For those with friends or family in QAnon, tomorrow will be quite a day.

The Inauguration is going to plunge many Q believers into doubt and dismay.

The most committed will simply double down, but others will want a way out.

If you're able, give them an off-ramp. No mocking.

As a guy, growing up, I had precisely zero experiences where I felt like I really emotionally connected with any of my guy friends (this was high school, so of course they were guys), or anyone at all. All we did was play football & videogames, and watch bad action/comedy films.

Then, about 8 years ago, I went to a female acquaintance's birthday party, which was filled with girls actually *talking* and *having fun* with each other. To this day it remains the single most impactful event of my entire life; it showed me there was such a thing as connection.

(What do I mean when I say connection? I'm talking about feeling safe; feeling understood; feeling accepted; feeling loved; and feeling like the other person *genuinely cares* about you as a conscious being. A heartfelt conversation; a deep interest in each other's experience.)

During the years after the party, given that I'd only had this one experience, I found it difficult to find it again. Given a single datapoint, how do you create another like it? Was it girls? The activities? The talking?

As it is said: I fucked around and slowly found out.

(I was still shy & insecure, so I wasn't able to reliably find connection irl yet. A few films became fond markers showing this magic exists: Before Sunrise, The Tree of Life. They were my first hints that other people shared this, and were shouting off the rooftops to find me.)

When I was a kid, I played Deus Ex. I was about 17 years old at the time.

I was able to understand that DX was a cartoon version of its subject matter. But it nonetheless captured my imagination, asking

"What if the entire planet could be managed by mere mortals?"

In the story, of course, this has disastrous consequences. The systems are too vast and complex. The answer ends up being:

"They'd ruin everybody's life until they ran the whole system off a cliff."

But the genie was out of the bottle, for my young mind at least. The idea of secret cabals of the ultra wealthy and politically connected, exerting influence over the unfolding of history...

It was appealing. To imagine at least that someone was in a driver's seat.

Somewhere.

And look, it's not like there aren't clubs.

There are, literally, clubs. The Ivy League buys little hangouts in different major cities, so alums can efficiently transact that lucrative network. There's douchier, nouveau riche versions of the same. Cliques, associations, name it.

But it turns out, there's no board room somewhere secret.

In practice, there's no global board of directors. The system isn't that tidy. It's all the chaotic grasping of people desperate to keep themselves safe, and therefore powerful.

The alignment of the elites is emergent.

ever wondered about my personal life? no? well let’s pretend (i’ve actually never done one of these before)

1. i have not been a virgin in *checks notes* over a decade

2. 100% sub bottom. my bdsm test results are so bottom that the dom top options do not even register. i have been told i have top energy tho whatever that means

3. i am not picky about who i have sex with as long as they top but ideally someone who could kick my ass (but won’t unless i ask them to bc they’re nice). also caregiver doms. i am actually very transparent LOL

4. receiving any art is a blessing that i will treasure forever 💕

A list of questions and checks to help you see if you should automate a process or not.

I've had a lot of people asking for this.

This is just what I use.

1st half are open-ended questions for exploration
2nd half are rankings for prioritization.

Hope this helps you!

1. Do I understand what I am automating?

Often times we think we are automating a process, but instead, we may be automating a destructive pattern.

Do it manually for a few weeks.

Dont perpetuate bad actions.

Go through the learning as a person, automate what you learned.

Example:

If you are filtering people for hire, and you automate right off the bat, you may automate based on the wrong criteria.

Its better to filter manually, do some calls, have some interviews, and adjust the process a bit until you are automating the right thing.

2. What do I gain?

Automating, just to automate is not useful. It just creates another system to maintain without any upside.

Each automation adds to the complexity of your business process. As complexity increases, so does areas for breakage and unintended consequences.

3. What do I lose?

Every automation results in loss.

Proximity to the process.

You may miss a "regime shift" as things change.

You may lose closeness to your customers and personal interaction.

You miss an understanding of your operation as it grows or changes.

Thread - When in doubt, just move

In this thread, I'll discuss one of the major issues I had a couple of years back.

The issue of staying still when there's no reason to.

The issue of not actively doing something and thinking I could think my way out of problems.

Let's get into it.

I've always been thinking too much for my own sake.

I like to break down complex ideas, look at them from a bird's eye standpoint.

This is cool, but only to a certain extent.

It starts being very problematic when it comes to practicality.

What would happen is, every time I came around a roadblock, I would try to think harder (thinking that it would lead me to a solution)

It doesn't.

All it happened was I was left feeling more overwhelmed and with no answers.

This is what I would call "Living life passively."

When I look at unhappy people, there's usually a common denominator in them.

They're letting life happen to them.

