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Too many patterns leads to a boring, predictable, logical lifestyle.
Get the emotions involved.
Do something spontaneous out of the blue moon & flip the script.
'What's wrong with the patterns?'
Nothing is wrong with patterns.
However, there is a problem when all you have are patterns.
'Can you explain why?'
The thing with relationships is that it's meant to be an emotional experience.
It's very difficult to logically explain love, right?
Well this is where you want to steer the ship the right way.
1. Too emotional is bad.
2. Too logical is bad.
Let me break it down.
1. Too emotional
If a relationship is completely ruled by emotions, then it's too volatile.
You will never reach productivity if you are aimlessly only following each others emotions.
This lifestyle tarnishes any structure for the couple.
'So why do people do it?'
Because it's fun.
You may ruled by this stage in the honeymoon phase.
You'll be so spontaneous that it almost becomes a lifestyle.
But it's hard to level up your life when you're too spontaneous.
This is why a lot of high IQ people lack social intelligence.
They talk to humans like robots & are baffled when they are resented for it.
This is why the charismatic person who knows less often rises up quicker
'What you smoking bro?? My IQ will be the biggest factor of my success!'
That's a limiting belief.
I'm gonna shake up your paradigm real quick 👇
You have been conditioned your entire life to believe that IQ score alone will dictate success.
And like most people, we were like 'yea, sure!'
But there's few incorrect thought patterns here
1. Success is subjective.
2. IQ exam insinuates intellect is fixed.
3. Your high IQ won't make others give a fuck, your communication will.
Let's go thru each one
1. Success is subjective
What I consider success may not be success for you.
Success it's a mirror image of where you are & where you want to be.
Aka sense of self.
So measuring success starts from looking within, not an exam.
Only give these currencies to high value people. Never spend these currencies on low value shitheads eg: trolls, weasels, snakes, naysayers etc.
'Wait, I thought money was the most important currency?'
Once you adopt abundance mentality, you realize their is no shortage of money.
Making the dollars your most important currency will have you leading an empty life.
Time to flip your perspective.
When you strip yourself to the core, you are an emotional creature.
Emotions are your internal worlds energy.
Harnessing that energy is crucial for leveraging yourself to obtain whatever you want.
You have a finite amount everyday, so spend it wisely.
A second that is lost will never be returned.
You start valuing the hell out of this currency the more you mature.
As the years start adding up, you realize time is precious.
You must always have a scarcity mindset towards time.
Once you do so, you will not be lazy.
You can be here, but not present.
Attention is completely mental.
Giving someone your attention means you are clearing up mental bandwidth to make room for them.
Only give your attention to people who help you grow.
For the negative ones?
Ignore their existence
If you are compromising too much, there is a chance that you are getting manipulated.
Why are you the one that's always compromising?
How come the other person always gets their way?
Be more curious.
If something seems off, stick up for yourself.
'Wait, you sure I am being manipulated?'
I have no clue, that is only something that you can decide for yourself.
'Dang is there anything I need to look out for?'
But let me give you a few things to look out for.
I see manipulation as skillfully controlling someone's behavior for egotistical or unethical purposes.
'How come people don't leave when it's happening to them?'
Because most people have 0 clue that they are being manipulated.
1. Guilt Trip
You ever made a mistake around someone, only for them to hold it over your head?
The will always bring up the mistake when you 2 are not seeing eye to eye.
These people will use that mistake as leverage to get what they want from you in the future.
2. The Rationalizer
This person will commit the worst acts & find a way to rationalize it.
Example: cheaters when they get caught.
They have every excuse in the book for why they did it.
Heck, they are so good at rationalizing, they will make it seem like your fault.
Ditch the 'does the crowd like me?' mentality.
Adopt the 'do I like the crowd?' mentality.
This mindset shift makes you feel more in control & powerful.
Here are a few more bonus tips for crowd control.
These tips will have you showing the audience that you control the room.
Every audience likes it when the speaker takes charge.
Use these moves in your next speech & dominate the big stage like a superstar!
1. Wait a few seconds before starting
Starting immediately makes you look needy.
The few second wait will builds hype & keeps the control in your favor.
'How long do you typically take?'
I take around 5-7 seconds to build the hype.
Find your sweet spot.
2. Take pauses
Many beginning speakers are terrified of pauses.
They think they will be exposed as a fraud whenever there is silence.
Pauses sound longer to you than it does for the audience.
An audience loves a speaker who pauses rather than a turbo talker.
3. Body Language
Your body is crucial to delivery.
Luckily you always have control over it.
As you begin, your body may become smaller, you will cover your torso more, and will look down.
Chest out, chin up, open palms, strong eye contact & walk with purpose soldier.
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It doesn't happen because you made it happen.
It happens because you allow it to happen.
