“We don’t negotiate salaries” is a negotiation tactic.
Always. No, your company is not an exception.
I have seen this happen *extremely* rarely, mostly to women, and anyway is a giant red flag. It suggests you probably didn’t want to work there.
Instead, negotiate hard, use your privilege, and then go and share numbers with your underrepresented and underpaid colleagues. […]
Take your higher salary and the leverage that comes with it, and use it to make things more fair.
“But I don’t need more money!”
As if you could go to the company and tell them “you should pay me more, you see, I need more money”.
Don’t need the extra money? Great! Donate it, save it, escape debt, negotiate with more leverage, pick better jobs, retire early, whatever. It’s yours.
Higher comp if anything brings more organizational trust and respect, leading to less micro-management and wasted time, because you are more valued.
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Too many patterns leads to a boring, predictable, logical lifestyle.
Get the emotions involved.
Do something spontaneous out of the blue moon & flip the script.
'What's wrong with the patterns?'
Nothing is wrong with patterns.
However, there is a problem when all you have are patterns.
'Can you explain why?'
The thing with relationships is that it's meant to be an emotional experience.
It's very difficult to logically explain love, right?
Well this is where you want to steer the ship the right way.
1. Too emotional is bad.
2. Too logical is bad.
Let me break it down.
1. Too emotional
If a relationship is completely ruled by emotions, then it's too volatile.
You will never reach productivity if you are aimlessly only following each others emotions.
This lifestyle tarnishes any structure for the couple.
'So why do people do it?'
Because it's fun.
You may ruled by this stage in the honeymoon phase.
You'll be so spontaneous that it almost becomes a lifestyle.
But it's hard to level up your life when you're too spontaneous.
And in many cases it can be both.
'So what do I do?'
You learn the 75/25 law.
'What is that?'
The law of charisma...👇
Let's address the over thinkers first.
Do you have any idea why you overthink?
'Yea. Because others are judging how shy I am.'
Others are thinking about themselves, not you.
But the fact that you think they are thinking about you, you fuck up the interaction.
Now you stay in your head too much & avoid the present moment.
A major no no in the social world.
Your tendency to think that others are judging you for being shy, coincidentally makes you more shy.
And that's when you start giving off a strange vibration to the social setting.
This is when you begin attracting comments like 'why are you so quiet?'
This is why a lot of high IQ people lack social intelligence.
They talk to humans like robots & are baffled when they are resented for it.
This is why the charismatic person who knows less often rises up quicker
'What you smoking bro?? My IQ will be the biggest factor of my success!'
That's a limiting belief.
I'm gonna shake up your paradigm real quick 👇
You have been conditioned your entire life to believe that IQ score alone will dictate success.
And like most people, we were like 'yea, sure!'
But there's few incorrect thought patterns here
1. Success is subjective.
2. IQ exam insinuates intellect is fixed.
3. Your high IQ won't make others give a fuck, your communication will.
Let's go thru each one
1. Success is subjective
What I consider success may not be success for you.
Success it's a mirror image of where you are & where you want to be.
Aka sense of self.
So measuring success starts from looking within, not an exam.
And here at ACLU-MA, we know that justice is a labor of love. Here are some of our favorite moments of love and justice in the last year, to brighten your #ValentinesDay.
Almost exactly a year ago, our clients Hanz and Maudy were reunited after being separated by the cruel "Return to Mexico" policy.
Yesterday, a family of asylum seekers were reunited. Hanz & his son were subjected to #MPP, a cruel policy that forced them into dangerous cities in northern Mexico. We sued on their behalf, allowing them to rejoin their family in Massachusetts. pic.twitter.com/Kce6MTpS9C— ACLU Massachusetts (@ACLU_Mass) February 7, 2020
I was 18, when my first cousin morphed my face with that of a male school friend in extremely compromising position.
Very believable for anyone without knowledge of tech.
I was devastated. This was a brother I looked upto. This was the brother I had given my laptop to so he could apply for jobs. And on the same laptop, he made those photographs of me, his younger sister.
Why did he do that? He was kicked out of his house by his family after he married a girl w/o their consent. He was homeless, so my parents let him stay with us till my his family cools down & accepts them back. After 6 months, he felt threatened he'd be asked to leave our place.
