Your Most PRECIOUS Currencies:

-Energy

-Time

-Attention

-Trust

-Love

-Loyalty

-Respect

Only give these currencies to high value people. Never spend these currencies on low value shitheads eg: trolls, weasels, snakes, naysayers etc.

A relationship begins to get stiff when excessive patterns begin to form.

Too many patterns leads to a boring, predictable, logical lifestyle.

Get the emotions involved.

Do something spontaneous out of the blue moon & flip the script.

'What's wrong with the patterns?'

Nothing is wrong with patterns.

However, there is a problem when all you have are patterns.

It's boring.

'Can you explain why?'

Sure 👇

The thing with relationships is that it's meant to be an emotional experience.

It's very difficult to logically explain love, right?

'Right.'

Well this is where you want to steer the ship the right way.

1. Too emotional is bad.

2. Too logical is bad.

Let me break it down.

1. Too emotional

If a relationship is completely ruled by emotions, then it's too volatile.

You will never reach productivity if you are aimlessly only following each others emotions.

This lifestyle tarnishes any structure for the couple.

'So why do people do it?'

Because it's fun.

You may ruled by this stage in the honeymoon phase.

Normal.

You'll be so spontaneous that it almost becomes a lifestyle.

But it's hard to level up your life when you're too spontaneous.

Avoid.

'What if I choke during my 1st speech?'

Then you choke.

Some of the best speakers from my time during Toastmasters choked their 1st speech.

When you mess up, you realize the world doesn't end.

After making this realization, you feel a sense of relief for your next speech.

This is not a green light to not practice beforehand

But if you gave it your best effort to prepare & the nerves got the best of you, do not beat yourself up.

I guarantee that choking is not a big deal like you think it is.

'How do you know?'

Bc I am speaking from experience.

'So what was it like?'

Well, this was my 1st ever Toastmasters meeting.

I went to just sit on my ass & observe.

Tbh, I went because I was hungry & thought they were going to have toast.

But nah.

There were atleast 75 people there.

Many people that I knew from my school

After seeing all those familiar faces, I sat all the way in the back.

I was praying that I did not get called on stage.

I had massive speech anxiety then.

*the meeting began*

The table topics started (random people get called up & give an impromptu speech about a topic)

Not kidding.

I was the first person called.

The toastmaster from the event thought he was being slick by calling the people in the back.

I was straight up mortified.

Walking to the front of the stage felt like the longest walk of my life.

Felt like a nightmare tbh.

Respecting everyone is overrated.

Don't reward snakes, haters, cloutchasers with respect.

Punish them with distance.

Respect is reserved for respectable people.

Not bitchmade clowns.

'But I thought we were supposed to treat everyone with respect. That's what my mommy told me.'

Ha.

Your mommy lied to you.

Treating everyone with respect does you more harm than good.

Let me use an analogy to explain...

Keep reading 👇

Let's talk about money for example.

What do you spend your money on?

'I spend it on quality items that can benefit me in some way.'

Why don't you spend it on shitty products too?

'Bc that would be a waste of my money!'

Exactly.

Same concept applies to people.

Your times is wayyyy more valuable than money. Not even close.

So why are you spending your time on shitty people?

*crickets*

Exactly.

You can be spending that time & energy on respectable people instead.

Plus! 👇

Never reward bad behavior.

A snake or hater who are rewarded with respect will think their behavior is acceptable.

Fuck that.

Treat them like the bottom feeding shit heads that they are.

'How??'

With distance.

'Why not attack back?'

Because distance bothers them more.

Make them irrelevant > Hold a grudge

Holding a grudge is the easy thing to do.

But holding a grudge is not the right thing to do.

A grudge puts poison in your body & rewires your subconscious mind.

You consume the poison & destroy your reality while your attacker sleeps like a baby.

Crowd Control 101:

Ditch the 'does the crowd like me?' mentality.

Adopt the 'do I like the crowd?' mentality.

This mindset shift makes you feel more in control & powerful.

Here are a few more bonus tips for crowd control.

These tips will have you showing the audience that you control the room.

Every audience likes it when the speaker takes charge.

Use these moves in your next speech & dominate the big stage like a superstar!

1. Wait a few seconds before starting

Starting immediately makes you look needy.

The few second wait will builds hype & keeps the control in your favor.

'How long do you typically take?'

I take around 5-7 seconds to build the hype.

Find your sweet spot.

2. Take pauses

Many beginning speakers are terrified of pauses.

