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I did not notice, but I learned she was avoiding public bathrooms. Running straight to the toilet after a car journey, shopping trip, university. When I notice and ask why, she’s scared of being “clocked” and confronted by “TERFs”. She is going HOURS at university without peeing.

My daughter is in her second to last year of studying medicine. She has a smaller frame than her (cisgendered) sister and refuses to join any sports clubs out of fear of being confronted and harassed. She fears meeting someone in a club and having to out herself or being accused

Of deception. I watch her neglect her studies and scroll through social media, where I find GROWN WOMEN my age telling her she is a fetishist, a pervert, a creep. It devastates her. Nobody knows of her trans status, and nobody ever will. She is now utterly ashamed of herself.

I now have to watch my daughter, after years of misery and a brief period of freedom, endure the same things other minorities like gay people endured in the 1980s. “Turn off your phone” I’ve told her, as any mother would. She says it’s bigger than that and it is.

These people are in parliament and the lords. They are influencing LEGISLATION. Parents of trans children are being charged in Texas. The misinformation and smearing of the trans community has gone on long enough. I refuse to lose my daughter over the sake of middle aged women

Who need to have pissing contests over who is the most oppressed whilst spinning blatant lies about people like my daughter. So I hope this attracts “TERFs”. I would like them to explain to me, in detail, the changes that the self ID laws will have to everyday life.

That’s what it was about, wasn’t it? Self ID? The government made it cheaper. It’s hardly an overwhelming reform. But it’s not self ID. It’s every place where trans people live publicly and openly. You are no different to the homophobic bullies of years gone by

Picking a new acceptable target and pulling the ladder up behind you. Well I do not stand with you, with JK Rowling, with anyone associated with the TERF campaign against innocent trans people. I will stand with my daughter until my dying breath.

And whilst I’m at it, I refuse to be lectured as a nurse on biology. Does sex exist? Of course it does. What do you think she transitioned? I’ve never seen my chromosomes. I don’t care to. Is an adoptive parent no longer entitled to the rights of other parents?

These arguments are a waste of intellect. I saw a lesbian “TERF” argue about how trans women choose to be women whilst girls are forced into child marriage. So, by the same token, by campaigning for gay marriage u were choosing to be married when these girls were forced?

At first I understood the “reasonable concerns” and for that I will never forgive myself. I’m a woman, I didn’t want me (or my daughters, harmed). But I read, I learned, I listened. you give an inch and these people take a mile. They want trans elimination from society.

And truly, my heart goes out to these people who detransition. I can’t imagine. But I don’t know another area of medicine where a small % of unsuccessful cases calls for a review or something with such a high success rate, I really don’t. I understand that this is complicated

And maybe we do need to improve the services so this doesn’t happen to people, I’m hardly worshipping the NHS gender clinics at an altar. Quite the opposite, these clinics should be ashamed of themselves.

4-6 year wait for a FIRST appointment. Imagine that in another area of med. Asking my daughter if she wanted to reconsider her name because it was gender neutral. Asking (with little to no sensitivity) if she had ever been molested. What she thought about anal sex

All of this was written in a report and passed amongst her doctors. I for one would not want my GP to see details of my sex life. Would u? What if you had to, or else you would be dropped from the service you are accessing to try and save your own life. That’s what she had to do