If you are compromising too much, there is a chance that you are getting manipulated.
Why are you the one that's always compromising?
How come the other person always gets their way?
Be more curious.
If something seems off, stick up for yourself.
I have no clue, that is only something that you can decide for yourself.
'Dang is there anything I need to look out for?'
But let me give you a few things to look out for.
'How come people don't leave when it's happening to them?'
Because most people have 0 clue that they are being manipulated.
You ever made a mistake around someone, only for them to hold it over your head?
The will always bring up the mistake when you 2 are not seeing eye to eye.
These people will use that mistake as leverage to get what they want from you in the future.
This person will commit the worst acts & find a way to rationalize it.
Example: cheaters when they get caught.
They have every excuse in the book for why they did it.
Heck, they are so good at rationalizing, they will make it seem like your fault.
This person will always bust out flirty, seduction tactics to get what they want.
They will bust out these moves when they did something devious so you forget what they just did.
The weak-minded fools let their temptations overpower their judgment.
By far one of the hardest ones to spot.
This person always plays dumb.
They play dumb so much that you start believing they are dumb.
They are playing dumb for a malicious reason.
Playing dumb to get something out of you
Listen to your gut on this one
Ah.. the shamer.
Always being a virtue signaling shithead.
Never mind their mistakes they say.
They just focus on yours.
Shamers reduce their targets self-esteem & then toy with them like a puppet.
These people don't technically lie.
But they leave out crucial information.
They strategically leave out information in order to paint a narrative.
The narrative is set to paint them as some saint & you as someone who is worried about nothing.
So many fall victims to this that its sad.
This group will yo-yo your emotions.
One second they are showing you all the love in the world.
Colder than the movie Frozen.
Seriously, these people cannot be fixed.
Rotten to the core.
When these people get caught doing something shady, they are MASTERS in diverting attention.
I've seen someone once lie and say their mom had a 'fatal' sickness when they were caught red-handed.
They have 0 integrity when diverting attention.
You ever met someone who was always beefing, but seemed soo sweet?
All an act.
This person knows exactly how to act like a sweet little angel.
They know how to leverage this innocence to get what they want.
But in reality, a demon hides behind that angel face
By far the scariest one for many.
This group unleashes their anger at anyone that comes at them.
They leave their victim too scared to ever call them out, even when they did something wrong.
Well, now you have a choice.
'And what is that?'
What are you going to do about it?
You are being played.
Are you going to stay & be a victim or muster up enough courage to leave?
The choice is 100% yours.
I am looking out for you.
Now, look out for yourself.
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And in many cases it can be both.
'So what do I do?'
You learn the 75/25 law.
'What is that?'
The law of charisma...👇
Let's address the over thinkers first.
Do you have any idea why you overthink?
'Yea. Because others are judging how shy I am.'
Others are thinking about themselves, not you.
But the fact that you think they are thinking about you, you fuck up the interaction.
Now you stay in your head too much & avoid the present moment.
A major no no in the social world.
Your tendency to think that others are judging you for being shy, coincidentally makes you more shy.
And that's when you start giving off a strange vibration to the social setting.
This is when you begin attracting comments like 'why are you so quiet?'
This is why a lot of high IQ people lack social intelligence.
They talk to humans like robots & are baffled when they are resented for it.
This is why the charismatic person who knows less often rises up quicker
'What you smoking bro?? My IQ will be the biggest factor of my success!'
That's a limiting belief.
I'm gonna shake up your paradigm real quick 👇
You have been conditioned your entire life to believe that IQ score alone will dictate success.
And like most people, we were like 'yea, sure!'
But there's few incorrect thought patterns here
1. Success is subjective.
2. IQ exam insinuates intellect is fixed.
3. Your high IQ won't make others give a fuck, your communication will.
Let's go thru each one
1. Success is subjective
What I consider success may not be success for you.
Success it's a mirror image of where you are & where you want to be.
Aka sense of self.
So measuring success starts from looking within, not an exam.