So one day, he confronts my parents, infront of me, with those pictures and shows those photographs, with clear terms - pay him & his wife a fixed amount every month, let them stay at our home or he would leak those pictures everywhere.
I still remember he explained how he would distribute those pictures on the day they would get me married 😂
I don't know how any other parent from lower middle class would have reacted to this. But I remember how my parents did, that changed my relationship with them forever.
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2/ @nateliason wrote a fabulous article about this topic, which first introduced me to this concept. Everyone should read it:
3/ @alexisohanian also recently spoke about struggle porn, though referring to it as ‘hustle porn.’ (as the co-founder of @hustlefundvc, obviously I take issue with this pejorative definition of ‘hustle’, but that’s another topic)
4/ Struggling in itself isn’t necessarily bad. Let’s be real here--if you’re going to start a startup, you will struggle. Founders should expect to work harder generally than employees. You will be challenged in many ways and also be super rewarded in others. This is normal.
5/ However, if you are over-indexing on hard work without clear purpose and degrading your mental health/relationships in the process--then this is very bad and we obviously should not celebrate this behavior.
When I took on my biggest marketing & events team to date (35 employees) I asked him how the *heck* he did it. Here's what he said and what helped me every day. 🧵
Remember you're leading all the employees under you, but you're not *managing* them all. You're managing your direct reports, which should be 5-7 individuals max. Focus on them.
When you interact with the employees you don't manage directly, get to know them as people first, that'll be the most valuable information in leading them. Remembering everything you learn about them is hard, but doing so will make you a superhero.
If you're not going to empower the managers under you, why do you have them? If you see room for improvement, let the manager know and let them make the change on their teams and come to you with questions/concerns. This will save you SO much time.
If you're the smartest person in any room - you're doing it wrong. As a leader, your job is bringing together the best people to get the job done - your skillset is identifying those people, not being one of them.
Peter Thiel spends 6 months writing down everything he knows about business. His book sells for $10.
Adam Wathan and Steve Schoger spend 6 months writing down everything they know about design. Their “book” sells for $79.
Believe it or not, both prices make perfect sense.
Thiel is selling to the masses and the masses are sensitive to price changes (price elastic).
If he raises the price to $30 they wouldn’t think twice before substituting his book for one of the many cheaper alternatives on Amazon.
Adam and Steve are selling to hardcore fans and hardcore fans are insensitive to price changes (price inelastic).
They've all been following the Twitter tips, watching the screencasts, reading the Medium posts.
In their minds, there are no substitute resources available.
When demand for your good is inelastic, you raise your price.
In the case of Adam and Steve, all the way up to $79.
As the diagram shows, a 8x price increase ($10 to $79) results in just a 2x drop in books sold (20k to 10k) and 4x more revenue (area of the rectangles).
I really, *really* like SoJ's "would not use again" question, which lets people who've abandoned a tech self-identify. This is noticeable in the graph above with Flow users -- 41% of people who've used Flow say they wouldn't use it again.
React 65% (vs. 60%)
Vue 29% (vs. 24%)
Ember 5% (vs 4%, I was expecting a bigger rise)
But there's a shocker in here: Angular.
npm's survey had Angular at 40% last year and SoJ has it at either:
- 58% (if you include those who don't want to use it again)
- 24% (if you count only those who like it)
Since npm's question didn't ask if they intend to *continue* using it I think that might explain this.
A printing shop in Michigan prints ballots for Delaware County, Pennsylvania and as Lancashire County, Pennsylvania (this is normal). But along with the ballots it prints on contract and delivers to those counties, it prints some ballots that get diverted to Bethpage, New York.
There, a boiler room of folks fill in "Biden" (often without even voting downballot). The ballots (which are forensically legitimate, given that they come from the same print shop as the good ballots, ) then get trucked into Pennsylvania and mailed. Hundreds of thousands.
We have all of that documented. Texts, statements, affidavits, everything.
We also know that this same ballot printing company (and other firms in the same family) also print for Michigan, Wisconsin, Arizona, and Georgia.