being rude doing this, but don't sound irritated or patronising! #autism

3. Do not expect us to react to things in a way you would expect. That way lies disappointment. We often show our emotions in very different ways to what you might expect. #autism

4. Don't assume we aren't capable of thought and feeling if we're non-verbal. Don't assume we're incapable of communicating in other ways either. #autism

Absolutely KILL it this year in 6 steps

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*this does not just apply for 2021

You can do this at anytime but this is what my content will be focused on this year.

LET'S GO!

1. Agency work

You're going to
>> learn a skill on the side
>> learn a few outreach channels
>> learn how to close clients
>> learn how to price your skill at $1500+ min.
>> learn how to automate the process
>> learn how to outsource work

Est. time?
3-6 months

2. Build your network

You're going to
>> focus your timeline on a theme
>> tech, marketing, biz, health, fitness, etc.
>> consistently post value 3-5x a day
>> comment insight, not repetition
>> interact with similar accounts
>> network in DMs

Est. time?
6-12 months

3. Learn copywriting

You're going to
>> create an organized swipe file
>> screenshot every ad that made you click
>> screenshot every tweet that went viral
>> hand write copy for sample products
>> focus on action, emotion, and concision

Est. time?
Forever

99% of young men lack proper guidance..

Want to live a badass life?

Then continue reading.

[ 7 Changes Young Men can make to Become Absolutely Unstoppable ]

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1 - NEVER CHASE WOMEN

Wanna know the #1 way to never get laid?

- Chase women.

You want women to come to YOU.

Become a high-value man and you will achieve this.

• Lift
• Read
• Make money
• Keep quiet while doing it

Most women have 20 different guys in their comments at all times..

“ Soooo beautiful 😻”

“ Let me take you outtt 👀”

“ Damnnnn 🔥❤️”

The thought of dating one of these guys makes women want to puke.

Work on yourself first.
The women will come... HA

2 - READ

Reading downloads information to your brain.

Doesn’t matter if it’s positive information or negative information.

Read something enough and it will become a part of your subconscious mind.

(My advice👇)

Pick 4-5 books and read them religiously.

Not once.
Not twice.
But a few times each year.

Taking action on a few books is far better than reading 100 books and not acting at all.

(A few of my favorites) 👇

One evolution in my thinking over the last ~5 years is that I now hate High Theory

I find a few other people using the phrase, but no crisp definitions so I'm going to attempt one.

It will necessarily be wrong

...if I claimed it was simple AND correct IT WOULD BE A HIGH THEORY

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A "high theory" is an explanation of multiple phenomena using a simple (low Kolmogorov complexity) explanation, often coupled with an appeal to essentialism.

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A trailer park example of High Theory is "Jews pull all the strings" or "whites are better than blacks in every way".

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A mid brow example of High Theory is "Christianity caused the dark ages and delayed Real Civilization by 1,000 years".

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High brow examples of High Theory are whatever most philosophers are nattering on about, and anything 1 or 2 steps removed from a TED talk.

@naval returned to @tferris show to talk about science, happiness, reducing anxiety, and crypto

Key Takeaways:

Sequels suck because they cost 3x as much and have less time to come up with a good idea

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Loves Richard Feynman because he did science and serious work but was a character who didn’t take himself to seriously. “A full stack intellectual hacker of life”

“Believing in science” is misguided. Science doesn’t need belief. If it’s not falsifiable, it’s not science.

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“If there was no truth to it, it wouldn’t hurt at all. If I said Tim Ferris is fat, that would just bounce right off of you. If I said Tim Ferris and Naval are fake gurus, that might hit us because we kind of suspect at some deep level, there’s a part of that that’s true.”

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“Individuals can search for truth but groups search for consensus...The moment you make science about large groups and about voting and about consensus, you’re not really practicing science anymore.”

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“In an ideal scientific world, you don’t go and survey 10,000 scientists. You pick the one smartest scientist.”

Jargon is useful when it is a compressed way of communicating knowledge. Jargon is not useful when it becomes a substitute for fundamental understanding.

