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is actually what he feels he is not getting enough of or these might just be his priorities. I had to sit down and think about it, if I satisfy him with good food and sex, his needs might either change to another area I am not covering or he might just be contented. I have seen

so many gender wars and lots of takes from the female folks but most times, those same people make outrageous demands compared to what they are willing to offer. You want a man to pamper you, buy you gifts, be there for you, never cheat, make you the center of his world, etc, but

you have not even done the barest minimum to ask him what he needs? In this life, everything comes with a price, and ironically, we all get to choose the price we are willing to pay. Are you willing to selflessly fulfill the desires of a man that fulfills yours? Just the way you

want that diamond ring, a trip to Dubai, someone to massage your back and call you sweet names while checking up on you regularly without having eyes for another woman and you imagine it as your ideal relationship, that man is imagining a wife that will give him great sex, listen

to him when he has a day from work, prepare a warm bath for him, make the bed, prepare a clean set of clothes at home, make lovely dishes and smile disarming smiles to him that will put his mind at ease so that he can be willing to do anything to keep the smile on your face!

nobody, I repeat nobody deserves a selfish and self-serving partner. If you are not willing to pay the price selflessly, you might be paying a bigger price you didn't bargain for. Let us try as much as possible to treat people the way we wish to be treated in their 'style'

everyone has a spec. I have always wanted a man I can build with and also someone I can make an impact in his life. I have always wanted to be so relevant in his life that I will be the center of his world, but it is not wishful thinking. It means that I have to be dependable

and useful. I have to be able to touch his need points and most importantly, I have to be able to understand and care for him in the way he wants to be cared for and more. I have to be able to give him what he can't give himself in ways he can't think of, not going for kaimata or

stuff like that but allowing him to rationally decide to make me the center of his universe without waiving. Love is not a chemical reaction we can't control, love is a rational decision we make because we know and we are sure that this person deserves the keys to our heart

Our soul, Spirit, and body at some point agree together that this person is all we need and we have good reasons to back up our claims. I love reading romance novels, but I don't just read the beautiful stories, I try to analyze their characters and I often understand one thing;

oftentimes, both parties are willing to go to any length to meet the needs of their partners selflessly even if it means inconveniencing themselves. They don't consider roles, they just go with the flow because they love each other. This is why I don't like entering stupid

threads. I can't be demanding a place in your heart by displaying someone else. I don't want to be in anybody's shadows, not even your mother's. I want my unique spot in your heart, I don't even want to fill any void. I want to enlarge that heart of yours to accommodate me!