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Three years ago today, I was icing my knuckles because I’d beaten the fuck out of a man who had groped me in a club a couple of nights before. I wrote about it in my new essay https://t.co/SqzluTtJKb 📷 @rerutled #IBeatMyAssaulter

 After I explained to a club manager what had happened, he ooked at my Beloved and asked me “Why didn’t you let your husband take care of it?” I almost beat him up too.

“First of all, he’s not my husband. Also, this is my body, I take care of it.” https://t.co/SqzluTtJKb
Patriarchy enables and protects men who sexually assault women, and it demands that only other men “protect” us.

As long as we obey and behave in ways it approves of, of course. Protection is conditional.Because if we disobey, ha! I don't want to be protected. I want to be free
I started #IBeatMyAssaulter and women from around the world shared stories.

Five days earlier, I had started #MosqueMeToo to talk about being sexually assaulted during pilgrimage and women from around the world shared stories 🎥 @rerutled
And between the two #, men were showing me how easily the goal posts can move.

Under #MosqueMeToo men asked me, “Why didn’t you make more of a fuss?” Under #IBeatMyAssaulter men said, “You made too much of a fuss. You were too violent. Don’t you think you overreacted?”
It didn't matter: hijab or tank top, a man’s hands still found me.

If at most sacred of temples-holiest site of my religion-I am not safe from predatory hands, where am I safe? If at most secular of temples-a club-predatory men also insist on assaulting us, where are we safe?
And now with spike in intimate partner terrorism during the pandemic: I wonder why those abusive men never fear that those women they live with could poison their food or simply kill them in their sleep for being abusive fucks. (From 2020) 🎥 @rerutled
I am not asking that question to put the burden of fighting back on women. Many do, and they are punished more severely for fighting back than are the men who beat/assault them. Prisons around the world are full of women who fight back & streets are full of men who assaulted them
I know that we can’t always fight back. My priority is to survive. I never want what I have shared here to make anyone feel guilty for not beating up her assaulter.

I also know that we are not socialized to fight back. We are not taught to fight back. https://t.co/SqzluTtJKb
Men are not socialized to expect us to fight back.

How long must we wait until men stop beating and murdering us, even under #COVID19 lockdown? Where is the vaccine against that violence?

🎥 @rerutled
I am glad I found my assaulter. I sat on top of him & I punched & I punched & I punched his face. And I yelled at him “Don’t you ever touch a woman like that again!”I wanted him to know that next time he thought he could assault a woman, she too could beat the fuck out of him.
When I stopped, the fucking asshole stood up and turned to look at me. I looked right back at him. I wanted him to see this average height woman and remember her as the harbinger of more rage and more punches to come. I beat him and It was fucking glorious https://t.co/SqzluTtJKb
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Prisons around the world are full of women who fight back & the streets are full of the men who assaulted them.

"The vast majority of women in prison have been victims of violence prior to their incarceration incl domestic violence, rape, sexual assault" https://t.co/TIIgNzaC8F
"The average prison sentence for men who kill their female partners is two to six years By contrast women, who kill their partners are sentenced on average to 15 years." https://t.co/7zuyt0xyvk
In 2019, the imprisonment rate for African American women (83 per 100,000) was over 1.7 times the rate of imprisonment for white women (48 per 100,000). https://t.co/79JbHesJ2V
“The legal system is designed to protect men from the superior power of the state but not to protect women or children from the superior power of men,” U.S. feminist psychiatrist Judith Herman, Trauma and Recovery, The Aftermath of Violence-From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

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“It’s been a horrendous year for victims of abuse,” Nicole Jacobs, the designated 1st domestic abuse commissioner for England & Wales. As England goes into new lockdown, the horrendous will continue. I made this in May 🎥 @rerutled


66%: The increase in the number of calls to the National Domestic Abuse helpline in March-May 2020 reported by Refuge
40%: The increase in the number of calls to the Women’s Aid chat line service in first two weeks of lockdown in March 2020

On Tuesday, the domestic abuse bill, which includes creation of Jacobs’ role, goes to the House of Lords. The bill for 1st time will create a statutory definition of domestic abuse that encompasses emotional, coercive or controlling,and economic abuse as well as physical violence

