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2/ This phenomenon—I’m calling it a Sex Recession—really surprised me. It seemed improbable in the age of Tinder, digital porn, and attitudes that are generally permissive and sex-positive.
3/ What’s happening isn’t exclusively American: Similar trends are being observed in other countries, including Japan, Australia, the U.K., Finland, and the Netherlands.
4/ One cause is obvious: Adults under 35 are less likely to be living with a partner than in recent decades, and more likely to be living with their parents—which, it’s safe to say, isn’t great for one’s sex life.
5/ But I also found other explanations, each with profound implications. The first, unsurprisingly, has to do with internet enticements. Netflix and other online entertainment may be substituting for sex.
When I was sexually harassed by the director of the area I was working in, I was afraid to report it because I was worried that "getting him in trouble" would result in the subtle retaliation of missed leadership opportunities.
I wanted to continue working on the team I was on, because I'd gained a lot of very deep knowledge and expertise in that area, as well as reputation and camaraderie with the other folks working in that area. I didn't want to make the situation more "difficult."
To get promoted at Google, several need to happen: 1. you need opportunities for ownership and leadership above your current level (basically, opportunities to show you're working at the next level you're trying to get promoted to). The work you're "assigned" has a big impact.
2. You need glowing reviews from peers, *at or particularly above the level you're hoping to get promoted to.* Basically, you need people a lot more senior than you to say you're doing awesome work.
Let folks have their many talents, interests and gifts. Life is far more fun with variety, loves.
A lot of folks have come to know me as an activist & I’m grateful that folks care to know me at all.
But I wasn’t born in 2014. I was a whole teacher, executive, policy person, speaker, arts and culture lover, reader, writer, woman of faith, fashion and more before 4 yrs ago 🤷🏾♀️
We rightfully complain that marginalized people are not allowed to be fully human.
But we internalize and transfer our oppression daily. It’s a smog. We all breathe it in & act it out.
And then tell WoC “girl ain’t you supposed to be a _______? Why you doing ____?”
Can I live?
And don’t go reading anything personal into this-this isn’t about me necessarily and it’s no subtweet (I try hard not to do that.)
I’ve just been observing that behavior more and more lately. Especially when it comes to marginalized folks.
Evolution should be our aspiration.
“Can’t knock the hustle” should be our anthem.
As long as someone isn’t bringing active and continual harm, why can’t they explore their many sides?
Today, there are 500,000 young men missing from the U.S. workforce.
Research suggests video games & improved leisure tech plays a role in the problem. 👇 Thread:
Following the 2007 to 2009 recession, 25 to 34 year old men exited high school with fewer middle-skill job opportunities than years prior.
During this time, we saw an increased number of men living with parents & choosing unemployment over lower paying jobs.
It's estimated that 24M millennials live w/ their parents.
1 in 4 living in their parents’ home neither go to school nor work.
What's more surprising? 9 in 10 who lived with their parents a year ago are still living there w/ no plans to leave.
Economists are calling millennial men a lost generation.
According to economist David Dorn:
“If you get to the point where you’re turning 30, you’ve never held a real job and you don’t have a college education, then it is very hard to recover at that point.”
Economists suggest this choosiness is a generational trait.
Forbes interview w/ a high school educated man:
"I’m very quick to get frustrated when people refuse to pay me what I’m worth."
“People feel that they have choice nowadays, and they
I was standing outside, waiting for a lyft to get home, when two cis men came out of the bar to smoke cigarettes. They're discussing the masks that folks are wearing in California at the moment because of the very dangerous air pollution from the fires happening.
I happen to be wearing one of those masks, because I think lungs are important and I like breathing. I dunno. One of the men notices me standing there, and says, "Like this f*cker right here. What is this shit?"
He goes on a homophobic rant about me, the pansy with a mask, and what a Very Manly Man he is because he's not afraid to smoke a pack of cigarettes while California is on fire. He doesn't need a mask, because something-something-heterosexual-something.
And part of me is just... impressed by the fact that this dude thinks he's Owning The Gay Libs by not wearing a mask to protect his lungs from smoke and particles in the air that are literally DANGEROUS... while chain-smoking. Outside of a bar.
