Being a woman in tech is exhausting.
Early in my career, I was given the feedback "just be careful there aren't too many women at your meetup- we don't want it to be too homogeneous", and I think about the absurdity of that statement every fucking day.
Being a woman in tech is exhausting.
There were way more men than women attending these events- there were just more women than usual... ya know, the whole thing companies have been trying to solve for YEARS, I had accomplished on my own, and was scolded for. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Also wrong. I went through hundreds of names, 1 by 1 for hours (shout-out to @Meetup for making this difficult at the time), and most of the women were senior engineers who attended university and the men? Most self taught.
Not only do you have to do your job, but you also have to PROVE that you're doing your job.
Check your biases- they have consequences on others.
But think about how many women and other marginalized folks who don't have that luxury? I would have left the industry for sure.
Your words have consequences.
Words have impact. Think before you speak, and call this shit out.
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TECH CONFERENCE PRO-TIP \U0001f4e2:
— Chloe Condon \U0001f380 (@ChloeCondon) November 15, 2019
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"so- HR or recruiting?"
It's 2019, do better my dudes. \U0001f610\U0001f611
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So this super awks thing happened to me yesterday at @Official_GDC registration. As I approached the line for speaker badge pickup, a security guard stopped me and asked where I was going. I pointed to the speaker registration booth ahead. He said, \u201cthat\u2019s for speakers\u201d.
— JC Lau \U0001f996 (@drjclau) March 18, 2019
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Adding to the fatigue, there's an expectation for the marginalized to educate the unaware. It does move the game-piece forward, but it's more work that *should* be done by the 'entitled'. Do your part to seek out ways to be better w/o relying on the oppressed to spoon-feed you. https://t.co/XLxTD5WmOA
— Ed Gonzales | #MVP | MCT | MCSA | #PowerAutomate (@PoweredbyEdG) January 9, 2021
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Always. No, your company is not an exception.
A tactic I don’t appreciate at all because of how unfairly it penalizes low-leverage, junior employees, and those loyal enough not to question it, but that’s negotiation for you after all. Weaponized information asymmetry.
Listen to Aditya
"we don't negotiate salaries" really means "we'd prefer to negotiate massive signing bonuses and equity grants, but we'll negotiate salary if you REALLY insist" https://t.co/80k7nWAMoK
— Aditya Mukerjee, the Otterrific \U0001f3f3\ufe0f\u200d\U0001f308 (@chimeracoder) December 4, 2018
And by the way, you should never be worried that an offer would be withdrawn if you politely negotiate.
I have seen this happen *extremely* rarely, mostly to women, and anyway is a giant red flag. It suggests you probably didn’t want to work there.
You wish there was no negotiating so it would all be more fair? I feel you, but it’s not happening.
Instead, negotiate hard, use your privilege, and then go and share numbers with your underrepresented and underpaid colleagues. […]