1/“What would need to be true for you to….X”

Why is this the most powerful question you can ask when attempting to reach an agreement with another human being or organization?

A thread, co-written by @deanmbrody:

Something I wish everyone knew: the bar's not as high as you think.

You can get that job, meet that person, start that company.

But because you think the bar's so high, you won't even try. Which is what makes the bar so low!

8 rules the top play by that those at the bottom should adopt.

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1. Leverage

Most poor people don't leverage. Trying to get everything done yourself will limit you to only how much you can do.

Get more hands working for you, and find a way to pay or show them what's in it for them.

2. Trust

When doing business, poor people would require collateral from strangers, but excuse those close to them because they *trust* them.

That's how you get scammed.

The unspoken rule is to know your safety net whenever you're not taking collateral.

Never need to trust.

3. Morality

Never seen a very successful businessman say "This is not a good thing, it's evil."

It's either good for business or bad for business. Its either effective or ineffective.

Morality will only limit you.

4. Reciprocity

Expecting someone to help you because you helped them in the past is ludicrous.

If you're no longer useful to them, people have no reason to help you.

"Whenever you see water flowing upstream it means someone it repaying a kindness."

— 48 Laws Of Power

10 easy steps to improve communication skills

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1) Learn The Basic Of Non-verbal Communications

It's not about what you say, it's how you say it.

For a clear and confident conversation, focus on your posture.

Avoid folding your arms or making your self smaller than you are.

Use your eye contact to break the gap.

2) Respect Your Audience

As a speaker, you should respect your audience.

They are here for you to listen. They want to listen to your ideas, so you must respect them.

Remember the quote “Give respect, Take respect“.

If you fail to give respect, they will not listen to you.

3) Ask for honest feedback

Whenever u have a conversation with anyone ask them about your mistakes, progress you have done in conversation.

This will help you in achieving your goals and by looking after your mistakes, you will learn them and improve it.

4) Maintain Eye Contact

Effective comm. is where the speaker makes eye contact with his audience.

The receiver starts trusting to him and shows interest in his words.

Maintaining eye contact builds credibility, and also it shows you care about your listeners.

Dear Jaime,

3 years ago your voice was silenced. I sent you and your brother to school to safely learn. I rushed you out the door that morning never expecting what would happen next. A school shooting!!! You were 14 and only a freshman in High School.

(1,11)

(2,11) Your brother Jesse survived…you did not.

You are on my mind every second of every minute of every day. I constantly relive your last seconds in my mind. Did you suffer? I will never know, but I fear that you did. Did I do enough to protect you?

(3,11) The answer is… No!!! I did not… and for that I will carry guilt for the rest of my life. My voice was not fighting the evil of gun violence before it was my daughter and for that I am sorry.

Today you should be a senior in school. We should be celebrating love.

(4,11) We should be looking at your senior pictures with you, watching you excitedly apply to colleges and helping you decide where to go. We should be excitedly looking forward to prom and I should be thinking about the advice I want to give you at graduation.

(5,11) While I am so happy to see all of your friends have these experiences, it breaks my soul to know that you are not part of that. Mom, Jesse and I won’t be able to watch you experience this with them. Every time I see posts with senior photos and college acceptances,