What motivates us?
What drives us to do anything at all?
Kids spend more time on screens today than ever before.
Do they lack self-control? Or are deeper factors at play?
Let’s unpack the psychology of screens 👇🏼 🪡
What motivates us?
What drives us to do anything at all?
• autonomy
• competency
• relatedness
We crave these experiences just like our bodies crave protein, carbs, and fats.
Read more here: https://t.co/KhcP9iDlsI
In the same way, if we don’t feed our psyches with autonomy, competency, and relatedness, our mental health suffers.
As @nireyal says in his book, Indistractable:
“School, where kids spend most of their waking hours, is in many ways the antithesis of a place where kids feel competence, autonomy, and relatedness.”
Are kids searching for supplements online because they can’t find autonomy, competency, and relatedness in their offline world?
Let’s unpack this idea further by looking at the daily life of a kid in school.
In school, everything is planned with strict rules. Kids are told what to do, what to think, & even what to wear!
One survey found that the average kid has to follow twice as many restrictions as an incarcerated felon 😳
https://t.co/LmZCLPRoaY
They can make choices (like what and who to play with), dive deep into what interests them, and make decisions of their own (like what their avatar should look like).
They experience a lot less adult control and surveillance.
Kids are so different. We can’t expect them to learn the same way or force them into one box.
The recent obsession with metrics, standards, and one-size-fits-all curriculums makes it hard for kids like this to experience competency in school.
They get to teach themselves new subjects, which gives them confidence in their abilities to learn on their own.
Many turn to video games, which are specifically designed to give a sense of competency and achievement.
Parents send their kids to school so they can make friends and develop social skills.
Unfortunately, kids don't have as much time to socialize as they used to in schools.
Packed schedules and extensive curriculums leave little room for them to play and connect.
It's like a huge playground, where people can connect over their shared interests.
Kids can build friendships through free play, spending hours together diving into games and working on projects they choose.
But what about when screen time goes from an important outlet to an unhealthy obsession?
Here are 7 ideas to help kids navigate screen time:
It’s easy to lay down rules without giving any good reasons, but that’s a quick way to frustrate kids.
Instead, talk about the costs and benefits of tech. Help them see the issues so they can make good choices even when you're not around.
Say things like, “It must be hard to be told what to do all day. I bet it feels good to choose what you want to do when you play Minecraft."
When kids feel understood, they're more receptive to new ideas & can plan better ways to spend time
Say things like, “I’ve noticed I waste a lot of time on Instagram in the morning. When I wake up, I’m going to read a book instead of immediately grabbing my phone.”
Model the proper use of technology. Vulnerability builds trust.
Instead of adding more rules, create boundaries together in a collaborative way.
Spend time with them online and learn to value what *they* value before you start encouraging them to limit screen time.
Give kids the chance to enjoy agency, competency, & relatedness offline as well as online.
Limit adult-led activities. Give them lots of free time, let them explore many hobbies, and organize plenty of playdates with friends.
When your kids are online, encourage them to learn, socialize, and create.
Aim for less Coco Mellon and more Endless Reader; fewer cat videos and more time learning to code; less time watching Tiktoks & more time creating them.
Make sure that when you do ask your kids to say “No” to their screens, they’re saying “Yes!” to something even better.
Make family time so fulfilling and engaging, your kids won’t miss their phones.
Once kids feel understood, they can start making better choices around how to spend their time.
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(I am forced to do this due to continuous hounding of Sikh Extremists since yesterday)
Rani Jindan Kaur, wife of Maharaja Ranjit Singh had illegitimate relations with Lal Singh (PM of Ranjit Singh). Along with Lal Singh, she attacked Jammu, burnt - https://t.co/EfjAq59AyI
Hindu villages of Jasrota, caused rebellion in Jammu, attacked Kishtwar.
Ancestors of Raja Ranjit Singh, The Sansi Tribe used to give daughters as concubines to Jahangir.
The Ludhiana Political Agency (Later NW Fronties Prov) was formed by less than 4000 British soldiers who advanced from Delhi and reached Ludhiana, receiving submissions of all sikh chiefs along the way. The submission of the troops of Raja of Lahore (Ranjit Singh) at Ambala.
Dabistan a contemporary book on Sikh History tells us that Guru Hargobind broke Naina devi Idol Same source describes Guru Hargobind serving a eunuch
YarKhan. (ref was proudly shared by a sikh on twitter)
Gobind Singh followed Bahadur Shah to Deccan to fight for him.
