This whole thread.

It has made me think through multiple conflicts I have had at work and how "real talk" basically shuts down management.

Like when I was drowning in work, asking for help, and my boss asked me point blank if I wanted to quit and why didn't I ask for help.

I showed her the emails and call logs where I did.
She shut down and walked away.
Or the time a project was going off the rails and I asked my team lead for help.

I explained everything I did so far and was looking for direction on what else to do.

And he said, "I don't want this time to be just you complaining."
So I stopped telling him anything negative.
He prided himself on being from the East Coast and harsh.

He could dish it but not take it.
Or the time I was taken aside by management and told to stop telling new hires their rights and the state laws around time keeping.
Or the time I yelled at a colleague because they were touching my experiment that had failed with their bare hands.

Yes, it was sugar. But still the machine was still running and by touching it they had contaminated it and I could no longer rescue it.
And I think about how my mom taught me to basically work around management.

How a colleague saw how frustrated I was and taught me, "toot! toot! and salute." Or point out an error/issue twice and on the third time just do what management says but document you tried to stop it.
And this right here I think is the issue:

https://t.co/2FH906eU3j
Like the time I showed my management how much I was underpaid in the team and across the university only to be told by her:

"I know I can look up anyone's pay but I don't because it makes me sad."
White people, we have a problem. And it is not being able to deal with conflict in really ANY way.

We seem to have two modes, avoid at all costs, or explode.
And explode can be in anger or it can be in tears.

Tears weaponized to shut everything down.
Because we can't deal with conflict so we just make it so there is no conflict.

By ignoring it or throughly destroying it so there is no longer remnants of conflict.
And that is just not reasonable or sustainable.

We have only gotten away with it because of white supremacy. We control it all so we say what fights are worth it and what should just be forgotten.

And anything that makes us look bad is to be forgotten.
And that is complete and utter bullshit.

We can't get better because we refuse to see how we can be better people. We refuse to learn because that means we were wrong and the rules we impose were wrong.
And we need to learn:

Learn to admit we are wrong.

Learn to listen.

Learn to apologize sincerely.

Learn how to not be complete and utter fucking asshats.

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the whole point of Dunks was you could go cop them at VIM whenever you wanted for $65. this shit is like having to enter a raffle to buy milk.


like seriously why not make a ton more of them if they're gonna be so sought-after? they land at outlets? so? nike still makes money off that.

the only reason to keep making them so limited is that they KNOW all that matters is the profit on the flip and if they were readily available FEWER people would want them, not more

the whole system is super broken, but it's just gonna go the way it goes, because at this point it all caters to the secondary market. the only reason Nike can sell Jordan 1s for $200 is because the people buying them can flip them for $500

adjusted for inflation, a $65 AJ1 in 1985 is like $160—and modern-day AJ1s are made from cheaper materials in factories staffed by cheaper workers. they don't HAVE to be $200 retail. but the secondary market nuked the whole concept of what sneakers are "worth"

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Always. No, your company is not an exception.

A tactic I don’t appreciate at all because of how unfairly it penalizes low-leverage, junior employees, and those loyal enough not to question it, but that’s negotiation for you after all. Weaponized information asymmetry.

Listen to Aditya


And by the way, you should never be worried that an offer would be withdrawn if you politely negotiate.

I have seen this happen *extremely* rarely, mostly to women, and anyway is a giant red flag. It suggests you probably didn’t want to work there.

You wish there was no negotiating so it would all be more fair? I feel you, but it’s not happening.

Instead, negotiate hard, use your privilege, and then go and share numbers with your underrepresented and underpaid colleagues. […]
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The first ever world map was sketched thousands of years ago by Indian saint
“Ramanujacharya” who simply translated the following verse from Mahabharat and gave the world its real face

In Mahabharat,it is described how 'Maharishi Ved Vyasa' gave away his divine vision to Sanjay


Dhritarashtra's charioteer so that he could describe him the events of the upcoming war.

But, even before questions of war could begin, Dhritarashtra asked him to describe how the world looks like from space.

This is how he described the face of the world:

सुदर्शनं प्रवक्ष्यामि द्वीपं तु कुरुनन्दन। परिमण्डलो महाराज द्वीपोऽसौ चक्रसंस्थितः॥
यथा हि पुरुषः पश्येदादर्शे मुखमात्मनः। एवं सुदर्शनद्वीपो दृश्यते चन्द्रमण्डले॥ द्विरंशे पिप्पलस्तत्र द्विरंशे च शशो महान्।

—वेद व्यास, भीष्म पर्व, महाभारत


Meaning:-

हे कुरुनन्दन ! सुदर्शन नामक यह द्वीप चक्र की भाँति गोलाकार स्थित है, जैसे पुरुष दर्पण में अपना मुख देखता है, उसी प्रकार यह द्वीप चन्द्रमण्डल में दिखायी देता है। इसके दो अंशो मे पीपल और दो अंशो मे विशाल शश (खरगोश) दिखायी देता है।


Meaning: "Just like a man sees his face in the mirror, so does the Earth appears in the Universe. In the first part you see leaves of the Peepal Tree, and in the next part you see a Rabbit."

Based on this shloka, Saint Ramanujacharya sketched out the map, but the world laughed