'So what do I do?'
You learn the 75/25 law.
'What is that?'
The law of charisma...👇
Shy people are either overthinking or highly observant of the social setting.
'So what do I do?'
You learn the 75/25 law.
'What is that?'
The law of charisma...👇
Do you have any idea why you overthink?
'Yea. Because others are judging how shy I am.'
Incorrect.
Others are thinking about themselves, not you.
Now you stay in your head too much & avoid the present moment.
A major no no in the social world.
And that's when you start giving off a strange vibration to the social setting.
This is when you begin attracting comments like 'why are you so quiet?'
It's YOU who did that.
When you have the awareness to realize that overthinking:
1. Is born from an illusion of being watched.
2. Attracts the wrong vibes
You become much more mindful & stay in the present moment.
Although their mouth isn't running, their mind is.
They pick up on social cues which are not being noticed by others.
This group of shy people are placing most of their attention on being aware rather than speaking
So this group has an edge in terms of social awareness.
'Why?'
Because solid social awareness helps with listening skills.
And listening skills build social awareness.
This is the path towards charisma
That means:
☆75% listening & 25% speaking.
If you look at most charismatic people, you'll see they often follow this rule.
☆~95% listening & 5% speaking.
That's just a rough average.
So in order to become more charismatic you aren't talking THAT much more.
Just ~20% more.
You're not talking 90% more or something bold like that.
Just 20 ish.
If you can't do that, then idk what to tell ya.
You're undermining your potential
That's the best way to look at it.
Use your shy stage to build social awareness & your listening muscle
Those are the foundations of any human interaction.
This thread has now given you a blueprint on how to handle shyness.
Having the blueprint will allow you to move with intent vs. hesitancy.
So use your shyness as a weapon vs. an excuse to be a wimp!
You'll see the compound effects in no time.
For more tips to level up your social skills, follow your boii @ArmaniTalks 🌍🚀
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Storytelling 101:
Your readers need to be able to empathize with your main character, otherwise they will not continue reading.
Best way to make them empathize is by making your character relatable.
'How?'
By giving your character flaws.
Make them human.
Just to add on.
Your antagonist or villian should have a desirable quality.
For example: an evil villian that has a lot of riches.
Giving your villian some pros makes the reader root for your antagonist even more.
Face it, humans are drawn to flaws over perfection.
But a main character with negative traits & a villain with positive traits creates magic.
Counterintuitive, I know.
But you are creating friction.
You are sparking dual emotions in your readers.
This will make the readers go on an emotional roller coaster.
This is just one of the many principles of storytelling
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If you read carefully, you will leave with many lessons for life
Your readers need to be able to empathize with your main character, otherwise they will not continue reading.
Best way to make them empathize is by making your character relatable.
'How?'
By giving your character flaws.
Make them human.
Just to add on.
Your antagonist or villian should have a desirable quality.
For example: an evil villian that has a lot of riches.
Giving your villian some pros makes the reader root for your antagonist even more.
Face it, humans are drawn to flaws over perfection.
But a main character with negative traits & a villain with positive traits creates magic.
Counterintuitive, I know.
But you are creating friction.
You are sparking dual emotions in your readers.
This will make the readers go on an emotional roller coaster.
This is just one of the many principles of storytelling
If you like stories, then sign up for my email list: https://t.co/JjtGWxvwz4
I do storytelling emails where I take my readers onto a journey from my past
If you read carefully, you will leave with many lessons for life
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THREAD: 12 Things Everyone Should Know About IQ
1. IQ is one of the most heritable psychological traits – that is, individual differences in IQ are strongly associated with individual differences in genes (at least in fairly typical modern environments). https://t.co/3XxzW9bxLE
2. The heritability of IQ *increases* from childhood to adulthood. Meanwhile, the effect of the shared environment largely fades away. In other words, when it comes to IQ, nature becomes more important as we get older, nurture less. https://t.co/UqtS1lpw3n
3. IQ scores have been increasing for the last century or so, a phenomenon known as the Flynn effect. https://t.co/sCZvCst3hw (N ≈ 4 million)
(Note that the Flynn effect shows that IQ isn't 100% genetic; it doesn't show that it's 100% environmental.)
4. IQ predicts many important real world outcomes.
For example, though far from perfect, IQ is the single-best predictor of job performance we have – much better than Emotional Intelligence, the Big Five, Grit, etc. https://t.co/rKUgKDAAVx https://t.co/DWbVI8QSU3
5. Higher IQ is associated with a lower risk of death from most causes, including cardiovascular disease, respiratory disease, most forms of cancer, homicide, suicide, and accident. https://t.co/PJjGNyeQRA (N = 728,160)
1. IQ is one of the most heritable psychological traits – that is, individual differences in IQ are strongly associated with individual differences in genes (at least in fairly typical modern environments). https://t.co/3XxzW9bxLE
2. The heritability of IQ *increases* from childhood to adulthood. Meanwhile, the effect of the shared environment largely fades away. In other words, when it comes to IQ, nature becomes more important as we get older, nurture less. https://t.co/UqtS1lpw3n
3. IQ scores have been increasing for the last century or so, a phenomenon known as the Flynn effect. https://t.co/sCZvCst3hw (N ≈ 4 million)
(Note that the Flynn effect shows that IQ isn't 100% genetic; it doesn't show that it's 100% environmental.)
4. IQ predicts many important real world outcomes.
For example, though far from perfect, IQ is the single-best predictor of job performance we have – much better than Emotional Intelligence, the Big Five, Grit, etc. https://t.co/rKUgKDAAVx https://t.co/DWbVI8QSU3
5. Higher IQ is associated with a lower risk of death from most causes, including cardiovascular disease, respiratory disease, most forms of cancer, homicide, suicide, and accident. https://t.co/PJjGNyeQRA (N = 728,160)
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Recently, the @CNIL issued a decision regarding the GDPR compliance of an unknown French adtech company named "Vectaury". It may seem like small fry, but the decision has potential wide-ranging impacts for Google, the IAB framework, and today's adtech. It's thread time! 👇
It's all in French, but if you're up for it you can read:
• Their blog post (lacks the most interesting details): https://t.co/PHkDcOT1hy
• Their high-level legal decision: https://t.co/hwpiEvjodt
• The full notification: https://t.co/QQB7rfynha
I've read it so you needn't!
Vectaury was collecting geolocation data in order to create profiles (eg. people who often go to this or that type of shop) so as to power ad targeting. They operate through embedded SDKs and ad bidding, making them invisible to users.
The @CNIL notes that profiling based off of geolocation presents particular risks since it reveals people's movements and habits. As risky, the processing requires consent — this will be the heart of their assessment.
Interesting point: they justify the decision in part because of how many people COULD be targeted in this way (rather than how many have — though they note that too). Because it's on a phone, and many have phones, it is considered large-scale processing no matter what.
It's all in French, but if you're up for it you can read:
• Their blog post (lacks the most interesting details): https://t.co/PHkDcOT1hy
• Their high-level legal decision: https://t.co/hwpiEvjodt
• The full notification: https://t.co/QQB7rfynha
I've read it so you needn't!
Vectaury was collecting geolocation data in order to create profiles (eg. people who often go to this or that type of shop) so as to power ad targeting. They operate through embedded SDKs and ad bidding, making them invisible to users.
The @CNIL notes that profiling based off of geolocation presents particular risks since it reveals people's movements and habits. As risky, the processing requires consent — this will be the heart of their assessment.
Interesting point: they justify the decision in part because of how many people COULD be targeted in this way (rather than how many have — though they note that too). Because it's on a phone, and many have phones, it is considered large-scale processing no matter what.
