I partnered out of insecurity with someone who talked a good game and seemed strong in the areas I felt weak.
This insecurity cost me $$$
Choosing a business partner could be the 2nd most important relationship you ever choose (after who you marry.)
I just got out of a 5-year partnership that had become toxic.
Here's where I went wrong.
👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼
I partnered out of insecurity with someone who talked a good game and seemed strong in the areas I felt weak.
This insecurity cost me $$$
- What are my goals for this business?
- What are my strengths and weaknesses?
- What parts of starting/building this business am I the most unsure about?
- What might my perfect partner look like?
✅ Financially sensible & secure
✅ Shared vision & goals
✅ Emotionally intelligent (high eq > high iq)
✅ High integrity
✅ Similar work ethic
50/50 isn’t a business decision, it’s a settlement.
It’s a common way to decide equity splits because a down-the-middle split seems 'fair'. However, it's also lazy and more often than not is a bad deal for one person, and gets worse the longer it goes on
💰 Money
🎯 Skills
👥 Network
💡 Original idea
⏳ Experience
💪🏻 Sweat equity
Vesting is a term I wasn’t even aware of in 2015, but it’s essentially a way to accrue your equity over time instead of all at once. Common in the startup world, but not in the bootstrapped world.
My mistake: We both got our full 50% equity up front 🤦🏻♀️
Had we vested, he may only have been able to walk out with 20-25% equity.
😩😩😩
You must have an operating agreement! The purpose of this is to govern the internal operations of the business in a way that suits you - the owners.
Do NOT use a template or try to save money by avoiding using a lawyer.
This is one way I screwed myself and it became an enormous (and expensive) problem later.
Reenactment of me fixing later:
In marriage, the general statistic is that 50% of marriages end in divorce.
Well, 100% of businesses are going to end at some point and should be planned for at the beginning. Think of the buy-sell agreement as the prenup for your business.
- How should the business be valued?
- How quickly am I going to get paid out?
- Who can I/can I not sell to?
- Does my spouse have to sell back to the business if I die?
- What happens in a divorce when assets are split?
Owners should have fiduciary responsibility to the company.
Financial stress is one of the biggest reasons for divorce, and it’s no different in a business partnership — you need an explicit policy and it should include reward points.
In my case, my choice almost broke me and the business by the end.
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In the Spring of 2017, after a deep dive into the Fake News phenomena, the security team wanted to publish an update that covered what we had learned. At this point, we didn’t have any advertising content or the big IRA cluster, but we did know about the GRU model.
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