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How do I know how to become a successful academic? I don't, but I have received plenty of advice. As a good academic, I will just summarize what I have learned from listening
1) Be the ultimate collaborator but also don't be
Say yes to as many collaborations as physically possible: co-produce papers, LEARN, co-write grants, DISCUSS, it is all about synergy. But also, collaborations slow you down, have your own ideas! Just say no to collaborations
2) Be the methods ninja but also don't be
Science is only as good as its weakest link: don't be satisfied by applying the default analyses in the field. But also, don't let perfect be the enemy of the good and don't confuse reviewers. Just apply the default analyses in the field
3) Be the superstar teacher but also don't be
Professor means teacher, it is LITERALLY in the name. Being a good professor means being a superstar teacher. But also, focus on the science and minimize the hours of teaching, don't try to become a superstar teacher
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Most poor people don't leverage. Trying to get everything done yourself will limit you to only how much you can do.
Get more hands working for you, and find a way to pay or show them what's in it for them.
When doing business, poor people would require collateral from strangers, but excuse those close to them because they *trust* them.
That's how you get scammed.
The unspoken rule is to know your safety net whenever you're not taking collateral.
Never need to trust.
Never seen a very successful businessman say "This is not a good thing, it's evil."
It's either good for business or bad for business. Its either effective or ineffective.
Morality will only limit you.
Expecting someone to help you because you helped them in the past is ludicrous.
If you're no longer useful to them, people have no reason to help you.
"Whenever you see water flowing upstream it means someone it repaying a kindness."
— 48 Laws Of Power
·You avoid working through your real feelings. You have no idea if you love them or despise them.
·You're seeking ways to stop loving them, not understanding that love must flow in and out — not towards them but towards you — in order to reach a peaceful conclusion.
·You don't have boundaries nor a code of conduct you're willing to respect when it comes to break-ups.
·You never wrote down what's the best approach for you when ending relationships: is checking their social media acceptable? The rules are for you to follow, not for them.
·You indulge in wishful thinking. You romanticize the bond you two had, you over-idealize them and only remember the good times. You're an optimistic person, you say.
·You stubbornly believe in the concept of "The one".
·You refuse to acknowledge how you two didn't fully align.
·You reinforce your fantasies for a connection with them by obsessively researching topics like: soul mates, twin flames, karmic relationships.
·You abuse spiritual tools like tarot. You overindulge in astrology birth charts.
·You forget that obsessing leads to emotional chaos.
She was dressed up—dress, heels, lipstick—the whole deal. She quickly wiped her tears when I walked in, switching to looking out, resolutely.
I tried doing nothing for a few stations, but then, restless about all the grief that came off her, took the bench opposite hers, finally.
“All okay?” I asked.
She hesitated. Blinked.
“Valentine’s Day,” she replied, sadly.
“Date didn’t work out?”
“He dumped me!”
I winced. An asshole with no respect for symbology!
She rubbed her nose, looking both sad and angry.
Tired from a day of work, I groped for words. What could I say that would help?
"Maybe if—," I began, but she cut me:
"How many times will this same thing happen to me?"
"Every time I like someone, they turn out to be assholes. I was so happy I wasn't single on Valentines' Day. FINALLY. But this is WORSE! I dressed up so much. And went all this way from home... And he, and he..."
Turns out, I realised, one doesn't need to say much.
All sad people on Valentines' need, is a listening ear.
Till, five stations of ranting later, they ask, "So YOU tell me, WHY should I believe in love?"
Interrogated thus, in a local train corner, I felt... cornered. Why should one believe in love, I wondered?
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I have some thoughts:
As somebody who bootstrapped ~4 companies, I feel like I had to make some clearly suboptimal decisions early in them for lack of what is, in hindsight, not all that much money. But there's a huge gap in the product space for investment options.
It's weird: you can get $25k from Amex trivially, and angels are very willing to write a check for that much, but you have to make representations about your goals/ambitions/market/etc which don't really apply to everyone.
And so you see the traditional angel/VC ecosystem fund companies where honestly the returns are probably not there, and this is knowable pretty early, but the chase of them will wreck what could have been a perfectly happy business.
(To make the math work for traditional VCs the company has to at least have a market-appropriate shot of $100 million a year. There are a lot more $10 million a year companies than $100 million a year companies. That is *not* a bad terminal outcome for founders/employees.)
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Entrepreneur\u2019s mind.— James Clear (@JamesClear) August 22, 2020
When you choose who to follow on Twitter, you are choosing your future thoughts.— James Clear (@JamesClear) October 3, 2020
Working on a problem reduces the fear of it.— James Clear (@JamesClear) August 30, 2020
It\u2019s hard to fear a problem when you are making progress on it\u2014even if progress is imperfect and slow.
Action relieves anxiety.
We often avoid taking action because we think "I need to learn more," but the best way to learn is often by taking action.— James Clear (@JamesClear) September 23, 2020
I joined wework in 2011 as the ~17th employee when we had 4 buildings. I was 23, naive, and didn’t know what equity or options were—I certainly didn’t know how much it could impact my financial future. When I, and the first hundred or so joined the team, /2
equity options weren’t a part of the deal and I thought nothing of it. As the company grew and we brought in more funding, the executive team decided it was time to allocate equity to its employees. It was mid-2013, about 4 years after the company started. /3
We had ~120 employees and I had been there for ~2 years. I don’t know much about what went on behind the scenes to determine who would get equity and how much, or quite frankly, why they did it at all. /4
In the process, they did a couple of things: First, the way in which they chose to allocate equity, to whom, how much, etc. was… interesting. I’ll get into that more soon. Second, for the people who were given equity options, wework made the choice *not* to backdate. /5