There is a fine line between persistence and stubbornness.— The Irrational Investor (@position_trader) August 28, 2019
True for life, true for investing.
Why is this the most powerful question you can ask when attempting to reach an agreement with another human being or organization?
A thread, co-written by @deanmbrody:
Next level tactic when closing a sale, candidate, or investment:— Erik Torenberg (@eriktorenberg) February 27, 2018
Ask: \u201cWhat needs to be true for you to be all in?\u201d
You'll usually get an explicit answer that you might not get otherwise. It also holds them accountable once the thing they need becomes true.
2/ First, “X” could be lots of things. Examples: What would need to be true for you to
- “Feel it's in our best interest for me to be CMO"
- “Feel that we’re in a good place as a company”
- “Feel that we’re on the same page”
- “Feel that we both got what we wanted from this deal
3/ Normally, we aren’t that direct. Example from startup/VC land:
Founders leave VC meetings thinking that every VC will invest, but they rarely do.
Worse over, the founders don’t know what they need to do in order to be fundable.
4/ So why should you ask the magic Q?
To get clarity.
You want to know where you stand, and what it takes to get what you want in a way that also gets them what they want.
It also holds them (mentally) accountable once the thing they need becomes true.
5/ Staying in the context of soliciting investors, the question is “what would need to be true for you to want to invest (or partner with us on this journey, etc)?”
Multiple responses to this question are likely to deliver a positive result.
I have attracted dozens of mentors since I was a teenager. As I've gotten older, I've realized these relationships were the secret to my growth.
Here's how to find mentors of your own 👇👇👇
1/ Don't obsess over finding The Expert.
This is the BIG mistake anyone looking for someone to "mentor them" makes.
All you need is to find someone who knows the very-next-thing you want to learn. Technically, anyone "a little bit further along" can be your mentor.
2/ Start to see everyone around you as A Mentor
- Your co-worker with 1-2 yrs more experience is a mentor
- Your family friend who is always telling "war stories" is a mentor
- Your neighbor, cousin, aunt, uncle who has done what you're trying to do, can all be mentors
3/ Start with 1 question
Mentorship isn't a formal agreement. You don't ask, "Will you be my mentor for life?"
The key is to ask 1 question. See if the person gives you guidance.
Take that guidance. Apply it. Go back and ask a 2nd question. See if they reciprocate.
4/ True mentorships are mutually beneficial
Mentors want to share what they know with people who listen carefully & apply their wisdom.
It allows the mentor a "2nd chance" at walking their path, imagining what might have happened if they'd known what they know now, sooner
It's been 24 months of learning, to be honest, I never knew this side of Twitter, until October,
A friend told me about it, gave me every encouragement I needed.
It has been an amazing journey to 100, Thank you.
1. Choices- what you and work towards always works. If you work so hard in a company, you get motivated. Same case to life, what you choose to work towards consistently, no matter how stupid it is WILL ALWAYS work.
2. You must be pushed hard to the wall to save yourself- the only reason why you are afraid of going an extra mile is because your condition isn't pathetic enough. If it's pathetic enough, you'll find ways to save yourself.
3. Nothing is really special- Go a few days without talking to some people. You'll see how they easily forget, you'll also forget. Aim at doing what matters. Don't attach your happiness to anyone or anything.
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2) 2 Weeks ago, my dog was effected by it as well. He is hearing things that aren’t technically audible. I can tell by his body language and sounds. One week ago I began feeling a pressure in my head and ears. It wasn’t painful at all, but it was intense for a bit.
3) It reminded me of taking off in an airplane a bit. I felt like I was in a vacuum. It went on and off for a couple of days. I’ve picked up on frequencies and high pitched sounds (not audible to most) for 30 years, and today my right ear began to ring for longer than usual.
4) This is nothing unusual for me, with exception of the duration. This happens often with me. No, it’s not tinnitus. Only this time, when I spoke, there was reverb creating a high pitch in my ear from my voice. This lasted for about 30 minutes. It did not hurt, just annoying.
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2/ I remember being 26 and writing about reading 52 books a year. I wrote blog posts about it. They got copied. It became "a thing." Now it's in Twitter bios. It looks impressive but it's insanely useless and I shouldn't have done it.
3/ what I should have known at that time is that only young idiots like myself, with no accomplishments, find list of tiny achievements impressive. Anyone who has actually done anything of substance doesn't gaf
4/ what is actually difficult, and worthwhile, instead is to do ONE single thing for a very, very long time. It's much harder and much rarer and results in outlier outcomes much more often.
Of course you can find this out too late if you are chasing the dragon of Ted talks etc
5/ if I had only worked on a startup for a year, I would've gotten nowhere, the same way that if you lift for 3 months, it achieves nothing. Everything good in life comes from perseverance, but at the beginning, you're just like "I need to be somebody!!!"