Stop reacting & start responding.

Here’s how you speak slowly.

Shadow Integration method.

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Intolerance is a trait of a leader who elevates everyone around him.

If you want to lead, you must become intolerant.

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Know that the degree of your tolerance is disproportional to the quality of your leadership.

The more tolerant you are, the lower the quality.

Because its not easy to uphold strong qualities & values.

Tolerance leads to erosion of your high standards.

Your responsibility as a leader is to create a culture where, whether its your followers, employees, family,

can grow and become exceptional in what you're directing them towards.

You need to protect this culture & cultivate it.

The protection of this culture will depend on

-your conviction to your leadership objective

-the values you need to uphold to attain this objective

-rejecting values that directly conflict with the attainment of your objective

Every time you compromise your leadership by accomodating lesser values through tolerance,

you not only weaken your own conviction, but you disrespect those who follow you,

who rely on your resilience to maintain the coherence & integrity of the culture you seek to build.

I have never come across a moment in my professional career where I have found arrogance to be useful.

It costs you every time you employ it.

But there are times when the benefit of being arrogant outweighs the damage it does.

Restricted to certain conditions only.

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Arrogance is the quality of being 'unpleasantly proud and behaving as if you are better, or know more than other people'.

This is the actual definition of it.

And it means the only time arrogance serves well is when being unpleasant & up yourself, works in your favour.

Arrogance makes it easy to repel people you don't want to associate yourself with.

If you're a leader or in a position of influence, its very easy for your pleasantness to be mistaken for availability,

in which everyone would flock to abuse it with no regard or respect.

Allowing everyone your time will devalue your credibility down to those who have none.

So it makes sense to be unpleasant around those you don't want to waste time around.

It also makes others work hard to get your recognition & availability.

If you've worked hard to get to where you are, not everyone has the right for your availability.

Arrogance insulates you from those who seek clout & extract value off you. Its a useful tool to employ to preserve your time.

But even then, you risk repelling people of value.

Men need to know when to take responsibility.

They also need to know when to refuse it.

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The word responsibility is being used as if its a mandatory quality for men to possess.

It's not. The conditions that make up the responsibility is what determines whether it should be upheld or not.

If a man is to take responsibility, he should first determine which domain it falls under.

If its family, unless they reached a level of disownment, responsibility meets no conditions.

It's a mans duty to carry as much as responsibility to alleviate his family's burden.

Outside family, responsibility should have at least one of 3 elements in exchange for upholding it:

1. An incentive
2. Authority
3. Leverage

Ideally you want responsibility to beget all three. Most of the time, you start off with only one.

Your new found duty must be rewarded in one way or another. Theres no reason to uphold anything unless you are rewarded. Its a waste of your time, effort & devalues your worth.

You might learn a thing or two, which can be valuable, but overall, it is value exchanged for nothing.

Every time you meet someone above you, you have a chance to move up.

It’s a rare golden opportunity to encounter those at the top.

Here's how you attract a founder, investor or an executive (FIEs) as your mentor.

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You NEVER know who the person you’ve encountered really is. You don’t know what he knows, what he is capable of, who he knows, who his connections are.

Assume they are the 1%.

Founders/Investors/Executives (FIEs) look for specific qualities before deciding to invest in someone.

You need to know WHY you want to be a mentee under FIEs.

You need EVERYTHING mapped out & prepped.

If it’s for an idea: know your strategy, distribution channel, market, competitors, biz plan etc.

If it’s a job seek: know your aim, your plan & career objective etc.

Then you need a 2 step approach.

1. Provide value that makes you worthy enough to be mentored.

2. Receive value in exchange, that will help progress whatever it was that made you sought out a mentor in the first place.

If you do this, ascension is inevitable.

FIEs read body language.

They can instantly tell whether you’ve got it or not.

Focus on 3 things:

-Chest out
-Eye contact
-Speak slowly

Nod. Accommodate your words with hand gestures. And don’t interrupt.

Ever.

If you do, apologise & let them speak.

Your 9 to 5 job can transform you into a man of value.

Stop working for the money. Work for authority.

This is a lesson from my dad.

A life hack.

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You spend at least 40 hours a week at your work to make money.

Thats over 2000 hours a year. If you want these hours to mean more than just money, & help you develop your character,

then your approach towards work must change.

Its an overlooked topic that industriousness has tremendous mental & psychological impact on men and their transformation of becoming high value.

Here's a step by step blueprint on letting your job mould your character.

If you want your job to infiltrate your personality and mould you into a man of value,

you need authority.

So the first step is to assess the landscape of your job & whether you are able to attain this authoirty.

If you're in a work environment that makes you a supplicant to every person, quit your job.

I never recommend rash decisions, but working in a place where you are NOTHING but a subordinate, with ZERO opportunity to move up,

is psychologically damaging to your manhood.

A Conspiracy Thread: Did Chaos Magick Break Reality?

What the hell is going on? Coronavirus, societal collapse, monoliths, aliens, what more do I need to say? Did William S. Burroughs actually achieve his goal of breaking reality? Let me explain.

William S. Burroughs was a member of Peter J. Carroll’s magickal organization, The Illuminates of Thanateros. They practiced chaos magick, a system of magick that denies all fixed models of reality. Basically they are encouraged to believe in whatever reality they want.

Burroughs was also an author who often used the cut-up method to write his novels, a technique that involves cutting up newspapers and magazines, putting the clippings in a hat, and then randomly pulling them out to create sentences.

Burroughs believed the cut-up method was a form of chaos magick that destabilized language, which he claimed was the main control mechanism of reality. Burroughs’ goal was to utterly destroy and dismantle all control systems and he thought his cut-ups could help him achieve this.

https://t.co/Cotah6eeRa

Three years ago today, I was icing my knuckles because I’d beaten the fuck out of a man who had groped me in a club a couple of nights before. I wrote about it in my new essay https://t.co/SqzluTtJKb 📷 @rerutled #IBeatMyAssaulter

After I explained to a club manager what had happened, he ooked at my Beloved and asked me “Why didn’t you let your husband take care of it?” I almost beat him up too.

“First of all, he’s not my husband. Also, this is my body, I take care of it.”

Patriarchy enables and protects men who sexually assault women, and it demands that only other men “protect” us.

As long as we obey and behave in ways it approves of, of course. Protection is conditional.Because if we disobey, ha! I don't want to be protected. I want to be free

I started #IBeatMyAssaulter and women from around the world shared stories.

Five days earlier, I had started #MosqueMeToo to talk about being sexually assaulted during pilgrimage and women from around the world shared stories 🎥 @rerutled

And between the two #, men were showing me how easily the goal posts can move.

Under #MosqueMeToo men asked me, “Why didn’t you make more of a fuss?” Under #IBeatMyAssaulter men said, “You made too much of a fuss. You were too violent. Don’t you think you overreacted?”