How to respond like a Sabi Boy/ Enlightened alpha/ Zen Alpha, when she asks...

Her: Sabi Boy, are you still seeing other girls?

There is a difference between allowing a women do whatever she wants, and treating her accordingly
(which is what I advise)

And

Having a woman treat you anyhow, giving you drama, wasting your time and treating you like shit

Lemme elaborate further

The easiest way to make a woman come back to you is to hold the door wide open for her when she wants to leave

Go no contact

Don't call

Don't text

Don't hit her up with any new years, happy valentines, merry Christmas, etc

For the Time limited hustler who strives for wealth and freedom, you have 2 choices to make

1. Increase the Value of your Time

2. Completely separate the money you make from the time you spend

Pick whichever sounds nice to your ear before you continue reading this thread

I'd like to

1. Increasing the value of one's time is the realm of very successful business practitioners and self employed men

Musicians, footballers, doctors, etc

Wizkid can get paid millions for a couple of hours

Messi gets paid thousands of dollars for 90 minutes on the pitch

But there's a caveat...

In going down this route, one has to be AMAZING at what they do

What's worse?

Even if you're the best at what you do, other people still get to decide what your time is worth...

Her body count
Part 1

Signs that she's only had sex with 0 to 2 men°

These girls are sweet and trusting with men they're already having sex with

They're playing love on beginner level

The emotions she feels are strong

Here is how you know she has only had sex with 0 to 2 men

1. She will have a very strong emotional attachment to you

2. She hardly takes charge in the relationship, she let's you be in charge

3. She doesn't doubt or suspect you of anything

4. She usually believes everything you tell her

5. She can often times be shy and reserved

6. She will fall in love with you pretty quickly

7. She can be conservative and unwilling to try out new things

8. She feels like sex is naughty but exciting

9. She will have some sexual inhibitions

10. She believes that Love = Sex

For y'all monogamous men, women with 0 to 2 partners will hardly ever cheat. Most will not.

They are usually devoted to their man and think he's God sent... Usually

There's some fear mixed in too, what if she loses him? Will she never find another guy like him again?

Men... If you're going to be involved with women with low body counts, handle them responsibly. Their relationship with you will contribute to her formation. You're going to have an impact. Don't get involved with such girls if you're not looking for love in the future

Her body count
Part 2

Signs that she's had sex with 3 to 7 men°

These girls are shy but they're also curious and open to try out new things

If you're pretty good in the bedroom, you'll enjoy teaching these girls

You can be one of the most influential figures in her life if...

you reach her during this phase and teach her how to enjoy sex and understand her body better

These girls are also pretty open too

Here's how you can spot them

1. They will have a fairly strong emotional attachment to you

2. They may or may not fall in love with you quickly

3. might attempt to take charge but they'll give in quickly to alphas

4. suspects you of things but they are calm

5. fluctuates between being shy then excited

6. May seem conservative but also willing to test the waters outside

7. She is unclear about the relationship between sex and love

Women with 3 to 7 body counts are more likely to cheat than the woman with 0 to 2 partners

They are also more likely to have fast and casual sex

She may not necessarily want them, but she is curious... And that's enough

She will put herself in situations where she can be...

❤✈️🌎 2 years ago today @JamesIvings and I sold all our belongings and left the UK to travel for a year. We've never been happier and we have no plans to ever return there 🙂

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Since then we've started a remote web dev company @SquarecatWebDev and been lucky enough to have completed several freelance projects 💻 that have kept us on the road.

In the last few months we've become a huge part of this amazing new Maker community and have found so many new friends from @makerskitchen, @women_make_ and several others! 🥰

We love travelling together (even if I'm only a glorified laptop watcher 😒) but we're both much happier being able to share our ideas outside of our own little bubble and our products have benefitted too!

Here's to another year of nomading with my favourite person and to the Maker community continuing to grow with our help! Maybe one day we'll all get to meet each other ✌️ 💛

The Law of The Stretch

I had become dissatisfied with my career at that point. Having started my career in Ibadan and having lived there all my life, I felt there was more. I remember how I felt there was a void within. Outwardly, things looked okay but inwardly, I was a mess.

I knew that if I wasn’t careful, I would just settle into a comfortable zone and that may just be the end of my career. Everyone loved Ibadan- the cost of living was low and I had almost everything, at least compared to those within my immediate space.

One of the greatest mistakes you can make is to benchmark your life by those within your immediate space or circle of influence. You will think you’re making progress until you get out and see others who will challenge you. And that was what I decided to do.

I saw a vacancy for a role in Lagos and I applied. Up till then, I had never worked in Lagos- save for a few trainings, attachments and banking school.

When I got the role, it was a major stretch for me. I didn’t have a place to stay so I had to ‘squat’ with a friend for 6 months until I could pull resources together to get a studio apartment.

I turned 30 recently.

While far from old and wise, I have learned a few things along the way - on life, business, writing, investing, and growth.

Here are a few important lessons learned...

Embrace Failure

Put simply, failure leads to growth.

Do not hide from failure. Seek it out. Allow yourself to be uncomfortable. Embrace it.

The most transformative moments in your life will always come from failures.

Stand on the Shoulders of Giants

As Isaac Newton famously wrote, “If I have seen further, it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.”

You will only go as far as you can see.

Seek out mentors who champion your cause and empower you to see further.

Prioritize People

Everything in life comes down to people and relationships.

Networks compound as well as any financial investment.

Build an army that is deep and wide.

Cultivate deep relationships, but also learn to appreciate the power of weak ties.

Give > Receive

Focus on what you can do for others, not what they can do for you.

Give more than you receive.

This mentality will lead to more success and growth, but also to more fulfillment and joy.

How to Escape the Prison of Your Mind

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O𝚋̲𝚜̲𝚎̲𝚛̲𝚟̲𝚎̲ Y𝚘̲𝚞̲𝚛̲ T𝚑̲𝚘̲𝚞̲𝚐̲𝚑̲𝚝̲𝚜̲

Your mind is a room and your thoughts are a window.

When you think it is as you look into your room of thoughts.

Pay attention to what goes on, learn your mental triggers. Pay attention to how you respond to situations

Continued..

Your thoughts are not always to be believed.

You thoughts come and go like a car going through a car wash.

One in, one out. Depending on how long you want to wash the car depends on how long the thought stays.

Observe your thoughts with no judgement

L𝚒̲𝚟̲𝚎̲ 𝚒̲𝚗̲ T𝚑̲𝚎̲ P𝚛̲𝚎̲𝚜̲𝚎̲𝚗̲𝚝̲

Understand where you are in your reality at all times

Think about the description of thing to the left of you:

-What color is it?
-What shape is it?
-How big is it?
-What is its function?
-Why is it built that way?

Continued..

Why is this healthy? Because it releases your thoughts into your present objective reality.

Knowing that you are there is a good way to stop thoughts because then you start to live. 👽