They are very: sudden, quick, and intense.
Usually, there's love bombing which looks like: excessive attention, praise, flattery, and undying devotion.
Trauma bonds are unhealthy attachments that can feel consuming, passionate, and highly addictive.
HERE'S WHY:
They are very: sudden, quick, and intense.
Usually, there's love bombing which looks like: excessive attention, praise, flattery, and undying devotion.
In trauma bonds, there's quick excessive declarations of immediate love or devotion.
This can feel intoxicating for adults that have been emotionally neglected.
Slowly, insecurities begin to show.
Usually in the form of: jealousy, control, shaming or criticism.
Fights begin to happen.
This cycle is highly addictive and intoxicating because it takes the relationship back to the beginning stages of: undying devotion, declarations of love, and physical connection. Oxytocin floods the body.
In healthy relationships, partners respect each other and have a consistent, overall, positive view of each other.
"there's just something special about them" "you wouldn't understand" or "it's hard to explain."
- we show up for each other
- we respect each other's beliefs, goals, and emotions
- we trust each other and work as a team
When a partner is gaslighting or deflecting, they see this as "normal
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MDZS is laden with buddhist references. As a South Asian person, and history buff, it is so interesting to see how Buddhism, which originated from India, migrated, flourished & changed in the context of China. Here's some research (🙏🏼 @starkjeon for CN insight + citations)
1. LWJ’s sword Bichen ‘is likely an abbreviation for the term 躲避红尘 (duǒ bì hóng chén), which can be translated as such: 躲避: shunning or hiding away from 红尘 (worldly affairs; which is a buddhist teaching.) (https://t.co/zF65W3roJe) (abbrev. TWX)
2. Sandu (三 毒), Jiang Cheng’s sword, refers to the three poisons (triviṣa) in Buddhism; desire (kāma-taṇhā), delusion (bhava-taṇhā) and hatred (vibhava-taṇhā).
These 3 poisons represent the roots of craving (tanha) and are the cause of Dukkha (suffering, pain) and thus result in rebirth.
Interesting that MXTX used this name for one of the characters who suffers, arguably, the worst of these three emotions.
3. The Qian kun purse “乾坤袋 (qián kūn dài) – can be called “Heaven and Earth” Pouch. In Buddhism, Maitreya (मैत्रेय) owns this to store items. It was believed that there was a mythical space inside the bag that could absorb the world.” (TWX)
1. LWJ’s sword Bichen ‘is likely an abbreviation for the term 躲避红尘 (duǒ bì hóng chén), which can be translated as such: 躲避: shunning or hiding away from 红尘 (worldly affairs; which is a buddhist teaching.) (https://t.co/zF65W3roJe) (abbrev. TWX)
2. Sandu (三 毒), Jiang Cheng’s sword, refers to the three poisons (triviṣa) in Buddhism; desire (kāma-taṇhā), delusion (bhava-taṇhā) and hatred (vibhava-taṇhā).
These 3 poisons represent the roots of craving (tanha) and are the cause of Dukkha (suffering, pain) and thus result in rebirth.
Interesting that MXTX used this name for one of the characters who suffers, arguably, the worst of these three emotions.
3. The Qian kun purse “乾坤袋 (qián kūn dài) – can be called “Heaven and Earth” Pouch. In Buddhism, Maitreya (मैत्रेय) owns this to store items. It was believed that there was a mythical space inside the bag that could absorb the world.” (TWX)
