How to vet a woman. Qualify her by setting your standards.

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If you want to vet a woman properly, you need to separate two components that makes up who she is;

Macro scale - her deep values that make up her belief system.

Micro scale - her everyday habits & behaviours.

Macro cannot be easily modified, the micros can.
A woman's belief system in life takes one of two pathways,

she either chooses a path of independence, where her values shape around it,

or she chooses to seek femininity.

One directly conflicts with the other. The more independent she becomes, the less feminine she is.
Obviously you want a feminine woman. And that would mean to vet how far she is willing to go in her line of career. If career ascension is her aim, her belief system does not align with yours.

Her career must stop somewhere for her to be able to regain her feminine nature.
Determine how agreeable she is. By default, all women are more agreeable than disagreeable.

That means a woman who's gone out of her way to become disagreeable (for example career ascension) is a red flag, unless circumstances justify it.
A woman's devotion to her family is directly proportional to her future devotion to you. Her relationship with her father and brothers will be a reflection of the future relationship between you two.

Rarely do valuable women originate from dysfunctional families.
The micro traits of a woman should closely reflect her macro belief system. For example, if she is devoted to her family, then it is less likely that she will engage in degeneracy. If she is feminine, she should welcome domestic work, not despise it.

Here's what to look out for;
Red Flags:

If she uses profanity, drinks or smokes.

If she fuels the fire when you're irritated or stressed instead of calming and soothing the tension.

If she has too many friends and/or large social media following

If she is a model.. of any kind.
If she leverages her beauty to get what she wants.

If she manifests arrogance due to high ego.

If she doesn't understand the importance of a man's work & responsibility.

If you have to use any of your possessions to impress her (car, house etc)
Micro habits are easy to change, depending on her attraction to you.

Macro is not. Belief systems only change when there is obsession. When a woman is obsessed with you, there's little she wouldn't change.

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