My answer: You've got. To leave. Them alone together.
If you know me IRL, you know that my (male) partner is our household's primary cook and launderer. We share parenting more equally, but we have each been the primary parent at various times. I have a few thoughts about this.
My answer: You've got. To leave. Them alone together.
We had the same barriers to this as every family. I was the breastfeeding parent, and I was home more in the first couple years.
This was good for all three of us!
Leave the house anyway. Go for walk or a run. Take the car and go park it somewhere beautiful and read your book. Bring a snack.
Time for yourself + time for them alone = win win
And it can be hard to give those scraps of power up. But if you really want to share the work equally, you also have to share the power.
Example: When the baby was sick, I wanted to be In Charge. We'd get into fights bec I would try to overrule him.
So I'd be like: Baby is sick!
And he'd be like: Maybe. We'll see.
a.) my kid is very close to their dad
b.) I can travel, go out with friends, work or be sick and the household ticks along smoothly
That's MISERABLE.
So "packing the diaper bag" became our shorthand for this kind of interaction.
I'm much more networky and social, but M couldn't stand the idea of my keeping the family social calendar. So we tussled about that.
Example: Our relationship with the kid's friends' parents and with their schools.
You gotta go to events at the school, get to know the teachers, get to know the other parents so when shit gets hard for your kid at school you have relationships to call on to help you.
So if you're an opposite sex couple & the man is older--it's easy for power dynamics to get fucked up.
And I think that's prolly a factor with the NYT couple.
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#Cardano “Understanding Kamali”
#Cardano will be the underpinning of the emergence of Africa.
To grasp the full weight of the SOLUTIONS #Cardano can provide it is pertinent to read “Understanding Africa” as I will draw directly from the PROBLEMS laid out.
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Here is a link if you have not already read
(1/38) #Cardano \u201cUnderstanding Africa\u201d (Part 1 of 2)
— FatCat (@fatcatofcrypto) February 10, 2021
This thread will be split into two parts with the 2nd coming out on Sunday.
Part 1 will layout the pervasive PROBLEMS Africa faces whereas Part 2 will apply direct technologies @InputOutputHK can implement as SOLUTIONS. pic.twitter.com/n3I91bnddq
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What I will attempt to do here, is to create an immersive world for you to be placed in to grasp the weight and size of problems from the ground level and then take a grass-roots approach at solving them using #Cardano and its technology.
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As an investor and community member of #Cardano, this should be extremely important to you as you have a stake (pun intended) in this.
“You are paid in direct proportion to the difficulty of the problems you solve” - @elonmusk
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— Jeffrey Sachs (@JeffreyASachs) October 13, 2018
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— Jeff Atwood (@codinghorror) October 25, 2018
How long, as measured from the inception of idea to the modified software arriving in the user's hands, does it take to roll out a *1 word copy change* in your primary product?
Hiring efficiency:
How long does it take, measured from initial expression of interest through offer of employment signed, for a typical candidate cold inbounding to the company?
What is the *theoretical minimum* for *any* candidate?
How long does it take, as a developer newly hired at the company:
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How long does it take, from first idea floated to "It's on the Internet", to create a piece of marketing collateral.
(For bonus points: break down by ambitiousness / form factor.)
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