They think they will be exposed as a fraud whenever there is silence.

WRONG.

Pauses sound longer to you than it does for the audience.

An audience loves a speaker who pauses rather than a turbo talker.

3. Body Language

Your body is crucial to delivery.

Luckily you always have control over it.

As you begin, your body may become smaller, you will cover your torso more, and will look down.

AVOID.

Chest out, chin up, open palms, strong eye contact & walk with purpose soldier.

Something I wish everyone knew: the bar's not as high as you think.

You can get that job, meet that person, start that company.

But because you think the bar's so high, you won't even try. Which is what makes the bar so low!

Plz take a moment to read this & watch the video.
#threadstorytime
Story of 3D
So when i shifted to Mumbai, a batchmate of mine helped me in finding a rented house. He was fooled by one of his acquaintances, & me with my sister ended up in an under construction building
1)

Near slum.
It is horrific. But I had no choice since we reached by car 2 am, with my 3 dogs. Area was not safe. Even police avoided to enter it

One day when I got down to get in my car to go for work, I heard a growling.
I bent down to see a dog just in bones, feeding puppies 2

Tried to get her out but her one leg was badly broken & bleeding.
One puppy half eaten by rats, coz rats there were bigger than her puppies.
I used auto but contacted many NGO
Got no help.
I started mixing antibiotics & pain killer in rice to feed her.
Initially I had to push
3

The food below the car. But on 3rd day, she actually came out from under the car to eat from my hands.
She started trusting me. I put bandage on her leg.
Called her 3D 😁 which my sister @doorva207 Found really odd & stupid
3D started recovering. She started gaining health
4

I introduced her to children of out building.
Parents found them dirty, but kids are ❤
We gave all of them bath, vaccination.
They were happy.
But every other day her one pup started getting crushed under a tempo or car
People wouldn't bother to slow down
3D would cry to me
5

If you have less revenue/growth/success than you wish you had, then the best thing you can do is OWN IT.

Write a tweet, tell your friends, and move on.

Once you own it, you fix it.

99% of people on Twitter/social media/internet won't do this.

Being radically transparent and honest is a competitive (and life) advantage.

From @RayDalio's Principles:

My new product has 14 users and <$400 monthly revenue. I've spent the last 4 months on it.

I'm going through a lot of pain to validate and grow it.

But if anyone asks me how it's going I will tell them exactly that.

If I asked them, I would hope they would give me the raw truth as well. Truth builds trust.

I think that goes for your internet audience as well. Authenticity is attractive.

I see this with @starter_story all the time - people don't want to share their revenue yet because they don't have any, or it's not high enough (not all cases but often).

I wish I could tell them that getting the cat out of the bag would actually fix the problem itself!!

Thread: A personal episode from the past that I feel is very relevant to be shared today, especially for parents of young girls.

I was 18, when my first cousin morphed my face with that of a male school friend in extremely compromising position.

Very believable for anyone without knowledge of tech.

I was devastated. This was a brother I looked upto. This was the brother I had given my laptop to so he could apply for jobs. And on the same laptop, he made those photographs of me, his younger sister.

Why did he do that? He was kicked out of his house by his family after he married a girl w/o their consent. He was homeless, so my parents let him stay with us till my his family cools down & accepts them back. After 6 months, he felt threatened he'd be asked to leave our place.

So one day, he confronts my parents, infront of me, with those pictures and shows those photographs, with clear terms - pay him & his wife a fixed amount every month, let them stay at our home or he would leak those pictures everywhere.

I still remember he explained how he would distribute those pictures on the day they would get me married 😂

I don't know how any other parent from lower middle class would have reacted to this. But I remember how my parents did, that changed my relationship with them forever.

These 10 Truths Will Jog Your Mind.

It's been 24 months of learning, to be honest, I never knew this side of Twitter, until October,

A friend told me about it, gave me every encouragement I needed.

It has been an amazing journey to 100, Thank you.

1. Choices- what you and work towards always works. If you work so hard in a company, you get motivated. Same case to life, what you choose to work towards consistently, no matter how stupid it is WILL ALWAYS work.

2. You must be pushed hard to the wall to save yourself- the only reason why you are afraid of going an extra mile is because your condition isn't pathetic enough. If it's pathetic enough, you'll find ways to save yourself.

3. Nothing is really special- Go a few days without talking to some people. You'll see how they easily forget, you'll also forget. Aim at doing what matters. Don't attach your happiness to anyone or anything.