They've settled for the "comfy" job, for the "stable" relationship, or they just straight-up haven't achieved jack shit and yet they don't do anything about it.

true TIs...

the saga of slander attacks in shite gobbles continues...time and again; i stated TRUTH in solid rebuttals that not only prove i am not anything perps LIE smearing campaigning me as but contained solid evidence sustaining that truth. i want to make a few things...

very clear 1. under NO condition, i do not and will not ever accept any "terms" irrationally demanded by a perp. 2. as of present day, i have NOT execute/done/committed any hurtful and/or harmful act towards a perpetrator. 3. i maintain my innocents, character, integrity,...

and genuinity in my self as a individual human being and in my work i did on behalf of true targeted individuals. 4. it was i; myself and me alone; whose originality of solid work; authenticity of thought; and credibility of morals helped induce the exposure of war crimes,...

atrocities, genocide program, technologies, and warfares for true targeted individuals. 5. my work on behalf of true targeted individuals did cause me to be targeted with extreme,severe targeting in me being "singled out" by perpetrators who infiltrated the TI community. ...

6. i maintain my right to freedom of speech, right to defend myself, and right to exercise solid judgment in who to help and who to not help due to preposterous fabricated LIES via perps' flying monkeys who seek to further in the smearing and slander attacks against me. ...

5 ways to succeed in your youth

- Thread -

I- Investment

Investment is a necessary factor for your good development.

If you want to grow your income, you will have to invest.

This step is not optional.

You are often told to save money, this is bullshit.

The value of your money will decrease every year.

II- Be fearless

Fear is man's worst enemy.

It gnaws at him until it makes him a docile person.

Risks must be part of your daily life.

If you don't take them, you don't move forward.

The best way to learn is to fail.

Since "at 22" is trending and I coincidentally changed my profile picture to this on facebook yesterday, here I am at 22 back in 1984 and in my final year at university. 1/14

Earlier in the year I'd dyed my hair pink and yellow as a rag week stunt, and then all pink so as it wasn't quite so crazy. In a way, dying my hair like this may have helped determine the course of my whole subsequent life. 2/14

A few weeks later, with the hair dye still very much showing, I landed a job at a small software company based in a farmhouse near #Peterborough. I turned down an interview for a job with a big company, Ferranti, because I'd become aware of its links to the defence industry. 3/14

My mother thought I was making a big mistake, passing up the chance to work for a famous and long-established blue-chip company, and choosing a company that would probably go under quickly. 4/14

The software company often struggled. Sometimes when we got our pay cheques we were asked not to pay them in just yet, until those who were married and had kids had got their pay cheques cleared, in case some of the cheques bounced. 5/14

@Will_Bunch OK, so 25 years ago I set off with 3 friends (one who I am now married to) to hike amongst the Dogon people of Eastern Mali. Little did I know that the research I made for that trip was to have this moment for me to shine. A thread:

10 big ideas for the next 10 years. Here are 10 ideas I think will make fundamental shifts in innovation, politics, money as we head towards 2030. Feel free to add yours

1. Tech focused youth involvement in governance. Over the next decade, there'll be greater involvement in the political process by the young digitally savvy demographic. Technology will play a massive role in helping young people build movements & in demanding for accountability

2. Build for export: With the Naira's continued depreciation, and decreasing purchasing power of Nigerians, more entrepreneurs will be forced to look outwards in search of fortunes. Nigeria will essentially become the incubation centre for businesses with global ambitions

3. Remote working neighbourhoods/cities. As entrepreneurs look outwards, the talent with exportable digital skills will also look outwards for employment opportunities. Investment in real estate that caters to remote workers will become an opportunity

4. Engineering offices. As Nigerias tech ecosystem matures & the current mid-level programmers, designers, PMs, transition into senior roles, foreign mid-sized tech companies'll start opening eng offices in Nigeria to get early access to the talent pipeline before coys like FB do

Sweetest Revenge
I woke up this morning troubled about stuff and had vivid dreams about it too & then decided to write my views regarding the term "Forgiveness" or you can say that the sweetest Revenge ever.

It clicked my mind when my best friends said

"Forgive and forget from heart is difficult though" and they elaborated further that there are many times in life you come across people, they are rude cause you harm, they are going to do things that messed up your life and for a while u just think about forgiveness

But a person does the same thing over and over & every time you forgive them & keep doing this same thing over and over then what you can do, because you have to realize that things will never change & categorically stated that " you can't change someone's nature" & furthermore

"Once a snake always a snake".
On the other side I wanted to rebut that vague terms but don't know why I always failed to convey my opinion regarding that. I am on a view that we all sin, we all make mistakes but Allah always opened the door of forgiveness.

They cannot understand that "forgiveness is for you not for them". It benefits you not only after life but in this life as well. Let it go gives us satisfaction. Every religion emphasised about forgiveness and to forget. One of my best friend always quote the saying that

One of the sad things we know about abusive parenting is that it often propagates over generations.

I’m very glad my grandfather broke that chain and didn’t become his abusive step-father. Because it turns out that supportive parenting *also* propagates over generations.

