🚨Hey YOU! No, not you who has your shit all together.. YOU RIGHT THERE! The ONE who feels like you can't make it one more day, one more hour, or maybe the thought of another minute is too much! YOU! I see you!

Social Intelligence 101:

If your friend is telling you about an accomplishment, do not try to one-up them by sharing an accomplishment of your own.

Tame your ego.

Sit back and actively listen.

The Law of Trust

“I’m not upset that you lied to me. I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe in you”- Friedrich Nietzsche

Sometimes in October, I received a call from a former client who had been out of the country for almost a year.

He is not a Nigerian but had just secured an appointment with a company. His first statement was “Bayo, I need to pick your brain on this because with you I know where I stand. I know you’ll not deceive me”.

After our discussion, he told me he had already informed his Chairman that their banking relationship had to come to me. I’ve signed it on since.

I’ve had cause to reflect over his statement many times since then. Here was a man whom sometimes I had very difficult conversations with. I’ve had to tell him no when I knew his requests were not possible. Sometimes, the relationship was stormy.

I never fail to tell my colleagues that the major currency for transaction is integrity and this will only be sustained in an atmosphere of trust. Never lie to customers in order to make a sale.

Shy people are either overthinking or highly observant of the social setting.

And in many cases it can be both.

'So what do I do?'

You learn the 75/25 law.

'What is that?'

The law of charisma...👇

Let's address the over thinkers first.

Do you have any idea why you overthink?

'Yea. Because others are judging how shy I am.'

Incorrect.

Others are thinking about themselves, not you.

But the fact that you think they are thinking about you, you fuck up the interaction.

Now you stay in your head too much & avoid the present moment.

A major no no in the social world.

Your tendency to think that others are judging you for being shy, coincidentally makes you more shy.

And that's when you start giving off a strange vibration to the social setting.

This is when you begin attracting comments like 'why are you so quiet?'

Whenever people call me an elitist, I am flummoxed. I am from a working class background, I am a product of public education my entire life, and I spend my free time creating a podcast that aims to make great books accessible to all for FREE.

I am called an elitist because I believe there's a difference between literary art and plain fiction. I believe some books are more worthy of your attention than others. Lots of books are like junk food: pleasurable but not nourishing.

My podcast is dedicated to the idea that great books are for everyone and everyone deserves a chance to learn to enjoy them. This is not an elitist enterprise. It does, however, suppose that some books are truly worthy of your attention and that I have some capacity to judge.

My podcast doesn't pretend to be exhaustive. I have limited resources and time and perspective. But the conceit of the podcast is that in listening to it you will deepen your literary and philosophical education. These aren't just books I happen to like and hope you do too.

My podcast highlights books I think you will benefit from reading. Many of them are challenging; one might have to struggle with them before one can enjoy them at all. The podcast aims to help get you to the enjoyment/appreciation stage, to show that the struggle pays off.

Soon to be mother, Mrs. Gemma Edwards was never a believer of miracles until it was time for her to deliver...

Gemma and her husband Craig Edwards had already chosen a name for their unborn child, they named her "SKYE"and she was truly a miracle from the sky...

#OdogwuTales

She was already booked to deliver her baby Skye via Ceasarian Section because she had an extra bone in her pelvis making her birth canal questionable

It was 4days before her due date but she just felt the urge to go to the hospital and she went...she was rushed in for surgery...

Baby "Skye" was delivered and she just cried a little and stopped and that's when the doctors knew all was not well...

Baby Skye had rashes and bruises all over her body, she also had severe heart, blood and lung problems...

Her internal orgrans were practically shutting down!

Doctors told the Mr & Mrs Edwards that if she had spent another 3hours at home, Baby Skye would have died in her womb that her coming in early gives her a chance at survival...

Doctors worked hard to save Baby Skye but no one could figure out what was wrong, after a few hours...

All hope was lost for Baby Skye and the doctors called the hospital chaplain to say prayers, Craig and Gemma were told to take pictures before it was too late

Family members flocked to the hospital to say "Goodbye" to the little girl that had just arrived..BUT GOD WAS NOT DONE!