WEAK FRAME
Frame is simply an unspoken and unseen circle where everyone chooses to operate in
Everyone has a frame but not everyone's frame is functional
If you're leading a conversation everyone is in your frame, if you're not then you're in the frame of the person leading
At first a guy might have given her the subconscious idea that he is capable of leading and being assertive but as time went on he started succumbing to her bullshit
Whenever she threw a shit test he would fail miserably again and again till he was now operating in her frame
Instead of being her pillar he made her his and leaned on her making her have the final say...
To a point that she no longer sees him as the guy she wants inside her
There are so many things a man does that largely falls into this category... And most of these go unnoticed
Everytime you apologize even when she's wrong you step into her Frame and let her know she can fuck up and you'll take the blame
Anytime you essentially allow her to lead, have the last say, and tell u what needs be done. . You're in her frame
When you let her be your therapist and even cry infront of her
She expects you to have your shit together and showing weakness proves you are not..
This often doesn't make sense because women often want a man who is "Vulnerable" but their biological instincts says otherwise
Begging her
A Man with a Strong Frame will never ever beg a woman
When you beg her... It says to her that you are definitely not the man she should be with and you have ZERO options that is why you are making a fool of yourself
HYPERGAMY
Hypergamy is the most talked about concept in Redpill and often times by bitter men who have nothing going for them
Irregardless this is still one of the biggest reasons why she left
The Shortest definition for Hypergamy is "Dating Up"
This just means a woman always wants the best possible mate
A recurring example is that a man finds a woman who is below him and he builds her up
He teaches her everything he knows and raises her to be his "equal" and when she finally gets there she no longer looks up to him
She no longer admires and respects him because in her eyes she is below him and feels she can do better
This is why it's higly adviced never to send a woman to school with your money
Men never see this coming because they are logical
They think if they elevate her, sacrifice, invest and make her a better woman she will appreciate him forever
Never realizing that these are the very things that will make him unable to measure up to the woman they created
Now I'm not saying don't help your partner in anyway... just don't do it expecting a return on investment and don't elevate her to heights you aren't even there yet
Because thoughts of her being better and wanting to be with a better man are guaranteed to pop up in her head
Hypergamy doesn't care about anything you do for her, if she feels like she can do better she will
You need to make sure you are always the best man in her radar
Constantly work on yourself
Have the frame of a man with options
And resist the urge to make unnecessary sacrifices
IMPROPER VETTING
Vetting is basically screening if a girl has the right qualities to make a great partner
Scarcity mindset has men cuffing girls without a second thought and then proceeding to suffer in the relationship
They ignore Red flags and
Then wonder Wtf happened
The first thing you need to figure out when you Vet a woman is "Is she receptive to learning a new philosophy on life?"
Most of these girls are brainwashed by western ideologies that she might not even want to follow anything you teach about how she should act
This causes frustration for so many guys because "She doesn't want to listen to me"
But the fact is she didn't want to listen even before the relationship started
She needs to be willing to step in your frame
And Like Rollo once said "The frame that is agreed on will determine the tone of the rest of the relationship"
Redflags should never be ignored... If she says she has alot of guy friends don't try to change that situation after you get in a relationship... It won't work
If you dated her when she was a single mother what did you expect?
If you listen closely women always tell on themselves, Act non judgemental
She will tell you her sexual experiences, what kind of a girl she is at home and how she treats people
Pay attention
... From observation (Tattoos, Clothing, Hairstyle) and the things she says and how she acts you can accurately deduce what type of girl she really is and whether or not she can fit into the kind of life you live
Men don't know how to properly vet women so down the line they get shocked by how she behaves when in truth this had always been a part of her personality
Know exactly what you're doing and where you went wrong and start becoming a better man
