Your readers need to be able to empathize with your main character, otherwise they will not continue reading.
Best way to make them empathize is by making your character relatable.
By giving your character flaws.
Make them human.
Your antagonist or villian should have a desirable quality.
For example: an evil villian that has a lot of riches.
Giving your villian some pros makes the reader root for your antagonist even more.
Face it, humans are drawn to flaws over perfection.
Counterintuitive, I know.
But you are creating friction.
You are sparking dual emotions in your readers.
This will make the readers go on an emotional roller coaster.
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If you read carefully, you will leave with many lessons for life
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And in many cases it can be both.
'So what do I do?'
You learn the 75/25 law.
'What is that?'
The law of charisma...👇
Let's address the over thinkers first.
Do you have any idea why you overthink?
'Yea. Because others are judging how shy I am.'
Others are thinking about themselves, not you.
But the fact that you think they are thinking about you, you fuck up the interaction.
Now you stay in your head too much & avoid the present moment.
A major no no in the social world.
Your tendency to think that others are judging you for being shy, coincidentally makes you more shy.
And that's when you start giving off a strange vibration to the social setting.
This is when you begin attracting comments like 'why are you so quiet?'
Ditch the 'does the crowd like me?' mentality.
Adopt the 'do I like the crowd?' mentality.
This mindset shift makes you feel more in control & powerful.
Here are a few more bonus tips for crowd control.
These tips will have you showing the audience that you control the room.
Every audience likes it when the speaker takes charge.
Use these moves in your next speech & dominate the big stage like a superstar!
1. Wait a few seconds before starting
Starting immediately makes you look needy.
The few second wait will builds hype & keeps the control in your favor.
'How long do you typically take?'
I take around 5-7 seconds to build the hype.
Find your sweet spot.
2. Take pauses
Many beginning speakers are terrified of pauses.
They think they will be exposed as a fraud whenever there is silence.
Pauses sound longer to you than it does for the audience.
An audience loves a speaker who pauses rather than a turbo talker.
3. Body Language
Your body is crucial to delivery.
Luckily you always have control over it.
As you begin, your body may become smaller, you will cover your torso more, and will look down.
Chest out, chin up, open palms, strong eye contact & walk with purpose soldier.
This is why a lot of high IQ people lack social intelligence.
They talk to humans like robots & are baffled when they are resented for it.
This is why the charismatic person who knows less often rises up quicker
'What you smoking bro?? My IQ will be the biggest factor of my success!'
That's a limiting belief.
I'm gonna shake up your paradigm real quick 👇
You have been conditioned your entire life to believe that IQ score alone will dictate success.
And like most people, we were like 'yea, sure!'
But there's few incorrect thought patterns here
1. Success is subjective.
2. IQ exam insinuates intellect is fixed.
3. Your high IQ won't make others give a fuck, your communication will.
Let's go thru each one
1. Success is subjective
What I consider success may not be success for you.
Success it's a mirror image of where you are & where you want to be.
Aka sense of self.
So measuring success starts from looking within, not an exam.
If you are compromising too much, there is a chance that you are getting manipulated.
Why are you the one that's always compromising?
How come the other person always gets their way?
Be more curious.
If something seems off, stick up for yourself.
'Wait, you sure I am being manipulated?'
I have no clue, that is only something that you can decide for yourself.
'Dang is there anything I need to look out for?'
But let me give you a few things to look out for.
I see manipulation as skillfully controlling someone's behavior for egotistical or unethical purposes.
'How come people don't leave when it's happening to them?'
Because most people have 0 clue that they are being manipulated.
1. Guilt Trip
You ever made a mistake around someone, only for them to hold it over your head?
The will always bring up the mistake when you 2 are not seeing eye to eye.
These people will use that mistake as leverage to get what they want from you in the future.
2. The Rationalizer
This person will commit the worst acts & find a way to rationalize it.
Example: cheaters when they get caught.
They have every excuse in the book for why they did it.
Heck, they are so good at rationalizing, they will make it seem like your fault.
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Have you ever heard about,"The Golden Ratio"?
