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Instead of today's thread, let's have some fun

1 RT = 1 Life Lesson

First one is on the house.

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 Those you trust the most are those in the best position for betrayal.
Active listening is a false God.

Most people will waste your mental space.
If you want to say "no", dont use any other word.
Seeking approval is the first step to auto destruction
Time management is pain management.
Depression is a social construct.

We all have low moments, you don't need those pills.
No one should be your role model.
Your only limit is your own thoughts
Your only concern should be yourself.

Everyone is doing that anyway.
It's useless to set goals if you don't make plans to achieve them.
People will always try to dominate you.

Do it before they even attempt to.
Power games are everywhere.

If you're not playing, you're being played.
Controlling your subconscious makes you more of a human being and less of an animal.
Don't trust no one.
Always be wary.

But don't get paranoid, just be ahead.
Learn Marketing not to sell, but not to get fooled instead.
There is nothing you can't learn on your own.
Not only is no one coming to save you, but you're probably also not going to save yourself before fucking up many times.
You are being lied to at least twice an hour.

Every. Single. Day.
No one will build your self-confidence.

At best, they'll make you delusional.

That is YOUR responsibility.
Less than 3 people on Earth truly want to see you succeed.
There is no success without organization.

There is no organization without chaos.
The ability to focus is not as half as important as the ability to shift focus.
You're not poor if you got time.

You're not rich if you don't own your time.
People's opinion of you can never physically hurt you.
Value your time if you want to get respected.
Discipline is just a cute word for habit building
Life is not fair.

Crying over this fact makes you a loser.

Go out there and fight for whats yours.
Never depend on others for your plans.

Do your thing and those who love you will follow.
You are responsible for everything that happens to you after you reach the age of 7.
"What does this guy want"

Should be the first thing you think when someone says Hello.
People are afraid of the unknown because they don't know themselves enough.
Peace of mind is a choice not a result.
Being needy kills your worth.
Honor your family name more than you honor your first name.
You are unique and exceptional and no one can ever take that away from you.
You can't trust your instincts if you're often wrong.
Developing a strong instinct comes from compounding correct rational decisions.
Worrying too much is the first cause of depression.

Live the moment.
Never trust people that INSIST on the fact that they're loyal.
Most people on Twitter are deeply stupid.
You define your own value.

Others will just deal with what you impose.
Coming early and leaving late is sign of social neediness.
If you rely on others, you will forever live in their shadow.
"Everyone is egotistical and it's okay."

-@HeroicRhetoric
People who put you down secretly want to use you.
Virtues are overrated.

Self-interest is underrated.
Every second that goes by influences future you.
"It's not about time, it's about mental space"

-@DentesLeo
Morning meditation improves drastically the rest of your day.
Anyone preaching the use of drugs is living in a delusional world.
You are not what society imposed on you.
Thinking comes before acting.

Be proactive not reactive.
Being realistic doesnt mean being pessimistic neither does it mean being optimistic.

Stop hiding behind that word.
You don't chose where you come from.

You chose where you end up.
Poor genetics is a poor excuse.
Your potential is equal to zero if you let someone else define it for you.
Money is a result.

Money is a tool.

Money is NOT a life goal.
You start dying the moment you kill your ambition.
Be the kind of person you wish you had as a friend.
Your only responsibility is your own success.

Achieve that and you'll inevitably pull up your close ones.
Being different means being superior or inferior.

There is no neutral difference.

Except for colours.
Don't break any rule if you're not certain of getting away with it.
"Narcissism can't be wrong if you're simply superior to most people"

-@DejaRu22
Most of your thoughts were induced to you by other people.
People who seek your empathy want you to get weaker.
Life is about compounding wins and lessons.
If failure is an option, winning is mandatory.
You can't have a purpose in life if you don't know what YOU desire.
If they tweet about water more than once a week, unfollow them.
Life takes all its meaning when you ignore what others think of you.
What you read every day on Twitter impacts your life without you even realizing it.
You can forget when you win.

But that time you lost will forever be printed in your memories.
No Twitter guide will get you a personality.

Homage @FrazzleDazzzled
Most people who will congratulate you have a strong feeling of envy.

The ones that don't, truly appreciate you.
You were conditioned to think the way you do.

You were not condition to think that way forever.
I'm taking a brief pause and will resume in a moment.
Respect the rules until you become the one that makes them

-@UnmodernM

He said it differently but he said it
People who agree easily either have no personality or a plan to backstab you.
There is no better motivation than failure.

