-Those bothered by you
-Those who are willing to talk to you
In both cases, the first seconds of making contact are crucial.
Here is how you should approach both.
How to befriend any stranger.
Easy method to build respect based friendships with new people.
PS: Don't read if you feel bad about manipulating people.
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-Those bothered by you
-Those who are willing to talk to you
In both cases, the first seconds of making contact are crucial.
Here is how you should approach both.
The person in front has absolutely no interest or reason to listen to you.
This is why it is of paramount importance NOT to talk about yourself.
Make them feel comfortable.
Let's focus on body language.
To trigger anyone's curiosity, you should convey a confident and reassuring vibe.
Your posture should be showing confidence without intimidating your interlocutor.
- Straight back
- Wide shoulders
- Pumped chest (dont over do it)
- Genuine smile
- Stay at least a meter away from the person, you want to show interest but you want them to come to you
It is important to NEVER be the one that breaks eye contact.
Look at them in the eyes with (a fake yet) genuine interest
Make them feel like you want to hear what they have to say without seeming threatening or intimidating
Do not talk about yourself.
They don't know you, so they don't care.
Yet.
Never affirm firmly with a stranger.
Ask open ended questions to force the person to talk about themselves
PS: Do not be intrusive, stay superficial, make them say more than necessary
You can bounce back on anything your interlocutor says if you have go-to stories
Prepare a few, whether search for them on Internet or think of your past experiences
Be relatable.
More from E-go Driven
How to instantly stop being depressed.
If you're currently depressed and you're seeing this tweet,
THIS is your lucky day.
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If you are already following me you probably have already read the thread below,
If not, start there and come back
The ONE thing you need to do is let go.
Except letting go is never easy.
In order to do it, there is no choice but to face everything.
My favorite method is pen and paper.
Write down EXACTLY what is making you feel depressed.
Visualize your demons.
Once you write down everything, it is time to think about a very simple question
What can I do about each of these stuff that is bothering me?
If you can do something about it, put a check.
If you can't do anything, leave it blank. We'll get back to this.
Now for all the stuff you can fix,
Define exactly what you should do to get it done.
Explicitly write what you need to do to stop worrying about this and that.
Fix a deadline.
You now have goals.
Achieve them.
If you're currently depressed and you're seeing this tweet,
THIS is your lucky day.
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If you are already following me you probably have already read the thread below,
If not, start there and come back
How to bury your old self.
— E-go Driven (@EgoDriv) January 3, 2021
Actionable strategy to become the person you want to be.
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The ONE thing you need to do is let go.
Except letting go is never easy.
In order to do it, there is no choice but to face everything.
My favorite method is pen and paper.
Write down EXACTLY what is making you feel depressed.
Visualize your demons.
Once you write down everything, it is time to think about a very simple question
What can I do about each of these stuff that is bothering me?
If you can do something about it, put a check.
If you can't do anything, leave it blank. We'll get back to this.
Now for all the stuff you can fix,
Define exactly what you should do to get it done.
Explicitly write what you need to do to stop worrying about this and that.
Fix a deadline.
You now have goals.
Achieve them.
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1/“What would need to be true for you to….X”
Why is this the most powerful question you can ask when attempting to reach an agreement with another human being or organization?
A thread, co-written by @deanmbrody:
2/ First, “X” could be lots of things. Examples: What would need to be true for you to
- “Feel it's in our best interest for me to be CMO"
- “Feel that we’re in a good place as a company”
- “Feel that we’re on the same page”
- “Feel that we both got what we wanted from this deal
3/ Normally, we aren’t that direct. Example from startup/VC land:
Founders leave VC meetings thinking that every VC will invest, but they rarely do.
Worse over, the founders don’t know what they need to do in order to be fundable.
4/ So why should you ask the magic Q?
To get clarity.
You want to know where you stand, and what it takes to get what you want in a way that also gets them what they want.
It also holds them (mentally) accountable once the thing they need becomes true.
5/ Staying in the context of soliciting investors, the question is “what would need to be true for you to want to invest (or partner with us on this journey, etc)?”
Multiple responses to this question are likely to deliver a positive result.
Why is this the most powerful question you can ask when attempting to reach an agreement with another human being or organization?
A thread, co-written by @deanmbrody:
Next level tactic when closing a sale, candidate, or investment:
— Erik Torenberg (@eriktorenberg) February 27, 2018
Ask: \u201cWhat needs to be true for you to be all in?\u201d
You'll usually get an explicit answer that you might not get otherwise. It also holds them accountable once the thing they need becomes true.
2/ First, “X” could be lots of things. Examples: What would need to be true for you to
- “Feel it's in our best interest for me to be CMO"
- “Feel that we’re in a good place as a company”
- “Feel that we’re on the same page”
- “Feel that we both got what we wanted from this deal
3/ Normally, we aren’t that direct. Example from startup/VC land:
Founders leave VC meetings thinking that every VC will invest, but they rarely do.
Worse over, the founders don’t know what they need to do in order to be fundable.
4/ So why should you ask the magic Q?
To get clarity.
You want to know where you stand, and what it takes to get what you want in a way that also gets them what they want.
It also holds them (mentally) accountable once the thing they need becomes true.
5/ Staying in the context of soliciting investors, the question is “what would need to be true for you to want to invest (or partner with us on this journey, etc)?”
Multiple responses to this question are likely to deliver a positive result.