The Golden Ratio or Phi(Greek) is a mathematical ratio of nature. Mother Nature is the most exquisite artist in herself.
&Its this Phi she uses to create all the beauty in World.
If anyone uses this ratio correctly in their art,it can turn into a spell-binding piece of work.Such is the significance of'Phi'.But my thread isn't about it.Its about somethin called'Fibonacci Series'&who actually made it
Phi is related to Fibonacci series(0,1,1,2,3,5,8,13,21,34...)
&this series is responsible for everything dat is beautiful on this planet. Just try to calculate the ratio of any 2 successive numbers ÷ each of them by the number before it in above infinite series.
E.g. 3/2=1.5, 5/3=1.666, 8/5=1.6, 34/21=1.61904 and so on. Did you notice something? The ratio is coming almost same every time. This ratio is called 'Phi 'which is numerically represented as 1:1.618. This Golden Spiral is made in exact proportion of 1:1.618.
The thing I want to emphasize here is that we always find only those things appealing and attractive that have Phi. It's in our subconscious. Isn't it some revelation? We are the part of this Divine proportion of the God or the Mother Nature. Check these:
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Shri Krishna Leela
This is a beautiful story of Guruvayurappan. Once there lived in Guruvayur a poor family. Kitta, his wife & kids were struggling for their daily needs. With only a coconut tree in house, he earned a living by selling coconuts.
Kitta was from a low caste family. He was a great devotee of Guruvayurappan. Everyday before going to work he always prayed infront of a picture of Guruvayurappan in his house. His only wish was to worship at Guruvayur & have annadanam in temple. But he was not allowed there
It was Utsavam time in Guruvayur. From far behind kitta and family worshipped Guruvayurappan. Annadanam was given daily and no one was left empty stomach. Only Kitta didn't receive. That night, it was only Kitta's family who was sleeping without food. After temple nada closed
Shri Krishna, dressed himself as a Brahmin went to temple Kitchen. He packed food and went directly to kitta's house. Reaching Kitta's house, Shri Krishna told he was sent by a cook of Guruvayur temple and gave them the food he packed. Kitta and family was very happy seeing food.
When Kitta finished his food, Brahmin asked it will be better if he get a tender coconut( karikku)to drink. Kitta climbed the tree and gave all coconuts to him. After having 1 tender coconut, the Brahmin asked to bring remaining coconuts to Guruvayur temple the next day.
1. Internet Archive
It is a service that preserves archived content from the internet, including pdfs, ebooks, and sites that are no longer live.
It has books, movies, software, music, websites, and pretty much any media that could be uploaded on the internet.
It is a powerful tool for free online education and includes courses from top universities, museums, and trusts.
The site is useful if you’re looking to study many different topics, or want courses from different schools and groups.
3. Project Gutenberg
It is a library of quality books that covers almost every field of education
The site has over 60,000 public domain books in the catalog.
If you’re looking for great classic books, this is a great website.
It is a great site for movies, TV shows and watching live TV for free.
With over 50,000 shows and movies available and more being added all the time, Tubi TV is quickly growing to become a TV favorite for internet users everywhere.
Emperor Maandhata governed alongside his wife Indumathi, their three sons Purukutsa, Ambarisha, and Naabhaga, as well as fifty daughters, from their capital city of Ayodhya. The guru of the Rig Veda at that time was a famous sage by the name of Soubhari.
According to folklore, he performed penance for a period of twelve years underwater while a sizable fish lived nearby. In front of the Maharishi, that fish was always having fun with its wife and young ones.
Maharishi saw this, which caused him to lose focus on his penance. He began to consider: "This fish is extremely fortunate despite living in the water. It is quite content to spend undisturbed time with its family.
While the life of a housewife is undoubtedly quite lovely, my austere lifestyle is extremely painful.
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Seen a couple of these panels make the rounds from time to time, so here's the complete set of 10 (something to amuse and/or offend almost everyone).
Chapter 1: The Super Patriot
Chapter 2: The Ku Klux Klansman
Chapter 3: The American Student
Chapter 4: The Right-Wing Extremist
Like company moats, your personal moat should be a competitive advantage that is not only durable—it should also compound over time.
