I saw this discussion going on yesterday
Wasn't able to comment for various reasons
There is a lot to unpack here so let's take a step back & look at this objectively & subjectively.

Objectively - the original person is upset because of the way her doctor treated her. She is well within her right to complain & seek alternative options. The person QTing her commented with some friend's comment (hearsay) there by steering the narrative to where she wanted it

Everything else and I mean EVERYTHING else is subjective. If you agree with me till this point then we can carry on. Else I'm afraid you are wasting your time reading on

So let's look at this subjectively. This is where I feel the core of most of the disagreements yesterday were

This is my subjective view

Should the doctor in question have used more appropriate language in her history taking (questioning)?

Yes I feel so. It could have been worded better definitely. We can always improve we can always learn
Sex & marriage are not mutually dependent

However
This is where things get dicey
I know nothing of the people involved
I don't know the background of the people involved
Could both the doctor & the patient be a victim of their upbringing/cultural differences?
We don't know this. Easy to judge both from our own bias.