When you have deep relationship problems with a woman, you fix it by love bombing her not through honest dialogue, because hurt women are selfish. They don't give a fuck about the pain they caused (hers matters more), and they don't want to hear an analysis of how they fucked up.
Women have no sense of honour in thinking "I've hurt this man, I need to make sure he will be alright"
No. She will absorbed in her own pain, you will not even be a consideration.
And you causing her additional stress by being mad at her and seeking answers only pushes her further away.
She will never meet your needs and right her wrongs.
See why they're beneath us now?
Basically, it's all on you. Completely and utterly. Women are nowhere near as good at fixing things as they are at breaking them.
In reality, it leads nowhere.
Try it, and watch an argument unfold.
You can never get your justice from them for the wrongs they've caused you.
So forgiveness is down to you.
Can you forgive her?
You make her feel like she is the most special girl in the world, despite everything that happened. That it was a mistake. That you miss her.
She will eat this up.
Not because any real actual underlying problems were solved, but because she feels more positively about you now.
When you kept trying to solve the real actual problems, you just made her feel worse, so she avoided you.
Women are selfish and shit at handling stress. It sucks.
Your woman will hurt you, this will damage you, you will seek justice and closure in your anger against her, and she will deny you this because she's too overwhelmed by negative emotion to accept, and act upon the truth.
This is why women never give you justice. Ever. Whatever they fuck up, they do not fix.
She hurt you? You have to fix it. Yeah, it sucks. But she won't.
If you can forgive her, she's worth love bombing.
You accepted her limitations and fucked nature, and love her enough regardless to work around it.
You can "fix things" by making her feel good by making her feel loved.
You will always want justice, and you will never get it. Whenever you get mad, your resentment will bubble up and cause more and more frequent arguments. You will be unhappy together.
A relationship cannot survive resentment.
For the source of that resentment to give you closure for it, apologise and take active measures going forward to counteract whatever it is that upsets you so much
Or for you to accept what happened and forgive who wronged you
And if you can forgive, the most effective way to reconcile is to love bomb.
Being understood? Justice? Forget it. She isn't capable.
Make her feel good, enjoy each other & let the bullshit fade away
Until next time
She is instinctually compelled to preserve a positive self-image, undermining that in anyway makes her defensive or avoidant, even if you're simply stating things she actually said and did and how those things were damaging.
So avoid focusing on the truth and getting justice, and instead prioritise the outcome you seek. If you want to stay with her, subdue your own negative emotions through forgiveness, meditation etc and feed her positive emotions to rekindle the romance.
If you want to win, and I assume winning means having an enjoyable romance with them, you have to accept their limitations and manipulate them.
Remember, in good times, even if there is a meeting of the minds between you both, that she will be nowhere to be found in bad times.
This is their nature. Even the best of them.
I'd like to think women are more able to fulfil us as men, and do and treat and be better for us, and to us.
But this is not the reality.
We are their caretakers, they aren't ours.