Hey folks, have you ever wondered why trans people face constant accusations of fetishism, sexual predation and child abuse/grooming? Well, today let's talk about stochastic terrorism.
So, first we have to talk about what stochastic terrorism actually is. Remember when there was a conspiracy that there was a pedophile ring operating out of a pizza parlour basement, and a crazed gunman showed up? It's that sort of incitement that stochastic terrorism describes.
It's the demonisation or incitement against a group of people or individuals with the intent that other, unaffiliated parties will act upon it; it's the releasing doctored footage and a shooter show up at Planned Parenthood as a direct result of what he's been led to believe.
So with that in mind, let's talk about Russia's extreme anti-LGBT laws that banned the "promotion" of LGBT lifestyles to children. A move that specifically marked LGBT people as a threat to children, and resulted in neo-nazis meting out vigilante "justice" against gay men.
Groups such as this would lure unsuspecting gay men via dating sites, and brutalise and humiliate them on camera. They did so under the guise of combating child abusers, one group calling themselves "Occupy
We want to tell people what they deserve to earn, buy, make, be, say, believe, enjoy. Where they can live. Who they can love.
We even do this to kids through the story of Santa Claus and his naughty or nice list.
And we’re all just trucking along like this is okay.
We do it to ourselves. “I deserve a break”, “I deserve this cookie”, “I deserve a promotion”.
Why are we so afraid of wants and needs? Why do we frame it in terms of this moral currency? It’s weird.
We've traded our freedom to have wants and needs on the basis that we just have them for the ability to police others' wants and needs through whether or not they are deserving of the things they're asking for. But to do that we have to play the same game and be "more deserving."
I never said which society or how long we’ve been doing it. I’m sure you could trace this ideology back to agriculture at the very least.
Neatly phrased, Miss Erynn! But I think if we look back we\u2019d find that it was ever so. The feudal system from the Middle Ages and even unto the 20th century in Czarist Russia saw societies based on your observations.— Edward M. Cook (@edcook111) November 1, 2018
No not Piers Morgan, I give no shits about him.
I mean this thing of criticizing women’s sensuality and then saying that they should get by on just their talent. Cause we see it everywhere...
Hi Joan, my mother taught me to speak my mind & never be afraid to express honestly held opinion.— Piers Morgan (@piersmorgan) November 21, 2018
Ellen's a hypocrite - and as for Little Mix, I'd just prefer they use their talent to sell records rather than their nudity.
As your own daughter does...! https://t.co/nCQAsIgoVG
And it comes up in a lot of different spaces:
And it comes up in a lot of different ways:
It’s interesting because we know that psychologically speaking, conventionally attractive people are better received.
Attraction can shift as you get to know someone on an individual level, but overall our society privileges people who look good.
I don’t understand the question?
This is a survival mechanism. I'm not saying it's not an issue, I'm just asking how do you fix it? Or can you fix it? If not are you just complaining to complain?— JustUnderReality (@under_just) November 21, 2018
"Mom, has a man ever touched you without your consent?"
"Did you report it?"
"Dad, your WIFE has been through this!"
Dad was unmoved and told the guy to stop arguing with him.
At this point we learned the boy child has allergies.
I forgot to remark upon the presence of the very cute grandson, who was very small and gave not one shit about the yelling. I believe a sister or aunt was present and feeling very stressed. I wanted to hand her a Xanax or seven.
It was really hard to not jump in and say, "Sounds like you guys are going to have a fun meal tomorrow!" so they could unite in hatred against me, the outsider, and stop squabbling. Instead I exchanged glances with a nearby fellow lady patron, who also emotionally ate a cookie.
Anyway, I want to thank the random family for yelling about rape and the Holocaust in an Israeli cafe in the US of A today because it reminded me that while this country isn't the greatest, it is inevitably my stupid favorite and I am never, ever bored.
See this thing that @lymanstoneky wrote:
And see this thing that I wrote:
And see this book that @JamesFallows wrote:
And see this other thing that I wrote: