My father wasn’t around because he smoked crack instead of raising his sons.
I was constantly taken on drug deals and left in the car for hours at a time.
I was made fun of for being fat.
It took me 11 years to overcome my social anxiety.
If you’re a man struggling with confidence, read this:
My father wasn’t around because he smoked crack instead of raising his sons.
I was constantly taken on drug deals and left in the car for hours at a time.
I was made fun of for being fat.
I told myself I wasn’t worth anything. I kept quiet and hid from my problems.
I cared about others’ opinions of me more than my opinion of myself.
I was trapped in the mental prison I built myself.
I started from zero.
It took years of painful application to learn confidence.
I’m not some anon account tweeting quotes from a book.
I did the work.
What I’m about to share with you is what I wish I knew from the start.
Porn fries your dopamine receptors by rewarding you for unearned pleasure.
Your brain gets used to this…
Then, when it comes time for action that requires effort, your motivation is destroyed.
• I hated my job
• I worked 12 hours a day
• My coworkers were miserable
• I stopped taking care of my health
• I was isolated from friends and family
I had no purpose.
So, I turned to the only outlet I had:
Pen and paper.
It brings awareness to anxieties running in the background of your mind.
These are “Open Loops.”
When you acknowledge these open loops, you close them in your mind.
The thoughts that feel big in your head look small on paper.
Although it didn’t directly give me confidence, it formed the foundation to build it.
Exercise develops discipline.
And once you see the results of your hard work…
You’ll realize you can apply it to any endeavor in life.
Including confidence.
• Shower
• Dress well
• Groom yourself
• Get 7-8 hours of sleep
When you do this, you tell your subconscious you’re someone of value.
You’ll start to adopt the identity and act like it.
“Just be confident!” is stupid advice.
You don’t go from obese to running marathons the next day.
The same applies to confidence.
At stores, I’d ask how the cashier’s day was.
Over time, I pushed my boundaries.
• I gave compliments
• Started small talk with strangers
• Asked for women’s numbers at cafes
Each time, I built my confidence.
• Eat out alone
• Go on walks alone
• Go to coffee shops alone
Social anxiety results from placing too much importance on other's opinions.
When you're happy on your own, you're less anxious about impressing others.
Anxiety is your brain trying to protect you from “harm”.
It does this by searching for the negative in everything.
Gratitude conditions your brain to look for the good.
Every day, write 5 things you’re grateful for.
Over time, this'll become your default state.
I used to tell myself, “I have anxiety.”
Because of this, the feeling became a part of who I was.
Once I challenged this thought process, I took control of my inner-state.
Your words hold power.
Be conscious of how you talk to yourself.
The 1 thing you do everyday that's keeping you from living the life you want.
— Dakota Robertson (@WrongsToWrite) November 25, 2021
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It took me 11 years to overcome my social anxiety.
— Dakota Robertson (@WrongsToWrite) May 26, 2022
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