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So, as I said in reply to @NortherlyRose's thread below, here's a thread on #autism and #ageing.

This is purely from a personal experience perspective as someone diagnosed in their early 50s. /


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I've written lots already about how I grew up not knowing that I'm #autistic. A good catch-all for that writing is here,

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My adult life from say 18 to 40 had ups and downs like anyone's. There was much to enjoy, and I was enthusiastic about learning and about using my learning in my career as an engineer / analyst.
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But, as is common for undiagnosed autistic people, this was mixed in with episodes of depression and anxiety and a sense of being different.

By the time I was 40, I wanted to retire. My wife remarked that I was starting to behave like "an old man".
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I had (and still have some) "old man hobbies": astronomy, ham radio, motorcycling, advanced driving.

And I *really* felt the pressure of being the "wage earner" with no option but to carry on earning the salary to which I and my family had become accustomed.
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THREAD about Camp Mniluzahan, one of the most unique Indigenous-run, volunteer-run, and consensual+ mutual-aid based projects I know of.

#LandBack

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AfterĀ an impromptu creation on forested tribal land just west of Rapid City, the camp has become highly organized with:

āž”ļø Large, warm army tents
āž”ļø A food pantry+mess hall
āž”ļø Meal train+transportation systems
āž”ļø Downtown drop site for local+mailed in donations

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The camp does not have structured leadership, strict admission policies, and steps that residents must take to continue receiving services like some nonprofits do. The goal is to keep people alive and safe, treat residents with dignity and avoid criminalization.

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The camp is not a charity or nonprofit. It centers around Lakota values, communal decision making and mutual aid. Volunteers serve as advocates, offering assistance to homeless people who want it, but not forcing anything on them.

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The camp is on land that used to belong to the massive Rapid City Indian Boarding School property. It’s one of two parcels that the Department of Interior entrusted to the Oglala, Rosebud + Cheyenne River Sioux tribes in 2017. The sovereign land is right outside Rapid City.

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AWW ā¤ļø It was the start of a beautiful friendship.

If you see someone cool having a horrible time on the internet, reach out. It's a time when someone's whole world is crumbling, and the real goal isn't just harassment. It's isolation; cutting people off.


Melinda's experience is also a great example of the "Don't scream" principle.

e.g. If somebody's kidnapping you & trying to hustle you into a car and they say "Don't scream," why are they saying that? It's bc they need silence to get away with the crime.

So you should yell.

It's funny. They'll tell you exactly how to beat them, if you listen.

If you have a moment, read through the thread & screenshots of all the threatening emails.

Notice anything odd? They're not so much threats, as they are orders. Do this! Don't do that!

Let's lay aside the sheer windbag-itude of issuing orders, in full seriousness, to strangers on LinkedIn when you can't even spell properly

There's a reason lots of people's response to Melinda speaking harsh truths about white-dominated rural areas

was to issue orders to STOP.

And orders to "make it right" by groveling on platforms where even more angry white nationalists would discover her.
🧵 The conversation surrounding this is confused in ways that really backfire. For example, you often hear that the Founders more or less "wanted gridlock to be the norm," for it to be "hard to get anything done," to guard against radical change.


Naturally, this tends to lessen the public's respect for the whole system. It doesn't sound very attractive, or at least sounds like a particularly inefficient way of guarding against radical change. "They wanted to force compromise," is better, but also backfires.

It confuses the public into being mad that everyone "can't just get a long and compromise," like it's a matter of personal attitudes and conflict is a sign something is wrong. A more invigorating and accurate framing:


We've basically inverted this framing into something very demoralizing. "Congress isn't supposed to do anything," rather than "Congress is gunning for a showdown." And we're so confused that one of the impeachment charges against Trump was "Obstruction of Congress."


The point is that the branches were supposed to be actively tactical, and were given a set of tools to use against each other. Not "do nothing."
I was asked yesterday on a coaching call how I’m always positive :)

This has been an intentional choice & something I’ve worked hard at for years now!

šŸ™You can’t be grateful & grumpy at the same time!!

šŸ”„I curate my entire life around positivity.

Strategies I use: 🧵
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āŒI never watch sad movies or horror movies.
If I’m watching movie it’s going to inspire or educate me.

āŒI never listen to sad music.
All praise music that floods my soul.
I dance & sing often too :)

āŒI don’t follow toxic people.
Only Champs that inspire me on my timeline!šŸ’Ŗ


āŒI don’t follow politics or the news at all.
My wife said on Jan 25th something about President Biden & I had no clue he had been inaugurated 🤷
He’s President now?!

Maybe that’s bad,
but I feel I affect the most change in the world from within myself, my home & my community.

āŒI don’t allow toxic or negative people on social media or real life.
I block frequently if they are toxic online.

In real life it’s harder, but necessary.
We recently cut out 2 family members that were critical & negative about our mission to foster.
We don’t need that!!āœŒļø


I cut out a long time friend of 16 years that wouldn’t stop talking about politics & Cvoid nonstop.

I asked him to stop & offered to talk other topics but when he persisted & I felt my anxiety rise every time he text,
I decided my peace was more important during this season.