There is no better reason to improve if you've never suffered.
Looking at yourself in the mirror increases your self-awareness.

You need to know what YOU look like.
Self-talk defines your level of confidence.
Losers don't realize that they're doing it on purpose.

They either think life is hard on them or are completely delusional about their situation.
This is an example but the lesson is there:

@EgoDriv wouldn't be a success if he didn't deliver regardless of the results.
The number of people you know ha a direct correlation with your level of influence
Act as if you need no one.

Act as if everyone needs you.
You can't be confident if you never achieved anything.

You can't achieve anything if you're not confident enough to start.
You can't influence others if you don't master control your own behavior.
Remember those who believed in you.

Bury those who doubted you.
Find out what triggers them.

Keep it secret until they try to trigger you.
Don't forgive more than once.

MOVE ON & never look back.
People who will disappoint you the most either have no respect for you or idolize you.

Paradoxically.
"Only the strongest survives" will always be relevant.

It's the definition of strength and power that evolves over time.
Never take the blame for someone else.
Everyone is using other people.

The thing is to find people who's interests are aligned with yours.

Mutual benefit > Any sort of benefit
Others will never teach you as much as your mistakes will.

It's great to know other perspective, but there is no lesson without experience.
Your body language expresses more than your words will ever do.
Never forget what made you shed a tear.

Dont let it happen ever again.
Never let social media replace your social life.
Be a slave of your own happiness.

Can't go wrong.
Every person that likes you benefits from you.

This is not necessarily a bad thing.
People who worry too much about their image have a laughable of self-esteem.
You will have infinite inspiration if you stop searching for it.
Luck will never be worth the feeling getting the job done.
The human being is profoundly insecure.

Including you.
The key to a happy life is to act regardless of who's watching you.
They say ignorance is bliss.

Let me tell you Stupidity is a blessing in disguise.

Can't get offended if you dont understand to begin with.
Social Media beef is not always pointless.

Most will disagree but I just told you power games are everywhere.
Most leaders are not qualified enough to be.

Most of them will seek personal gain as soon as they take control.
If they give up, they were never fit.

Those who are worth it don't need extra incentives when obstacles are faced.
Here is one from my friend @SculptYourMind

https://t.co/mfp9UBaezA
If you rely on hope, you will most likely be deceived.

Rely on what you control instead.
No one respects a person with no skills.

Stand out.
Being supportive is great for social networking.

Being supported is better for self-empowerment.
Never let anyone put a leash on you.

Dont owe anyone anything.

Always give back what you get.
Pay for your friends whenever you can.

Thank me later.
Money is only use is to leverage power and influence.
People with too many insecurities will project them on you.

It will subconsciously affect yout behavior if you're too close to them.
Calculated risk is always lower.

But lower risk often means lower returns.
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How to befriend any stranger.

Easy method to build respect based friendships with new people.

PS: Don't read if you feel bad about manipulating people.

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Before we start, what you need to know is that there are two types of strangers:

-Those bothered by you

-Those who are willing to talk to you

In both cases, the first seconds of making contact are crucial.

Here is how you should approach both.

First thing you need to realize, is that while you're only practicing your social skills

The person in front has absolutely no interest or reason to listen to you.

This is why it is of paramount importance NOT to talk about yourself.

Make them feel comfortable.

Before we get to what you will say and how.

Let's focus on body language.

To trigger anyone's curiosity, you should convey a confident and reassuring vibe.

Your posture should be showing confidence without intimidating your interlocutor.

How can your body language express positive vibes?

- Straight back
- Wide shoulders
- Pumped chest (dont over do it)
- Genuine smile
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How to force someone to do what you want

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Disclaimer:

Keep your bullshit & virtue signaling for yourself.
We all, at some point or another, need to manipulate people.
You won't always get what you want ethically.
Sometimes you just have to use manipulation techniques.

Let's start.

1- Understand & Identify Leverage:

If you want someone to do what you want them to do, you need to pull the right levers.

For that, you need to identify what can be used against them.

Be it their insecurities or something they want, situations differ.

In most cases, fear is the most powerful leverage.

Fear of negative emotions is one thing that works like a charm.

You have to make them think that not doing what you want will induce negative emotions, most people suffer from a phobia of said negative emotions.

Use it.

If you can manage to induce fear into them, you will get them to do exactly what you want.
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How to instantly stop being depressed.

If you're currently depressed and you're seeing this tweet,

THIS is your lucky day.

