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How to befriend any stranger.

Easy method to build respect based friendships with new people.

PS: Don't read if you feel bad about manipulating people.

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 Before we start, what you need to know is that there are two types of strangers:

-Those bothered by you

-Those who are willing to talk to you

In both cases, the first seconds of making contact are crucial.

Here is how you should approach both.
First thing you need to realize, is that while you're only practicing your social skills

The person in front has absolutely no interest or reason to listen to you.

This is why it is of paramount importance NOT to talk about yourself.

Make them feel comfortable.
Before we get to what you will say and how.

Let's focus on body language.

To trigger anyone's curiosity, you should convey a confident and reassuring vibe.

Your posture should be showing confidence without intimidating your interlocutor.
How can your body language express positive vibes?

- Straight back
- Wide shoulders
- Pumped chest (dont over do it)
- Genuine smile
- Stay at least a meter away from the person, you want to show interest but you want them to come to you
The eye contact:

It is important to NEVER be the one that breaks eye contact.

Look at them in the eyes with (a fake yet) genuine interest

Make them feel like you want to hear what they have to say without seeming threatening or intimidating
The talk:

Do not talk about yourself.

They don't know you, so they don't care.

Yet.

Never affirm firmly with a stranger.

Ask open ended questions to force the person to talk about themselves

PS: Do not be intrusive, stay superficial, make them say more than necessary
Having go to stories and topics makes it easier to navigate through social interactions

You can bounce back on anything your interlocutor says if you have go-to stories

Prepare a few, whether search for them on Internet or think of your past experiences

Be relatable.
Once the person tells you enough (or too much) about themselves

They'll automatically and subconsciously trust you.

This is what you want.

It's time to cut it short.

Go away. Make them come back to you.

The one that is overly insisting has no value.

Dont be that guy.

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Instead of today's thread, let's have some fun

1 RT = 1 Life Lesson

First one is on the house.

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Those you trust the most are those in the best position for betrayal.

Active listening is a false God.

Most people will waste your mental space.

If you want to say "no", dont use any other word.

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5 Advanced Social Skills You Should Master

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Wherever and whenever you’ll read about social skills you’ll be told some bullshit like Active listening & “set up your boundaries”, but the truth is the interesting part of social skills is the more complex & aggressive skills that most are too cowardly to talk about.

- Confrontation

If you’re too afraid to go to confrontation: nothing you have learned about social skills will be useful to you.

The most important thing is not the confrontation itself, but your willingness to go to confrontation.

The reason is that most lack the balls & courage to go to confrontation and will back down as soon as they sense resistance from you.

Of course, this is very nuanced because it is not applicable nor recommendable in all situations.

Many times, you will find yourself tempted to confront someone but the power dynamics will simply not allow it.

This takes us to our next point.
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How to force someone to do what you want

A manipulation thread


Disclaimer:

Keep your bullshit & virtue signaling for yourself.
We all, at some point or another, need to manipulate people.
You won't always get what you want ethically.
Sometimes you just have to use manipulation techniques.

Let's start.

1- Understand & Identify Leverage:

If you want someone to do what you want them to do, you need to pull the right levers.

For that, you need to identify what can be used against them.

Be it their insecurities or something they want, situations differ.

In most cases, fear is the most powerful leverage.

Fear of negative emotions is one thing that works like a charm.

You have to make them think that not doing what you want will induce negative emotions, most people suffer from a phobia of said negative emotions.

Use it.

If you can manage to induce fear into them, you will get them to do exactly what you want.
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How to avoid being disrespected.

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Understand this:

Anyone who disrespects you did so because you let them.

The primary issue is that we think people are just evil, it's not the case.

People are driven by self-interest.

If they see opportunities, they seize them.

No matter what it costs YOU.

If you're reading this then you've probably already wondered how you can avoid being disrespected.

The answer is simple, there are 3 things you need to do.

Let me explain.

1- Tolerate less bullshit in the begining:

You see, your first interactions with people define how the rest of the relationship goes

If you tolerate misbehavior right from the start, chances are they're gonna keep doing it again

Don't let people get too comfortable too quickly

People have to deserve the right to fuck around with you.

A bad joke from a friend is not the same as when it comes from an acquaintance
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How to instantly stop being depressed.

If you're currently depressed and you're seeing this tweet,

THIS is your lucky day.

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If you are already following me you probably have already read the thread below,

If not, start there and come back


The ONE thing you need to do is let go.

Except letting go is never easy.

In order to do it, there is no choice but to face everything.

My favorite method is pen and paper.

Write down EXACTLY what is making you feel depressed.

Visualize your demons.

Once you write down everything, it is time to think about a very simple question

What can I do about each of these stuff that is bothering me?

If you can do something about it, put a check.

If you can't do anything, leave it blank. We'll get back to this.

Now for all the stuff you can fix,

Define exactly what you should do to get it done.

Explicitly write what you need to do to stop worrying about this and that.

Fix a deadline.

You now have goals.

Achieve them.
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