How to present yourself as a man who is worth investing in.

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Anyone who plays the status game is not worthy of any seriousness.

But that does not mean, those who are serious & competent should look & behave in a cheap manner.

People are watching. To be worthy of investing in, you must show degree of status.

It’s the world we live in.
Be relaxed and still. Nothing should faze you. Your reaction to good news, should be equal to bad news: neutral.

Learn to downplay an achievement, while remaining calm when encountering failure.

It shows resilience towards hard times, & self control during good times.
Control your emotions. Or at least mimic the emotions of the person you’re talking to. Emotions are the portal in which regrettable behaviours emerge.

You instantly lack reliability when you uncontrollably release your emotions.

Read my shadow integration threads.
Maintain respect. Don’t swear. Profanity instantly makes you look cheap. It makes you look weak & not in control.

“Can’t trust a man who doesn’t swear” is trash nonsense.

Truth is, you can’t rely on a man who fails to control his words at the right time & right place.
Speak confidently but calmly. Maintain high degree of confidence within your domain of expertise. But show humility outside it.

Speak calmly, allow hand gestures to accomodate your point.

Look in their eyes and pause before you answer a question.
Dont dilute your worth by seeking approval.

Be there to negotiate. You’re not looking for handouts.

You’re looking for value exchange. You are willing to give and receive according to the value you provide.

Rejection is usually a sign that you still lack in providing value.
Don’t go personal, and don’t ever take anything personally.

If you’re criticised, don’t find excuses, make them elaborate.

If they go personal, reroute and make it impersonal.

Be the grown up in the room who seeks conflict resolution.
Dispose any clothing with diagrams and superheroes on it.

If you wear skinny jeans, you’re a woman.

If you wear unfitted clothes, you’re a child.

If you wear a pink shirt, check testosterone.

All this should go without saying.
High status behaviour should be your default approach with anyone.

It compliments your ability to provide value.

Rejecting it because “superficial people play status games”, is a dismal excuse to not look sharp & capitalise on potential opportunities.

Look & play the part.

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1/“What would need to be true for you to….X”

Why is this the most powerful question you can ask when attempting to reach an agreement with another human being or organization?

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2/ First, “X” could be lots of things. Examples: What would need to be true for you to

- “Feel it's in our best interest for me to be CMO"
- “Feel that we’re in a good place as a company”
- “Feel that we’re on the same page”
- “Feel that we both got what we wanted from this deal

3/ Normally, we aren’t that direct. Example from startup/VC land:

Founders leave VC meetings thinking that every VC will invest, but they rarely do.

Worse over, the founders don’t know what they need to do in order to be fundable.

4/ So why should you ask the magic Q?

To get clarity.

You want to know where you stand, and what it takes to get what you want in a way that also gets them what they want.

It also holds them (mentally) accountable once the thing they need becomes true.

5/ Staying in the context of soliciting investors, the question is “what would need to be true for you to want to invest (or partner with us on this journey, etc)?”

Multiple responses to this question are likely to deliver a positive result.

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