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Listening to your body isn't just a cliche. It's a skill.

The better our ability to read our internal signals, the better our performance and decision making, as well as lower anxiety.

When there's a disconnection, the opposite occurs.

In running, the better you're able to sync internal signals of effort and fatigue, the better you are at pacing to maximize performance.

In stock traders, a better ability to read inner signals predicted profitability:

In everyday life, research suggests that a large difference between perceived and actual ability to listen to your body's inner signals predicts more anxiety

A dysfunction in this ability, called interoception, is linked to a slew of mental health issues:

The good news is it's trainable. If you're an endurance athlete, you know this. You've learned to distinguish what different sensations of pain and fatigue mean. What's normal, and what could mean injury or worse.

The same applies to our everyday life. Learn to listen.

One of my favourite parts of AAS meetings is attending plenaries way out of my subfield. Pleased to be able to still do that virtually #AAS237 -in "Comets, Unseen Planets, and the Outer Fringes of the Solar System", by Scott Tremaine.

I never thought about how comet brightness depends on distance^4 - 2 powers from the Sun to the comet, and 2 powers back to us on Earth.

Short period comets (P<20 yrs) are mostly found in/near the plane of the Solar system, while long period comets come from a roughly spherical blob around the Sun. Cool.

I enjoyed the G=M=1 explanation of Orbital Energy = 1 for the Earth (in theorist units!).

Cool - Tremaine explaining that the existence of the Oort cloud (as a set of comets bound to the Sun by gravity) rules out some alternative models of gravity! I love things like that.

Kanyini Prayer… For the World…

On behalf of all of us of indigenous ancestry from the First Peoples of Australia, to all the great Creators of Nature, who have always loved us without condition throughout all our natural life and beyond, I offer this prayer:

I have a message to all you who told us to remain inactive, or those that told us to stand down when emotions were high THREAD

In 1746 in West Africa, a child is playing on the banks of a stream. He's trying to catch a moorhen. It sounds picturesque, but within seconds this little boy will be abducted. He will be shipped across the globe to North Wales. This is the story of John Ystumllyn.

#thread

He is taken far from his home, far from everything and everyone he knows. Eventually, he arrives in Ynyscynhaiarn, Gwynedd to work for the Wynne family. We don’t know what name his parents had given him, but the Wynnes named him ‘John Ystumllyn’ after their estate.

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If you’ve been watching #AHouseThroughTime you'll have seen the story of Thomas, a black boy who was a 'servant' of a family in Bristol until he ran away in 1759. Boys like Thomas often appeared in portraits and still-life paintings in this period.

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The paintings were displayed as status symbols to highlight a family’s wealth and connections to overseas trade. In 1754, John had his portrait painted. Presumably it hung in the Wynne’s home. A novelty in North Wales, he became known as Jack Du, or in English, Jack Black.

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When John arrived at Ynyscynhaiarn, he was possibly as young as 8, and ‘had no language other than sounds similar to the howling of a dog’. We can only begin to imagine how lonely and terrifying it must have been in a completely unfamiliar place with no way to communicate.

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5 ways to succeed in your youth

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I- Investment

Investment is a necessary factor for your good development.

If you want to grow your income, you will have to invest.

This step is not optional.

You are often told to save money, this is bullshit.

The value of your money will decrease every year.

II- Be fearless

Fear is man's worst enemy.

It gnaws at him until it makes him a docile person.

Risks must be part of your daily life.

If you don't take them, you don't move forward.

The best way to learn is to fail.

THREAD: It’s time to clarify an ethical stance regarding QAnon, and those who research and report on it. It is a disease — a mind virus — with real victims, people who have been lied to and alienated from their families and communities.

2/ First, we must help the victims, and focus on helping them restore their bonds to family and community. Second, we must hold the perpetrators accountable. Third, we must shun all those who profit from its continuance.

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A JENLISA ONE-SHOT where sometimes, we can't just hate the person we used to love.

"But I know I was happier with you."

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