How to present yourself as a man who is worth investing in.

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Anyone who plays the status game is not worthy of any seriousness.

But that does not mean, those who are serious & competent should look & behave in a cheap manner.

People are watching. To be worthy of investing in, you must show degree of status.

It’s the world we live in.
Be relaxed and still. Nothing should faze you. Your reaction to good news, should be equal to bad news: neutral.

Learn to downplay an achievement, while remaining calm when encountering failure.

It shows resilience towards hard times, & self control during good times.
Control your emotions. Or at least mimic the emotions of the person you’re talking to. Emotions are the portal in which regrettable behaviours emerge.

You instantly lack reliability when you uncontrollably release your emotions.

Read my shadow integration threads.
Maintain respect. Don’t swear. Profanity instantly makes you look cheap. It makes you look weak & not in control.

“Can’t trust a man who doesn’t swear” is trash nonsense.

Truth is, you can’t rely on a man who fails to control his words at the right time & right place.
Speak confidently but calmly. Maintain high degree of confidence within your domain of expertise. But show humility outside it.

Speak calmly, allow hand gestures to accomodate your point.

Look in their eyes and pause before you answer a question.
Dont dilute your worth by seeking approval.

Be there to negotiate. You’re not looking for handouts.

You’re looking for value exchange. You are willing to give and receive according to the value you provide.

Rejection is usually a sign that you still lack in providing value.
Don’t go personal, and don’t ever take anything personally.

If you’re criticised, don’t find excuses, make them elaborate.

If they go personal, reroute and make it impersonal.

Be the grown up in the room who seeks conflict resolution.
Dispose any clothing with diagrams and superheroes on it.

If you wear skinny jeans, you’re a woman.

If you wear unfitted clothes, you’re a child.

If you wear a pink shirt, check testosterone.

All this should go without saying.
High status behaviour should be your default approach with anyone.

It compliments your ability to provide value.

Rejecting it because “superficial people play status games”, is a dismal excuse to not look sharp & capitalise on potential opportunities.

Look & play the part.

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1/ Here’s a list of conversational frameworks I’ve picked up that have been helpful.

Please add your own.

2/ The Magic Question: "What would need to be true for you


3/ On evaluating where someone’s head is at regarding a topic they are being wishy-washy about or delaying.

“Gun to the head—what would you decide now?”

“Fast forward 6 months after your sabbatical--how would you decide: what criteria is most important to you?”

4/ Other Q’s re: decisions:

“Putting aside a list of pros/cons, what’s the *one* reason you’re doing this?” “Why is that the most important reason?”

“What’s end-game here?”

“What does success look like in a world where you pick that path?”

5/ When listening, after empathizing, and wanting to help them make their own decisions without imposing your world view:

“What would the best version of yourself do”?

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...करें और तुम भी पुत्र की इच्छा लेकर गूलर वृक्ष का आलिंगन करना। आलिंगन करने के बाद चरू का सेवन करना, इससे तुम दोनो को पुत्र प्राप्ति होगी।परंतु मां बेटी के चरू आपस में बदल जाते हैं और ये महर्षि भृगु अपनी दिव्य दृष्टि से देख लेते हैं।

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