10 Red flags to note in relationships .

A thread !

1. Secrecy - There is a difference between being private and being secretive . Anyone who doesn’t want people to know you are dating may have somethings they are hiding . It’s ok to be private but alarm bells should ring where there is secrecy .
2. Barter - The relationship is almost always about what is being exchanged . While there will be exchanges in every relationship, an undue focus on this will indicate that someone is there for something they can get and not what they can give .
3. Misaligned values - What is sacred to you isn’t respected by the other .values like honesty , integrity , respect isn’t important to the other party . A relationship with nonaligned values cannot work ! There will always be conflict .
4. Mystery income - Some folks are dating thieves , robbers and fraudsters and always have signs to indicate that their partners are fraudulent. It is a huge red flag not to know what your other half actually does for money . It’s not wise to join a sinking boat .
5. Apathy - Don’t ignore “disinterest “ . It is a symptom of a deeper disease. Some folks after sometime just lose interest . Ensure you are able to discern this . If there is romantic apathy it is a sign that someone has moved on and you are only dating yourself .
6. Financial indiscipline - Money is very important in this life . Especially in marriage . Be very careful of any one whose presence in your life always brings about emergency spending of money you have plans for . You cannot build with an indisciplined partner .
7. Sexual indiscipline - Nobody just cheats . Cheating is a decision . Never minimize sexual indiscipline in your relationship. There are serious consequences for permitting it . Plan your peace early . Don’t give your heart to someone who will shatter it .
8. Lack of compassion: Be worried if your partner is “nice” to you but cruel to others . The way people treat folks they don’t feel they need reveals who they really are . We are all nice to the chicken we want to kill on Christmas Day .
9. Propensity for violence - If a partner ever lifts their hands against you ensure you run . The violent partner is a dangerous partner . Do not excuse physical abuse under any circumstance. Extricate yourself fast . That slap you received was a sign from God ! RUN!
10. Disdain for authority- The partner who doesn’t submit to anyone will not be accountable to you . They can feign it but really cannot be . Always check for the accountability systems in a fellows life before you give your heart to them .

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How to get smarter very fast:

Interact with smart people here on Twitter who have different world-views than you do.

And let them change your mind on something.

Here are the 30 people you should follow (along with my favorite tweet from each)👇👇

Twitter can be terrible if you follow negative people.

It can also be more valuable than a college degree if you follow (and network with) the right people.

You get to look right into their brain and read a daily narrative of HOW they think.

Ok lets go:

#1: @ShaanVP

You know he's all about venture capital based entrepreneurship. I'm about small (non-sexy) business. We disagree on a lot of stuff.

But he's done it and he's won. Bonus follow: @theSamParr (@myfirstmilpod podcast


#2: @fortworthchris

He is where I want to be in 15 years. Has built a massive real estate private equity firm from the ground up. Super grounded with what the way he does business and his podcast @theFORTpodcast is top


#3: @Julian

I'm a scattered thinker and procrastinator.

Julian is a master of clear thinking and simple but effective writing. A world class example of content marketing and

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