Being right versus being effective
I wish more folks would put attention on the latter. I believe it is what effects real change. Perhaps it’s my bias, since I am an educator. Unfortunately I see more of the former than the latter. I think some balance would be helpful. (1/n)
From what I have seen, especially on SM, when folks double down on their “rightness”, it is often compelled by pain, trauma, frustration, ego, etc. It often manifests as “tunnel vision”, which is not always bad, but isn’t the only way to operate. (2/n)
This mode often results in an endless back-and-forth where nobody really changes how they think about things. Maybe some onlookers pick up some information but it’s kind of a throw spaghetti on the wall and see what sticks approach. (3/n)
OTOH, being effective is no less concerned with conveying what a person believes is right, but functions v differently. To be effective, one must read the room, meet people where they are, be skillful, responsive, strategic, empathic, holistic, patient, nimble, nuanced...(4/n)
...listen, respond, move with awareness, consider information they might not have had before, etc. In other words, being effective calls upon our higher qualities, ones that expand us and the space that we hold and occupy. (5/n)
