Lessons I Learned From the Book

"13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do"
✍🏻 @AmyMorinLCSW

📚 Book Review (thread)

17 Lessons From the Book
"Super Coach"

📚#DDBook Thread🧵

1. We think we are experiencing reality but what we are really experiencing is our thinking.

2. The most important choice you make is what you choose to make important.

3. If we really want something, there is always a way.

4. What we decide is less important then how we respond to life.

5. Our intuition already knows what we want to do but we create reasons to keep us locked out.

6. Every emotion we feel is a response to a thought, not an event.

7. Your day doesn’t create your mood, your mood creates your day.

8. When you feel a sense of urgency, it’s usually a better idea to slow down.

9. No Matter what seems to be going on, you don’t have to do anything. Being overwhelmed is just a thought.

10. Everything we do or don’t do is simply a choice. To do more, use a system of clarity, structure and boldness of action.

Here are some lessons I learned from reading this book:

Can't Hurt Me, by #DavidGoggins

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1. It doesn’t always go your way

Life won’t always go your way, so if you start thinking that it will, you’ll be disappointed and less effective

Instead of focusing on what you think you deserve, figure out what u want and be willing to pay the dues required to get it

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2. The 40% rule

When your mind is telling you that you’re done, completely exhausted and not able to go any further, you’re only at about 40% of your potential

Keep fighting when you feel like you’re done, and that’s when you unlock the remaining 60% of your potential

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3. No one is going to help you

Don’t wait for someone else to help you.

If it’s your dream, it’s on YOU. If you wait, you’ll be waiting until you’re on your deathbed if you don’t take action.

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4. Callous your mind

When you’re ready to quit, stay the course. See how far you can go.

This will help you when things get tough. You’ll learn to work hard even when you don’t want to. That will pay off on your path.

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6 Great Books To Understand Human Behavior 👇

1. Blink

2. Games People Play

3. Emotional Intelligence

4. The Confidence Game

5. Thinking, Fast And Slow

If you lack motivation to do most things or no longer enjoy the simple things in life:

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You must get gremlins off the pain side of your pleasure‐pain seesaw by doing one of two things:

➡️ PURSUE PAIN or ABSTAIN

#DopamineNation Part one:
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PURSUE PAIN
#AnnaLembke says, “Pressing on the pain side of the balance can lead to its opposite —pleasure.
Unlike pressing on the pleasure side, the dopamine that comes from pain is indirect and potentially more enduring.” 3/7

When you explore the following methods to pursue intermittent pain, you startle the gremlins camping out on the pain side of the pleasure‐pain seesaw and get them to jump over to the pleasure side:
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1.Turn down the temperature on the gremlins by plunging your body into an ice bath or enduring a cold shower for several minutes

The initial shock you experience will be followed by a gradual 200% rise in dopamine(equivalent to the dopamine rise one gets by snorting cocaine,
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10 Top Lessons From the Book
"Chatter"

📚Book Review (THREAD)

1. Introspection is a double-edged sword

💭Introspection—the ability to observe one’s own mental processes— is a valuable tool for reflection and decision-making.

But rather than make people feel better, introspection often leads them to experience something else.

2. Chatter

🗣️Chatter is the cycle of negative thoughts and feelings that turn our capacity for introspection into a vulnerability rather than a strength.

If you can master the art of introspection without the chatter, you can get your internal conversations back on track.

3. Talking to yourself can be helpful

👉Many people wonder how they can control their chatter. One way to do so is to talk to yourself using your name and the word “you,” as if you were advising someone else, a technique called “distant self-talk.”

4. Distant self-talk capitalizes on this idea

✍️Silently talking to yourself like you’re someone else—using “you” and your own name—helps you take a step back from your experience and put your problems in perspective.

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#BookRecommendation
" Zen and the Art of Happiness "

It's a simple book but it makes you think .

Few of my takeaways ( with random 2 min doodles).
👇
Firstly,
What is Zen ?

#Zen is a Japanese word that is derived from the Sanskrit word Dhyana meaning "Meditation" .

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Zen is a journey of exploration & a way of living that , in and of itself doesn't belong to any one religion or tradition as such.

Zen doesn't teach. It merely
points, enabling us to wake up & become aware.

Ever noticed how zen stories rarely have predefined morals? 🤓

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The zen of doing anything is doing it with a concentration of mind , a calmness & simplicity of mind, that brings the experience of enlightenment and, through that experience , happiness.

It could be something as mundane as sweeping or peeling potatoes !

#mindfulness

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We are the authors of every NEXT moment.

Therefore the best way for us to get that new experience is to CHANGE our response to what happens.

By natural cause & effect , that NEW RESPONSE will create NEW RESULTS , thereby a NEW REALITY.

Try it to believe it !
#Wisdom

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Unknown to most of us , we all have a life philosophy . A perspective of looking at things , at events & circumstances that befall us.

Our personal #Philosophy determines how we respond to events that occur in our life .
This ultimately is responsible for our happiness.

"21 of the wisest things ever said on the Internet"

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1. "If you want to make the wrong decision, ask everyone."

@naval

2. "Spending money to show people how much money you have is the fastest way to have less money."

- The Psychology of Money, @morganhousel

3. “Remember: we don't control what happens, we control how we respond”

@RyanHoliday

4. “You only need to know the direction, not the destination.

The direction is enough to make the next choice.”

@JamesClear

2 weeks ago, I started reading "Fooled by Randomness" by Nassim Taleb.

WOW, It's been mindblowing!

Thanks to @dvassallo 's recommendation.

Inside, there's a part he talks about how to deal with volatility.

Here’s 6 big lessons that are useful in the current market crash:

Lesson #1:
Negative emotions of seeing your stocks drop > Positive emotion from seeing your stocks rise.

"A negative pang is not offset by a positive one...

Some psychologists estimate the negative effect for an average loss to be up to 2.5 the magnitude of a positive one)...

... At the end of every day the dentist will be emotionally drained.

If the unpleasurable minute is worse in reverse pleasure than the pleasurable minute is in pleasure terms, then the dentist incurs a large deficit when examining his performance at a high frequency."

Lesson #2:
When we zoom out and check the prices less frequently, we are less affected by negative emotions.

Because over a longer time horizon, the market tends to rise more than it goes down.

10 Lessons from What It Takes To Be Free

(thread)

1)Someone's sitting in the shade today because someone
planted a tree a long time ago.

2) True freedom means you're not concerned with other people's opinions, views, and actions. You also don't have the need to explain why your ideas and actions are the best.

3)Remember, being free means to live as you are. You don't
have to lie about who you are, what you like, and what you
do. Just be yourself.

4)Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom
involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of
responsibility.

7 Life Lessons From The Book "Anna Karenina" by Leo Tolstoy

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1. All that glitters is not gold

When choosing a partner don't be satisfied just with good looks. Loyalty, trust, and ambition play a major role when choosing a partner.

2. Don't rush into marriage

Marrying late is better than marrying the wrong person. Its arguably a smart move, both emotionally and financially.

3. Divorce should be a socially acceptable option

It's true, divorce can have short-term negative consequences on children but recent studies have shown that it's beneficial in the long-run. Divorce is better than lifelong anxiety and negativity.

4. Accept the reality

Fretting over a situation as "fair" or "unfair" is unproductive for the mind. Rather accept the unfair situation and decide on a positive solution elevating you out of the mess.