It's not. The conditions that make up the responsibility is what determines whether it should be upheld or not.
Men need to know when to take responsibility.
They also need to know when to refuse it.
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It's not. The conditions that make up the responsibility is what determines whether it should be upheld or not.
If its family, unless they reached a level of disownment, responsibility meets no conditions.
It's a mans duty to carry as much as responsibility to alleviate his family's burden.
1. An incentive
2. Authority
3. Leverage
Ideally you want responsibility to beget all three. Most of the time, you start off with only one.
You might learn a thing or two, which can be valuable, but overall, it is value exchanged for nothing.
If it doesn't, then you're not disagreeable enough to negotiate conditions that fairly exchanges value.
Authority is valuable. It turns you into a leader.
And you should reject it. Being exploited in this way is a good indicator that you're too agreeable,
and people end up easily extracting value out of you.
If the responsibility given, is very valuable in of itself, & can be leveraged against the person giving it.
This is the cunning method that forces a return in value.
See thread ⬇️
Any responsibility delegated to you by your boss without a pay rise,
— \u1d1c\u0274\u1d0d\u1d0f\u1d05\u1d07\u0280\u0274 (@UnmodernM) October 20, 2020
takes you one step closer in becoming an inseparable part of his business,
to which you can infinitely leverage against him later & get what you want.
Be patient. Then leverage to a chokehold.
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1/ Here’s a list of conversational frameworks I’ve picked up that have been helpful.
Please add your own.
2/ The Magic Question: "What would need to be true for you
3/ On evaluating where someone’s head is at regarding a topic they are being wishy-washy about or delaying.
“Gun to the head—what would you decide now?”
“Fast forward 6 months after your sabbatical--how would you decide: what criteria is most important to you?”
4/ Other Q’s re: decisions:
“Putting aside a list of pros/cons, what’s the *one* reason you’re doing this?” “Why is that the most important reason?”
“What’s end-game here?”
“What does success look like in a world where you pick that path?”
5/ When listening, after empathizing, and wanting to help them make their own decisions without imposing your world view:
“What would the best version of yourself do”?
Please add your own.
2/ The Magic Question: "What would need to be true for you
1/\u201cWhat would need to be true for you to\u2026.X\u201d
— Erik Torenberg (@eriktorenberg) December 4, 2018
Why is this the most powerful question you can ask when attempting to reach an agreement with another human being or organization?
A thread, co-written by @deanmbrody: https://t.co/Yo6jHbSit9
3/ On evaluating where someone’s head is at regarding a topic they are being wishy-washy about or delaying.
“Gun to the head—what would you decide now?”
“Fast forward 6 months after your sabbatical--how would you decide: what criteria is most important to you?”
4/ Other Q’s re: decisions:
“Putting aside a list of pros/cons, what’s the *one* reason you’re doing this?” “Why is that the most important reason?”
“What’s end-game here?”
“What does success look like in a world where you pick that path?”
5/ When listening, after empathizing, and wanting to help them make their own decisions without imposing your world view:
“What would the best version of yourself do”?
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