#nofgm thread about immediately after I was mutilated . Especially me how I felt. Trigger warning.
So first My body was raging with pain. My soul was crushed. My humanity was protesting

How to become a SUCCESSFUL academic: a guide 1/n

How do I know how to become a successful academic? I don't, but I have received plenty of advice. As a good academic, I will just summarize what I have learned from listening

1) Be the ultimate collaborator but also don't be

Say yes to as many collaborations as physically possible: co-produce papers, LEARN, co-write grants, DISCUSS, it is all about synergy. But also, collaborations slow you down, have your own ideas! Just say no to collaborations

2) Be the methods ninja but also don't be

Science is only as good as its weakest link: don't be satisfied by applying the default analyses in the field. But also, don't let perfect be the enemy of the good and don't confuse reviewers. Just apply the default analyses in the field

3) Be the superstar teacher but also don't be

Professor means teacher, it is LITERALLY in the name. Being a good professor means being a superstar teacher. But also, focus on the science and minimize the hours of teaching, don't try to become a superstar teacher

(A THREAD)

18 Things I Would Do At 18:

I was a dumb 18-year-old. I thought I had the world figured out. I didn't.

I stayed up till the wee hours. Drank every liquor invented.

Partied non-stop. Woke up after noon.

Surfed the web aimlessly.

Read BS self-help.

Repeat.

If I could do it all over again, here's 18 things I would do...

PHASE ONE: GET MY MIND RIGHT

ACTION #1: Break the chains - I wish I made the decision earlier. I didn't. I was scared. Anxious. Nervous. I knew once I made the decision, there was no going back.

Don't be like me.

Make the decision at 18. The decision to pave your own path in life. To go against the herd. To choose your own adventure. To commit to whatever sets your heart on fire.

ACTION #2: Cut off every negative person in your life.

Scroll through the contacts in your phone...

Notice how the names make you feel.

Delete any and all names that fill you with doubt and negativity.

ACTION #3: Condition your mind to embrace the producer mindset instead of the consumer mindset.

Consume 20% of the time. Produce 80% of the time.

Case closed.

ACTION #4: Set an intention to make $10k a month and write it out every MORNING and NIGHT as if you already achieved it (in the past tense).

Visualize yourself already having the money as you write.

Cheesy?

Yes.

Does it work?

Yes.

PHASE TWO: EDUCATION

I used to work 14+ hour days and have a 'no days off' mentality. This year I cut that shit off and focused on building a career and life of quality. The results are higher income, more time to enjoy life, schedule on my terms + stronger relationships. Fuck your "hustle."

The reality is 99% of people's "hustle" is just them hustling themselves. Hustling yourself out of life and into a worker cog. The exact opposite of what you want to become when you're an entrepreneur. You're becoming the same system you sought to destroy.

To build a successful business it takes way more than just plain old hard work. I am a huge believer in American grit, not American hustle. You need hard work, but if that is all you can bring to the table, you have no place running a business.

People work hard because they believe in what they're doing or they feel they have to make it happen. I get that. We have families and people counting on us. But you are failing them all when you live in your office.

We are privileged in even being able to run a business. If you are lucky enough to do that, you owe it to yourself, your loved ones, and the people counting on you to do it the right way. Be healthy. Sleep. Live your life. Be more than your career. 🖤

10 Common Money Myths

That Could be Costing you $1,000's

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1. YOLO

It's true that you only live once.

It's NOT true that you should:

- Live in debt
- Work until you die
- Live paycheck to paycheck

What you can do is:

- Live in the moment
- Save for your future
- Start investing today

Balance is the key.

YOLO is not.

2. LLC's are for the rich

You don't have to earn $100,000s to form an LLC.

An LLC:

- Offers tax advantages
- Limits personal liability
- Avoids double taxation

If you have a business and want to earn money, then it's time to consider forming an LLC.

3. I'll be Poor Forever

What you believe determines your future.

The journey to wealth won't be easy.
If it were easy, everyone would be wealthy.

Getting there will take:

- Discipline
- Hard work
- Consistency
- Determination

Change your mindset, Change your reality.

4. Buying a House is Better than Renting

Homeownership means:

- Less flexibility
- High upfront costs
- Long term commitment
- Unexpected additional costs

This may not work for your personal situation.

Make sure you’re financially and emotionally fit to make a home purchase.

Women sleep with Men who are Emotionally Stable.

Here are 7 Ways to Master your Emotions:-

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1) Your Environment

Emotions are nothing but Energy in MOTION.

Surround yourself with Beauty, Positive Energy, and High Value people.

The environmental effect is Incredible.

2) Understand that Emotions are just feedback.

If you find yourself wanting to escape, or avoid going deep into a particular emotion, ask yourself this:

Can the emotion actually do any harm, or is it just a bad feeling?

Exactly. It's all just a story in your head.

3) State Control:

This one is so underrated.

Practice Physical and Mental anchors that put you into a badass state

-Meditate
-Music that amps you the fuck up.
-Power Poses; take up space
-Mental Pictures of you dominating.
-Hand Movements that let you know its game time.

4) Stop trying to get rid of them.

You're feeling good? Experience it fully.

You're feeling terrible? Feel it all over your body.

You will realize that they go away when you don't try to stop them.