-Thread-

If you are already following me you probably have already read the thread below,

If not, start there and come back


The ONE thing you need to do is let go.

Except letting go is never easy.

In order to do it, there is no choice but to face everything.

My favorite method is pen and paper.

Write down EXACTLY what is making you feel depressed.

Visualize your demons.

Once you write down everything, it is time to think about a very simple question

What can I do about each of these stuff that is bothering me?

If you can do something about it, put a check.

If you can't do anything, leave it blank. We'll get back to this.

Now for all the stuff you can fix,

Define exactly what you should do to get it done.

Explicitly write what you need to do to stop worrying about this and that.

Fix a deadline.

You now have goals.

Achieve them.
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5 Advanced Social Skills You Should Master

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Wherever and whenever you’ll read about social skills you’ll be told some bullshit like Active listening & “set up your boundaries”, but the truth is the interesting part of social skills is the more complex & aggressive skills that most are too cowardly to talk about.

- Confrontation

If you’re too afraid to go to confrontation: nothing you have learned about social skills will be useful to you.

The most important thing is not the confrontation itself, but your willingness to go to confrontation.

The reason is that most lack the balls & courage to go to confrontation and will back down as soon as they sense resistance from you.

Of course, this is very nuanced because it is not applicable nor recommendable in all situations.

Many times, you will find yourself tempted to confront someone but the power dynamics will simply not allow it.

This takes us to our next point.
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How to avoid being disrespected.

-Thread-


Understand this:

Anyone who disrespects you did so because you let them.

The primary issue is that we think people are just evil, it's not the case.

People are driven by self-interest.

If they see opportunities, they seize them.

No matter what it costs YOU.

If you're reading this then you've probably already wondered how you can avoid being disrespected.

The answer is simple, there are 3 things you need to do.

Let me explain.

1- Tolerate less bullshit in the begining:

You see, your first interactions with people define how the rest of the relationship goes

If you tolerate misbehavior right from the start, chances are they're gonna keep doing it again

Don't let people get too comfortable too quickly

People have to deserve the right to fuck around with you.

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शमशान में जब महर्षि दधीचि के मांसपिंड का दाह संस्कार हो रहा था तो उनकी पत्नी अपने पति का वियोग सहन नहीं कर पायी और पास में ही स्थित विशाल पीपल वृक्ष के कोटर में अपने तीन वर्ष के बालक को रख के स्वयं चिता पे बैठ कर सती हो गयी ।इस प्रकार ऋषी दधीचि और उनकी पत्नी की मुक्ति हो गयी।


परन्तु पीपल के कोटर में रखा बालक भूख प्यास से तड़पने लगा। जब कुछ नहीं मिला तो वो कोटर में पड़े पीपल के गोदों (फल) को खाकर बड़ा होने लगा। कालान्तर में पीपल के फलों और पत्तों को खाकर बालक का जीवन किसी प्रकार सुरक्षित रहा।

एक दिन देवर्षि नारद वहां से गुजर रहे थे ।नारद ने पीपल के कोटर में बालक को देख कर उसका परिचय मांगा -
नारद बोले - बालक तुम कौन हो?
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नारद - तुम्हारे जनक कौन हैं?
बालक - यही तो मैं भी जानना चाहता हूँ ।

तब नारद ने आँखें बन्द कर ध्यान लगाया ।


तत्पश्चात आश्चर्यचकित हो कर बालक को बताया कि 'हे बालक! तुम महान दानी महर्षि दधीचि के पुत्र हो । तुम्हारे पिता की अस्थियों का वज्रास्त्र बनाकर ही देवताओं ने असुरों पर विजय पायी थी।तुम्हारे पिता की मृत्यु मात्र 31 वर्ष की वय में ही हो गयी थी'।

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नारद - तुम्हारे पिता पर शनिदेव की महादशा थी।
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नारद - शनिदेव की महादशा।
इतना बताकर देवर्षि नारद ने पीपल के पत्तों और गोदों को खाकर बड़े हुए उस बालक का नाम पिप्पलाद रखा और उसे दीक्षित किया।
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Pleased Shiva fixed the midnight hour for marriage with Devi.


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Angered, Devi cursed that all food and articles meant for wedding turn into sand and shells


When Banasura heard about Devi’s beauty, he tried to take her by force. Devi, then, killed him and granted the wish of Devas to remain there always protecting them.
The murti of Devi stands with a rosary in hand. Her diamond nose-ring is said to be visible even from the sea.


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