About the time I was 9 I was pissed at my parents for something or other, as kids are. And I angrily thought, “When I have kids, I won’t do xxx to them.”
And then it occurred to me that I really liked who and how I was, and their rules had helped make me that.

So I decided I probably *should* parent the way they did.

In retrospect, that was probably a bit too much faith in nurture over nature. I was an only child, so I didn’t have a counter example. Having two kids abused me of *that* theory. :)

But I really value my supportive dad.

My father was *so* supportive of my endeavors, even as an adult, that my first wife’s dad asked her if there was something wrong with me that I needed that much support. (He was the dad she had to actively deceive to study math, and to come to the US).

And it wasn’t just big stuff, it was little things. Like when I had a cloth board for my cosmic wimpout game, and the edges were fraying, he surprised me by sewing a border on it. Or the bunk bed he helped me make for college to fit over my desk. And the stereo cabinet we built.

24 SELF DEVELOPMENT TIPS

1. Make friends with successful people and occasionally buy them gifts and surprise them with lunch because successful people always give and hardly get, so when you give them, they value the gift a lot.

2. Get a mentor and follow his instructions

and respect the relationship. Never beg your mentor for money or disrespect his or her privacy.

3. Make new positive friends as often as possible and ensure you keep the communication line open. Create a network of friends and not just connections.

5. Show kindness to everyone. Some small boys today will be big boys tomorrow. The biggest dog in the neighbourhood was once a puppy. Keep the information/secret to yourself.

6. Always plan ahead and be proactive. He that plans the future works less in the future.

7. Listen to speeches and messages from great teachers, both religious and educational.

8. Attend seminars and trainings on any area you need to improve yourself - Train the trainer, personal development, public speaking, sales etc.

9. Have the habit of keeping a pen and a writing pad handy because ideas come in the form of flashes. The smallest pen is bigger and better than the biggest brain.

10. Make sure at every point in time you are reading a book. If you spend 20 minutes reading daily,

1/Joe (not real name) is a Beninoise young man who has been my family plumber for over 8 yrs. Very effective, competent, friendly & trustworthy, he graduated from petty kitchen sink fixes in our rented apartment to being the only artisan we did not collect a comparative quote for

2/ He has helped with full house plumbing works for 2 projects in the past 6 years, both costing millions in material and labour. But the more important part is, we introduced him to a big man brother, a bank executive, about 5 yrs ago and he has been their own family plumber too

3/ He has helped the brother to do the plumbing jobs in all the projects he has done since then. Impressed with his work (and character), this VI based brother has also introduced him to his friend/neighbour, another bank executive (husband CEO of a bank, wife ED of another bank)

4/ He has been their go to guy for all water issues in their houses. The last thing I saw on his Whatsapp status was video of him fixing the water system of the swimming pool in the palatial home of these execs.

5/ We that introduced him are probably the smallest fry in his portfolio now. But he remains humble. Still use him for renovation work last week. He still takes small N30k jobs from his low to middle income neighbourhood customers.

Here are a few thoughts on everything from this humble reply guy:

1: The establishment/uniparty/whatever are about to go scorched earth on whatever is left of the MAGA movement. The pampered rich kid just got a bloody nose and is about to send his lawyer parents after the bully.

If anyone wanted to defuse this, they'd offer amnesty to the protestors and give Trump a backdoor deal where he's uncharged but stays out of the political world and gets to go back to being a reality TV personality, with a bit of Dubya-style character rehabilitation thrown in.

From there, they'd steer the MAGA movement back into the ideological walled garden of Dan Crenshaw and Charlie Kirk. There'd still be rallies, but now it'd be Marco Rubio or Nikki Haley. The vast majority of Trump's voter base would lap it up like puppies.

But everyone either doesn't want to defuse this (so they can scorch even more earth) or they're so blinded by partisan furor (and their base is so fired up) that the calls for blood become a vicious cycle that pushes this towards the territory of 19th century American politics.

2: The clearpill is that even when galaxies collide, individual star systems are barely affected. Focus on yourself, focus on your job, focus on building and sustaining a good home life, and no matter which way the political winds end up blowing, you'll probably be alright.

Have you met your Inner Child?

You might see them as yourself in your early years.
You might seem them as a patchwork of childhood.
You may even just see dreams of youthful play.

An awareness of your Inner Child can you bring balance to your life.

#innerchildwork #csa #healing

First, not everyone associates childhood with playfulness and fun. If you, like me, have experience the wounds of emotional, physical, mental, sexual, or any other type of abuse - childhood can rouse feelings of suspicion, fear, and vulnerability. You may carry pain buried deep..

inside that aims to protect you from both your present self and the child you once were.

For years, I buried this pain afraid to release it for fear I might disappear in the weight of it. I feared connecting with my inner children as much as they feared being seen.