In Zafarnama, Guru Gobind Singh states that the reason he was in conflict with the Hill Rajas was that while they were worshiping idols, while he was an idol-breaker.
And idiot Hindus place him along Maharana, Prithviraj and Shivaji as saviours of Dharma.
(I am forced to do this due to continuous hounding of Sikh Extremists since yesterday)
Rani Jindan Kaur, wife of Maharaja Ranjit Singh had illegitimate relations with Lal Singh (PM of Ranjit Singh). Along with Lal Singh, she attacked Jammu, burnt - https://t.co/EfjAq59AyI
Tomorrow again same thing happens bcoz fudus like you are creating a narrative oh Khalistan. when farmers are asking MSP. (RSS ki tatti khane wale Kerni sena ke kutte).
— Ancient Economist (@_stock_tips) December 5, 2020
U kill sikhs in 1984 just politics. To BC low IQ fudu Saale entire history was politics.
Hindu villages of Jasrota, caused rebellion in Jammu, attacked Kishtwar.
Ancestors of Raja Ranjit Singh, The Sansi Tribe used to give daughters as concubines to Jahangir.
The Ludhiana Political Agency (Later NW Fronties Prov) was formed by less than 4000 British soldiers who advanced from Delhi and reached Ludhiana, receiving submissions of all sikh chiefs along the way. The submission of the troops of Raja of Lahore (Ranjit Singh) at Ambala.
Dabistan a contemporary book on Sikh History tells us that Guru Hargobind broke Naina devi Idol Same source describes Guru Hargobind serving a eunuch
YarKhan. (ref was proudly shared by a sikh on twitter)
Gobind Singh followed Bahadur Shah to Deccan to fight for him.
In Zafarnama, Guru Gobind Singh states that the reason he was in conflict with the Hill Rajas was that while they were worshiping idols, while he was an idol-breaker.
And idiot Hindus place him along Maharana, Prithviraj and Shivaji as saviours of Dharma.
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I’ve always felt that the luckiest people I know had a talent for recognizing circumstances, not of their own making, that were conducive to a favorable outcome and their ability to quickly take advantage of them.
In other words, dumb luck was just that, it required no awareness on the person’s part, whereas “smart” luck involved awareness followed by action before the circumstances changed.
So, was I “lucky” to be born when I was—nothing I had any control over—and that I came of age just as huge databases and computers were advancing to the point where I could use those tools to write “What Works on Wall Street?” Absolutely.
Was I lucky to start my stock market investments near the peak of interest rates which allowed me to spend the majority of my adult life in a falling rate environment? Yup.
Ironies of Luck https://t.co/5BPWGbAxFi
— Morgan Housel (@morganhousel) March 14, 2018
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In other words, dumb luck was just that, it required no awareness on the person’s part, whereas “smart” luck involved awareness followed by action before the circumstances changed.
So, was I “lucky” to be born when I was—nothing I had any control over—and that I came of age just as huge databases and computers were advancing to the point where I could use those tools to write “What Works on Wall Street?” Absolutely.
Was I lucky to start my stock market investments near the peak of interest rates which allowed me to spend the majority of my adult life in a falling rate environment? Yup.
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Mueller's officially end his investigation all on his own and he's gonna say he found no evidence of Trump campaign/Russian collusion during the 2016 election.
Democrats & DNC Media are going to LITERALLY have nothing coherent to say in response to that.
Mueller's team was 100% partisan.
That's why it's brilliant. NOBODY will be able to claim this team of partisan Democrats didn't go the EXTRA 20 MILES looking for ANY evidence they could find of Trump campaign/Russian collusion during the 2016 election
They looked high.
They looked low.
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And they found...NOTHING.
Those saying Mueller will file obstruction charges against Trump: laughable.
What documents did Trump tell the Mueller team it couldn't have? What witnesses were withheld and never interviewed?
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Mueller's officially end his investigation all on his own and he's gonna say he found no evidence of Trump campaign/Russian collusion during the 2016 election.
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They looked high.
They looked low.
They looked underneath every rock, behind every tree, into every bush.
And they found...NOTHING.
Those saying Mueller will file obstruction charges against Trump: laughable.
What documents did Trump tell the Mueller team it couldn't have? What witnesses were withheld and never interviewed?
THERE WEREN'T ANY.
Mueller got full 100% cooperation as the record will show.