Answering this question honestly, can almost always predict the outcome
(Sales, Dates, Friendships...anything)
Are you inviting them to your kingdom
Or are you inviting yourself into their kingdom?
*Thread* - Needing nothing attracts everything
Building your kingdom
Answering this question honestly, can almost always predict the outcome
(Sales, Dates, Friendships...anything)
Are you inviting them to your kingdom
Or are you inviting yourself into their kingdom?
Firm & grounded
In the country (life) you’ve built
You shine so bright those who see the lighthouse are attracted to come
Getting out of the sea into certainty
To the promise land, where their needs & desires are met
Build your country
Then you need nothing
Needing nothing attracts everything
Now when you invite people to your kingdom
it is genuinely more needed/desired by them
Because you live there, you already have it & invite them to share in it
You need it more than they do
When you port they will check your passport
Make you jump through hoops, qualify yourself, prove yourself, chase
Build your kingdom & you’ll never need to chase again
You’ll already have what others chase
More you have the more you give
More you give the more you receive
When you are lost at sea you have nothing to give
So you must always chase for entry into other people’s reality & often get rejected
Needing approval & access to that reality
Your emotional well-being is in the hands of others reactions to you
A limiting & suffocating feeling
Ignore other kingdoms for now
Drive back home. You may not like what you see
Do not chase the butterfly
Build your kingdom both internally (mindsets, frame, beliefs, state)
And externally (reflections of your state/beliefs/mindsets)
- income, hobbies, relationships, social circle, etc
More from Life
1/ Here’s a list of conversational frameworks I’ve picked up that have been helpful.
Please add your own.
2/ The Magic Question: "What would need to be true for you
3/ On evaluating where someone’s head is at regarding a topic they are being wishy-washy about or delaying.
“Gun to the head—what would you decide now?”
“Fast forward 6 months after your sabbatical--how would you decide: what criteria is most important to you?”
4/ Other Q’s re: decisions:
“Putting aside a list of pros/cons, what’s the *one* reason you’re doing this?” “Why is that the most important reason?”
“What’s end-game here?”
“What does success look like in a world where you pick that path?”
5/ When listening, after empathizing, and wanting to help them make their own decisions without imposing your world view:
“What would the best version of yourself do”?
Please add your own.
2/ The Magic Question: "What would need to be true for you
1/\u201cWhat would need to be true for you to\u2026.X\u201d
— Erik Torenberg (@eriktorenberg) December 4, 2018
Why is this the most powerful question you can ask when attempting to reach an agreement with another human being or organization?
A thread, co-written by @deanmbrody: https://t.co/Yo6jHbSit9
3/ On evaluating where someone’s head is at regarding a topic they are being wishy-washy about or delaying.
“Gun to the head—what would you decide now?”
“Fast forward 6 months after your sabbatical--how would you decide: what criteria is most important to you?”
4/ Other Q’s re: decisions:
“Putting aside a list of pros/cons, what’s the *one* reason you’re doing this?” “Why is that the most important reason?”
“What’s end-game here?”
“What does success look like in a world where you pick that path?”
5/ When listening, after empathizing, and wanting to help them make their own decisions without imposing your world view:
“What would the best version of yourself do”?