Characteristics of a personal moat below:
I'm increasingly interested in the idea of "personal moats" in the context of careers.— Erik Torenberg (@eriktorenberg) November 22, 2018
Moats should be:
- Hard to learn and hard to do (but perhaps easier for you)
- Skills that are rare and valuable
- Compounding over time
- Unique to your own talents & interests https://t.co/bB3k1YcH5b
2/ Like a company moat, you want to build career capital while you sleep.
As Andrew Chen noted:
People talk about \u201cpassive income\u201d a lot but not about \u201cpassive social capital\u201d or \u201cpassive networking\u201d or \u201cpassive knowledge gaining\u201d but that\u2019s what you can architect if you have a thing and it grows over time without intensive constant effort to sustain it— Andrew Chen (@andrewchen) November 22, 2018
3/ You don’t want to build a competitive advantage that is fleeting or that will get commoditized
Things that might get commoditized over time (some longer than
Things that look like moats but likely aren\u2019t or may fade:— Erik Torenberg (@eriktorenberg) November 22, 2018
- Proprietary networks
- Being something other than one of the best at any tournament style-game
- Many "awards"
- Twitter followers or general reach without "respect"
- Anything that depends on information asymmetry https://t.co/abjxesVIh9
4/ Before the arrival of recorded music, what used to be scarce was the actual music itself — required an in-person artist.
After recorded music, the music itself became abundant and what became scarce was curation, distribution, and self space.
5/ Similarly, in careers, what used to be (more) scarce were things like ideas, money, and exclusive relationships.
In the internet economy, what has become scarce are things like specific knowledge, rare & valuable skills, and great reputations.
The GRA of 2004 gave trans people the ability to change legal sex via a GRC, but only if they had a psychiatric diagnosis of dysphoria and only after having lived in role for 2 years. The spousal veto gave spouses a chance to annul or obtain a favourable divorce.
While this ultimately created the loophole in women's rights that we've been fighting against in the last few years, it catered for a tiny number of dysphoric transsexuals and so did not have an enormous impact.
Discussions with trans friends and allies make it clear that, although surgery wasn't a requirement for a GRC, the diagnostic procedures were expected to trap and exclude males who did not want surgery, thereby preventing fetishists and opportunists from exploiting a GRC.
The Equality Act of 2010 defined the various protected characteristics, including both sex and 'gender reassignment', and provided for sex-based exemptions, under the auspices of which it is legal to exclude trans people from some single-sex spaces and services.
Yahoo, who bought Tumblr years ago, used to have a huge adult presence on the early net. They allowed adult groups and what not.
However, people and bots (just like now) misused the service, and Yahoo were forced to make a choice. They made private the groups (and later closed them down and sold some of it to other companies) and then ended their chatrooms on yahoo messenger...
after a incident with one of the chatrooms vid cams. The damage was done, Yahoo Messenger lost a lot of people - and with the closing of the groups - backpage and Craigslist came more important.
Now backpage is no more and Craigslist is slowly passing away. Tumblr had a semi strong community, but once 2014 came around and both porn, and political bots exploded the quality started to go down,
Interestingly, this thread below has been written by that.
Let me show you how it looks like. 👇🏻
Recently I just refunded all Poster's sales from Gumroad. Being that said, I decided to not using that service anymore.— Wilbert Liu \U0001f468\U0001f3fb\u200d\U0001f3a8 (@wilbertliu) November 19, 2018
Here's a little story \U0001f447\U0001f3fb
When you see localhost up there, you should know that it's truly an experiment! 😀
It's a dead-simple thread writer that will post a series of tweets a.k.a tweetstorm. ⚡️
I've been personally wanting it myself since few months ago, but neglected it intentionally to make sure it's something that I genuinely need.
So why is that important for me? 🙂
I've been a believer of a story. I tell stories all the time, whether it's in the real world or online like this. Our society has moved by that.
If you're interested by stories that move us, read Sapiens!
One of the stories that I've told was from the launch of Poster.
It's been launched multiple times this year, and Twitter has been my go-to place to tell the world about that.
Here comes my frustration.. 😤