Your readers need to be able to empathize with your main character, otherwise they will not continue reading.
Best way to make them empathize is by making your character relatable.
By giving your character flaws.
Make them human.
Just to add on.
Your antagonist or villian should have a desirable quality.
For example: an evil villian that has a lot of riches.
Giving your villian some pros makes the reader root for your antagonist even more.
Face it, humans are drawn to flaws over perfection.
But a main character with negative traits & a villain with positive traits creates magic.
Counterintuitive, I know.
But you are creating friction.
You are sparking dual emotions in your readers.
This will make the readers go on an emotional roller coaster.
This is just one of the many principles of storytelling
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Too many patterns leads to a boring, predictable, logical lifestyle.
Get the emotions involved.
Do something spontaneous out of the blue moon & flip the script.
'What's wrong with the patterns?'
Nothing is wrong with patterns.
However, there is a problem when all you have are patterns.
'Can you explain why?'
The thing with relationships is that it's meant to be an emotional experience.
It's very difficult to logically explain love, right?
Well this is where you want to steer the ship the right way.
1. Too emotional is bad.
2. Too logical is bad.
Let me break it down.
1. Too emotional
If a relationship is completely ruled by emotions, then it's too volatile.
You will never reach productivity if you are aimlessly only following each others emotions.
This lifestyle tarnishes any structure for the couple.
'So why do people do it?'
Because it's fun.
You may ruled by this stage in the honeymoon phase.
You'll be so spontaneous that it almost becomes a lifestyle.
But it's hard to level up your life when you're too spontaneous.
When you procrastinate, you are focusing too much on the big tasks.
Focus on the small tasks & build up.
Ex: instead of focusing on getting the entire blog done, do 1 paragraph.
You will strangely want to complete another paragraph...
Bonus Hack: Song
Have one song that gets you hyped up.
Promise yourself after playing the song 2-3 times, you will immediately begin.
No questions asked.
The song amps up your emotions & you approach the task with energy.
Bonus Hack: Game
Turn mundane tasks into a game.
Use your creativity.
If you’re a gamer, break tasks into levels & kill each boss.
If you like music, reward yourself with a song after each completion.
Challenge: Aim to do some pushups or pullups after each crossed off goal.
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The beauty of twitter is that you can hang with anyone.
The problem is ppl follow the wrong accounts. It's noisy as f*ck.
Here's 27 people you should follow (and why)👇
If you hang with smart, interesting, successful people - you will start to think & talk that way too.
We are monkeys that copy what we see. You can fight it, or use that to your advantage by surrounding yourself with people who you want to become more like.
Group 1: Smart, Rich, & Don't Give a F*ck (no filter)
@chamath - was early FB, has big balls, bet early on Bitcoin & SPACs
@rabois - kind of a dick but he's clearly smart
@balajis - this guy is from the future, and has come back in time to tell us what's going to happen
BTW - I'm recommending people who are:
* say interesting things
* successful (not just talkers)
Plenty of people are 2 of 3.
You need ALL 3 to make the list
Group 2: Business Buyers - they see the $$$s of 100s of businesses a year.
@awilkinson - built a $200M+ empire of internet businesses
@BrentBeshore - same as^, but non internet (unsexy) biz (eg. swimming pool repair, port-a-potty rentals)
@XavierHelgesen - he does both
I was 18, when my first cousin morphed my face with that of a male school friend in extremely compromising position.
Very believable for anyone without knowledge of tech.
I was devastated. This was a brother I looked upto. This was the brother I had given my laptop to so he could apply for jobs. And on the same laptop, he made those photographs of me, his younger sister.
Why did he do that? He was kicked out of his house by his family after he married a girl w/o their consent. He was homeless, so my parents let him stay with us till my his family cools down & accepts them back. After 6 months, he felt threatened he'd be asked to leave our place.
So one day, he confronts my parents, infront of me, with those pictures and shows those photographs, with clear terms - pay him & his wife a fixed amount every month, let them stay at our home or he would leak those pictures everywhere.
