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One thing I really notice in friends who haven't done any therapy is a lack of conflict resolution skills. So I figure hey, let's do a mini lesson on conflict resolution right here in this thread.

One philosophy for conflict resolution within psychology is that there are three main priorities you can have in a conflict: respecting yourself, maintaining a good relationship with the other person, or getting a task done. (Reference: these DBT skills
https://t.co/C7CAlDaE5A )

Most people want to do all three, and you can, but the idea is it can be unrealistic to get all three goals accomplished perfectly-- maybe it's worth thinking about which goals matter most to you right now, in this scenario and relationship, and which you're willing to sacrifice.

To respect yourself, these are good guidelines to prioritize:
1 Keep fairness strongly in mind.
2 Be wary of apologizing. Think hard before offering any apology-- do you really need to say sorry here?
3 Keep in mind what you value.
4 Stick to being truthful, even if you're angry.

To maintain a relationship, keep these in mind:
1 Be gentle, not aggressive.
2 Ask questions, be actively interested in their opinions.
3 Actively validate the way they feel.
4 Have an easy manner. Watch your tone of voice & body language. It's not all about what you're saying.
Mental Health & Twitter.

Lets cut the crap: many of you on this app are not okay.

It has been a bad 10 months, & while some cracked earlier, some of you are starting to crack down recently & it's time we talk about it.

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First thing's first: it's okay to not be okay.

We have all suffered the lockdowns, economic turmoil & worldwide events in different ways.

Nobody can say that they had a perfect year.

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Before going into why I think many of you are not okay, here are a few things we can physically change to make it better:

- Move more & do exercise
- Proactively get more sun & fresh air
- Unfat yourself

Mind is body, body is


Now, to the Twitter part. Many of you are so far down a rabbit hole that only does you harm the only reason you aren't coming out of it is due to the sunk-costs fallacy.

You have invested so much time going through a specific road your ego won't let you pause & go back.

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You've followed people for so long you do not want to unfollow or mute.

People you like & have followed for ages who do not have your best interests in mind.

All they do is purposefully make you upset & rile you up.

All they do is groom you. Because u "wanna stay informed"

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Retracted, with a note that says "we believe that all the key findings of the paper with regards to co-authorship between junior and senior researchers are still valid". Isn't it important to discuss the many points on which the paper is incorrect?


1. The gender analysis was "only meant to be exploratory” and used techniques that “cannot be claimed to establish causality” but causal inferences were made anyway.

Causal claims were justified by pointing out that other people do it too. "While this technique does not establish the existence of a causal effect, it is commonly used to infer causality from observational data."