You know how unwilling men are to accept that their attract…

First: Skin

No wrinkles or blemished skin, even if their skin looks like a Google satellite map

Ask a man over 30 if he finds wrinkles in a woman’s face sexually desirable, see what he says. He should. He likely cant. He doesn’t know how. He’s never learned to see them that way

Second: Fitness

They seek evidence of “health” bc that is associated with youth. We know that as we age, our bodies/ health deteriorates. Women who “work out” are seen as healthier and more youthful, not old and decrepit. However, this doesn’t apply to fat women who exercise

Third: Body Count/Marital status

The assumption is that the older a woman is the more men have been inside of her and if she’s divorced, a man used to own her pussy. This isn’t something pushed as attractive. Older men seeking younger women is connected to this

body count matters for various reasons but the one we don’t talk enough about is sexual insecurity and the fear of not measuring up to past lovers. The more there are, the greater the risk of failure. Younger women are more attractive bc they minimize this risk of embarrassment

Fourth: Size

A smaller woman can more likely be physically dominated and controlled, like a child. Shorter women won’t feel like “mommy”. Slimmer women won’t feel threatening. The smaller a woman is the younger she appears and that’s attractive to many men.

Fat women appear older so they’re definitely not desirable to most. Also see the point about “health” and “fitness” representing youthful energy—fat women appear to be the opposite of that. Fatness ages women, to them.

Fifth: Hair

Men have been conditioned to prefer hairless women and while this is a fairly modern thing, seriously like <50 years, it represents a desire for a more youthful appearance. We grow body hair for important reasons but it begins when we reach puberty (generally)

I like grooming for all bodies but don’t trip over pubes bc they exist for a reason. The demand for cis men to “shave down there” or have clean pits doesn’t even come close to the demand put on women to do so. Some of it sexist. Some ageist. All attacks on women’s bodies

Finally: Age

MOST men seek women younger than them, especially when they hit 35-40. The age they desire lowers and the gap is larger than when they were in their 20s. At 28, 25 worked. At 32, 25 still works. At 40, 25 is still good money...but 40 generally isn’t

At 40, the average single man does NOT want to date a 40 y/o woman unless she “looks younger”, is “fit”, isn’t hairy, doesn’t have grey hair or too many obvious wrinkles

I’m telling you as a woman over 40 who has men regularly ARGUE me that I can’t be my age...they do NOT want us unless we can pull off not outwardly appearing to be what they believe 40+ should look like

I have been an anti-ageism “activist” got going on 7 years now...ever since I turned 35 & became inundated w/ppl denying my age or trying to divorce me from my aging process as some complimentary action.

It’s a predatory sickness fueled by patriarchal misogyny

Remember when Tom Ford said he was tired of the “cult of youth” and ran this ad? People called it “geriatric porn” 😒😒😒😒😤😤😤