14 women were recorded by Counting Dead Women as killed by men in 1st 3 weeks of lockdown in UK: highest rate for 11yrs.
Where’s the vaccine vs patriarchy?
Women, children, queer people are being terrorized at home. Home is where the hurt is
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As England goes into 3rd lockdown, escaping domestic abuse was listed as a reason to break lockdown. In just about every country across the world, there has been a spike in domestic abuse during lockdown. what fucking world is this where such violence is a given?
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Three years ago this week, I beat up a man who groped me in a club. It was fucking glorious. Celebrate that anniversary with me!
https://t.co/SSFfVCYvA0 #IBeatMyAssaulter

I’ve lost count of the # times I’ve been sexually assaulted and I know that my reactions have spanned a spectrum, all of them valid. That night it was: Are you fucking kidding me? And my body went into autodrive; it knew exactly what to do.
Tell me your #IBeatMyAssaulter stories

And sign up to FEMINIST GIANT.

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I know that we can’t always fight back. My priority is to survive. I never want what I have shared here to make anyone feel guilty for not beating up her assaulter.

I also know that we are not socialized to fight back. We are not taught to fight back. #IBeatMyAssaulter

Men are not socialized to expect us to fight back. I think of that when I hear of the spike in intimate partner terrorism during the pandemic. I wonder why those men never fear that those women could poison their food or simply kill them in their sleep for being abusive fucks.
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cw: violence

"A man has been found not guilty of murdering his wife, just days into the first national Covid lockdown. Anthony Williams, 70, said he "just flipped" and strangled his wife Ruth at their home."

How long must we wait until men stop beating and murdering us, even under #COVID19? And being found “not guilty?”

I made this in April
🎥 @rerutled



“The legal system is designed to protect men from the superior power of the state but not to protect women or children from the superior power of men,” U.S. feminist psychiatrist Judith Herman, Trauma and Recovery, The Aftermath of Violence-From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror


"The national US av prison sentence of men who kill their female partners is 2-6 yrs, while women who kill their partners are sentenced on av to 15yrs, despite the fact that most women who kill their partners do so to protect themselves from violence initiated by their partners"

Prisons around the world are full of women who fight back and the streets are full of the men who assaulted them.

And there are dead women. Many many dead
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It is a fuck-this-shit moment for Egyptian women. And the rage and reckoning are the fuel of revolution. Not a cis-gender heterosexual dick-swinging revolution. We already had one of those almost 10 years ago.
A feminist revolution.

The revolutions that began 10 years ago in the Middle East and North Africa might have been started by a man. They will be completed by women and queer people too often marginalized and ignored and subjected to violence by the State, Street and Home.

I wrote this in 2012. And I turned it into my first book Headscarves and Hymens: Why the Middle East Needs a Sexual Revolution to say that unless the rage shifts from the presidential palace to the Street and Home, the revolution has not started

Over the coming weeks, I will be writing more about the #Egyptian revolution 10 years on

“Until the rage shifts from the oppressors in our presidential palaces to the oppressors on our street corners and in our homes, our revolution has not even begun.”

I call that the Trifecta of Misogyny: State, Street, Home. I wrote about it in my 2015 book #HeadscarvesAndHymens
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I'm giving up on social media consumption too.

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Who needs another "5 ways to boost growth" post? I click and am disappointed every time. Not again.

I don't want to poop on content marketing, but marketers need to step it up.

Or at least, founders need to know that doing something is not always better than doing nothing.

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But one things for damn sure.

Things have to change.

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Why blog/podcast/vlog/etc about something that's already been said? Already been done?

Do we really need another interview with founder of x hot startup? Do we really need another ultimate guide about facebook ads?

Not all content is like this...

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If you don't settle in your 20s, you are gone!
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Quickly!
Time's running.
Look at everyone else doing it!

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People who are poor are lazy.
People who are rich are hardworking.
It is your fault if you haven't made it in life.
Look at everyone else who made it.
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Lie 3:
Those in corporate jobs, are unambitious.
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Previously, I might have given some lessons I have learnt in 24 Months,

By nature man should learn, adapt and survive,

It's through pain that you learn the greatest secrets of life, things we ignore but really matter,

Which lessons?

Let's see,


1. Be ready to unlearn anything- by unlearning, chances of anything happening are infinite,

People change,

Times change,

Feelings change,

When this happens, take a step back, don't bitch around, feel, heal and move on. Create your reality.


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It is what it is, just does not work,

You have to make it work, so you must learn,

Faster to even outrun your capabilities.


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Big companies can take months/years for even the smallest of pivots.

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