I still remember he explained how he would distribute those pictures on the day they would get me married 😂
I don't know how any other parent from lower middle class would have reacted to this. But I remember how my parents did, that changed my relationship with them forever.
For some #autistic people, what neurotypicals might interpret as mild pain actually feels like sensory hell. Some autistic people are really sensitive to pain. #autism /2
It's important that medical professionals understand this. Even if they think that it's mild pain, it's actual sensory hell for the #autistic person.#autism /3
Medical professionals shouldn't accuse #autistic people of being "silly" or being "extra" if they are sensitive to pain. This has happened to me before. Medical professionals shouldn't invalidate the way autistic people perceive pain. #autism /4
Some medical professionals just don't have enough understanding of the way #autistic people perceive pain. I hope this thread will help them understand better. #autism /5
1 RT = 1 Life Lesson
First one is on the house.
Those you trust the most are those in the best position for betrayal.
Active listening is a false God.
Most people will waste your mental space.
If you want to say "no", dont use any other word.
Seeking approval is the first step to auto destruction
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There are two items worth pointing out: 1. This is an overview of the political, social, and cultural history of Islamicate societies. It does not deal with the origins of Islam or many theological questions. It does discuss Islam’s spread and the transformation of Islamic law.
2. This is the first part of a two-part sequence that takes the history of the Islamic world into the present. It emphasizes developments and themes that have particular relevance for later periods.
This is really a multivocal narrative of Islamic history. We feature over 20 scholars from almost as many institutions. Many of those who worked on it, myself included, study the early modern and modern era but have teaching obligations that take us further back in history.
Thanks to @chamath for laying this out in Social Capital's 2018 annual letter.
I've always appreciated his outspokenness.
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3/ Because of this, when the VC industry invests capital into fast growing startups today, the plurality (if not majority) of invested capital will go into user acquisition and ad spending, for better or worse— usually worse.
4/ Todays massive venture-backed advertising, sales, and user acquisition playbook has morphed into one that champions growth at any cost.
This is creating a big bill that will soon come due...
5/ Ad impressions and click-throughs are bid up to outrageous prices by startups flush with venture money, and prospective users demand more and more subsidized products to gain their initial attention.
So Heinlein had always been very interesting in the short parts of his novels, like the little snippets inside chapters. He had a very fun writing style, and wrote some fun dialogue with fun characters, right?>
It probably comes from how much of his early stuff was short fiction
And I think what happened with a lot of his longer works is that he'd just start writing fun bits and hope it would end up going somewhere or having a bigger plot by the end. like eventually he'd figure out where this was going, then go back and rewrite it into a cohesive whole
and I'm sure he had editors that'd help this process. No editor would let you publish something as rambly and changing-gears-every-other-chapter as The Number Of The Beast, for example... unless you were God-King Of Science Fiction 1980s Robert Heinlein.
so basically I think what happened is that by the 80s (when he was in his seventies!!) he lost the drive to go back and rewrite and he was too Untouchable for editors to make him.
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If everyone was holding bitcoin on the old x86 in their parents basement, we would be finding a price bottom. The problem is the risk is all pooled at a few brokerages and a network of rotten exchanges with counter party risk that makes AIG circa 2008 look like a good credit.— Greg Wester (@gwestr) November 25, 2018
The benign product is sovereign programmable money, which is historically a niche interest of folks with a relatively clustered set of beliefs about the state, the literary merit of Snow Crash, and the utility of gold to the modern economy.
This product has narrow appeal and, accordingly, is worth about as much as everything else on a 486 sitting in someone's basement is worth.
The other product is investment scams, which have approximately the best product market fit of anything produced by humans. In no age, in no country, in no city, at no level of sophistication do people consistently say "Actually I would prefer not to get money for nothing."
This product needs the exchanges like they need oxygen, because the value of it is directly tied to having payment rails to move real currency into the ecosystem and some jurisdictional and regulatory legerdemain to stay one step ahead of the banhammer.