Nothing punitive or carceral, nor punishment related, nor negativity related should ever be tied to healing, recovery, rebuilding one's life or anything that makes a person feel worse about himself, herself, or themself. We know enough now to understand that punishment, loss
and/or reminders of past traumas and/or losses have no business and play nothing but a negative role, in rebuilding self-esteem, self-worth, self-love, community and the meaningful things we all need to create lives for ourselves that we feel are worth living. Especially in
exceedingly early ‘sobriety’, ‘abstinence’ and/or the traditional deprivations of one’s substance(s) of choice when people have had their only coping mechanism ripped away from them, under the ancient and provenly ineffective current model of ‘recovery’.
The author @johannhari101 , wrote the book ‘Chasing the Scream The First and Last Days of the War on Drugs’ said in his now famous Ted talk ‘Everything You Think You Know About Addiction is Wrong’:
“For 100 years now we've been singing war songs about addicts, when all along we should have been singing love songs to them. Because the opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is connection.”
While 12 Step ideology works for many, I was harmed significantly by the church & the Judeo-Christian values of attending 5-6 meetings a week for 3 years - just so I could prove to myself & be able to testify in circumstances like this, it felt duplicitous & CONTINUED HURTING ME
People have successfully sued their state governments AND WON when forced to go to 12 step meetings on the basis that it violated their religious freedoms. It has likely has not happened on a larger scale because of socioeconomic disparities and the cost of
efficacious legal representation. The author of this piece should be commended 4 saying out loud what so many of us feel but whisper in secret out of fear that we will be ostracized, criticized & judged right out of the program 4 daring to criticize the Holy Father himself Bill W
He was mortal, cheated on his wife, and experimented with LSD later in life as he went through great bouts of depression. I AM NOT JUDGING HIM FOR THIS. Simply pointing out hypocrisies that many die-hard 12 steppers are not even aware of.
@Transition46 you could not be MORE wrong if this is your plan. WHEN WILL YOU LEARN? Punishment ≠Healing and don't get me started on expanding involuntary commitment measures - the research has been in forever & IT DOES NOT WORK.
It exists for everyone EXCEPT the people victimized by it. I was 23 when my father died and within less than 1 year had been involuntarily committed by a family who chose their deeply flawed morality over loving me despite my use of alcohol, multiple times,
was given antipsychotic medication that caused me to gain 75 + lbs in a matter of months and less than one year after my father died, I was deemed 'treatment-resistant' by psychiatrists b/c antidepressants didn't work and told electroshock was my last hope. MY LAST HOPE?!?
All because nobody tried love first.
I went through a lot of trauma as a child and adult and while far from perfect I am fighting these messages despite what I've been through. You see 'tough love' is neither. B/c what's tough is the love given despite witnessing the suffering a person is experiencing.
YOU CANNOT FORCE A PERSON TO HEAL. @MassGovernor are you listening because I understand you're going to build a so-called trauma-informed prison for women for $50,000,000 in MA by 2024. You might as well try to light a match submerged beneath the surface of the Charles River.
We don't listen to scientists about climate change, we don't listen to sociologists and Harm Reduction MDs re: addiction, we don't listen to people w/lived experience who DO possess the capacity to speak eloquently about their lives. We listen to centrists & lobbyists & polls
& billionaires & those with political, financial, cultural, & social capital. We heal in relationships. We heal when we are truly & non-judgementally heard & given the opportunity to be our authentic selves. & define ourselves as a person first, born with the same rights, each 1.
"For love is but the heart's immortal thirst to be truly known and all forgiven."
- Henry Van Dyke
@ReadReadj @DrKimSue @Mad_In_America @MITUKteam @SusanSered @PLSMA @SenWarren @RepKClark @MA_Senate @PsychRecovery @patdeegan @Advocates_Inc @harvardmed
@SMOCMA @HarmReductionB1 @Mayor_Spicer @massnonprofit @AOC @RepPressley @MassDPH @APA @APAPsychiatric @MGHPsychiatry
@BrookeM_Feldman @billkinkle @SentencingProj @DrSarahWakeman @SchrebersSister @heymelody
@maiasz @ACLU @ACLU_Mass @felicejfreyer @_eleven13_ @BostonGlobe @wbz @BOSUsersUnion @WCVB @7News @The_BMC @McLeanEducation @McLeanHospital

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1/“What would need to be true for you to….X”

Why is this the most powerful question you can ask when attempting to reach an agreement with another human being or organization?

A thread, co-written by @deanmbrody:


2/ First, “X” could be lots of things. Examples: What would need to be true for you to

- “Feel it's in our best interest for me to be CMO"
- “Feel that we’re in a good place as a company”
- “Feel that we’re on the same page”
- “Feel that we both got what we wanted from this deal

3/ Normally, we aren’t that direct. Example from startup/VC land:

Founders leave VC meetings thinking that every VC will invest, but they rarely do.

Worse over, the founders don’t know what they need to do in order to be fundable.

4/ So why should you ask the magic Q?

To get clarity.

You want to know where you stand, and what it takes to get what you want in a way that also gets them what they want.

It also holds them (mentally) accountable once the thing they need becomes true.

5/ Staying in the context of soliciting investors, the question is “what would need to be true for you to want to invest (or partner with us on this journey, etc)?”

Multiple responses to this question are likely to deliver a positive result.
"I really want to break into Product Management"

make products.

"If only someone would tell me how I can get a startup to notice me."

Make Products.

"I guess it's impossible and I'll never break into the industry."

MAKE PRODUCTS.

Courtesy of @edbrisson's wonderful thread on breaking into comics –
https://t.co/TgNblNSCBj – here is why the same applies to Product Management, too.


There is no better way of learning the craft of product, or proving your potential to employers, than just doing it.

You do not need anybody's permission. We don't have diplomas, nor doctorates. We can barely agree on a single standard of what a Product Manager is supposed to do.

But – there is at least one blindingly obvious industry consensus – a Product Manager makes Products.

And they don't need to be kept at the exact right temperature, given endless resource, or carefully protected in order to do this.

They find their own way.
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From today, we will memorize the names of 27 Nakshatras in Vedic Jyotish to never forget in life.

I will write 4 names. Repeat them in SAME sequence twice in morning, noon, evening. Each day, revise new names + recall all previously learnt names.

Pls RT if you are in.

2

Today's Nakshatras are:-

1. Ashwini - अश्विनी

2. Bharani - भरणी

3. Krittika - कृत्तिका

4. Rohini - रोहिणी

Ashwini - अश्विनी is the FIRST Nakshatra.

Repeat these names TWICE now, tomorrow morning, noon and evening. Like this tweet if you have revised 8 times as told.

3

Today's Nakshatras are:-

5. Mrigashira - मृगशिरा

6. Ardra - आर्द्रा

7. Punarvasu - पुनर्वसु

8. Pushya - पुष्य

First recall previously learnt Nakshatras twice. Then recite these TWICE now, tomorrow morning, noon & evening in SAME order. Like this tweet only after doing so.

4

Today's Nakshatras are:-

9. Ashlesha - अश्लेषा

10. Magha - मघा

11. Purvaphalguni - पूर्वाफाल्गुनी

12. Uttaraphalguni - उत्तराफाल्गुनी

Purva means that comes before (P se Purva, P se pehele), and Uttara comes later.

Read next tweet too.

5

Purva, Uttara prefixes come in other Nakshatras too. Purva= pehele wala. Remember.

First recall previously learnt 8 Nakshatras twice. Then recite those in Tweet #4 TWICE now, tomorrow morning, noon & evening in SAME order. Like this tweet if you have read Tweets #4 & 5, both.