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Stop reacting & start responding.

Here’s how you speak slowly.

Shadow Integration method.

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 One quality that separates a man from children is how he responds to interactions.

Any time someone interacts with you, you have two choices; you can either react, or you can respond.

A response is a thought out reply.

A reaction is emotional.
A reaction is urge driven. Its when you instantly reply without thinking.

Its very easy to identify those who are impulsive simply by looking at this trait.

Its a trait that frames you to be weak through several subliminal effects.
If you react, you communicate that you have no urge control and that you act on emotions.

This assumes you to be unreliable & not dependable.

Whether you like it or not, high-end professional people will notice these small details in your behaviour.
A dead give away of a reactive man is when he talks fast.

Talking fast shows that you dont think & operate on other people's time while not respecting your own.

It also makes the credibility of your dialogue shaky at best.

Because it indicates no thought was provided.
If you want to thoughtfully respond, you need to speak slower.

Using the shadow integration method, its easy to identify the trigger point of the urge that seeks to react instantly, preventing YOU from responding effectively.

Trigger: every time you interact with someone.
If you have a office job, you could interact with 20 people a day.

If retail, it could be in the 100's.

Every single one of these interactions are trigger points for your 'reactive' urge to manifest.

Every encounter is an opportunity to slow this reactive urge.
Begin at the start of the day with the first person you interact with; pause for 3 seconds before responding.

Don't worry about thinking what to say. Make the pause a habit first.

Count the people you successfully pause with in the day & write it down.
The aim is to pause with every single person you encounter every day.

Every time you successfully pause in a interaction, you weaken the 'reactive' urge and slowly set the foundation to respond thoughtfully.

The void the pause creates, will provoke thoughts by default.
Keep count & do this for a month, and you will see a difference in your ability to respond, over your urge to react.

I have used this method myself and taught it to several others at work who now talk slower and regularly respond with their best thought out opinions.
When you've reached a stage where you involuntarily pause before speaking, and involuntarily think about what the other person said before replying,

your 'reactive' urge has then successfully been integrated in your behaviour. You will have full control over its manifestation.
How people frame you will begin to change. They will take your opinion seriously, operate on YOUR time & you'll control the tempo of the interaction,

which adds to your credibility, dominance & leadership.

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Every time you meet someone above you, you have a chance to move up.

It’s a rare golden opportunity to encounter those at the top.

Here's how you attract a founder, investor or an executive (FIEs) as your mentor.

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You NEVER know who the person you’ve encountered really is. You don’t know what he knows, what he is capable of, who he knows, who his connections are.

Assume they are the 1%.

Founders/Investors/Executives (FIEs) look for specific qualities before deciding to invest in someone.

You need to know WHY you want to be a mentee under FIEs.

You need EVERYTHING mapped out & prepped.

If it’s for an idea: know your strategy, distribution channel, market, competitors, biz plan etc.

If it’s a job seek: know your aim, your plan & career objective etc.

Then you need a 2 step approach.

1. Provide value that makes you worthy enough to be mentored.

2. Receive value in exchange, that will help progress whatever it was that made you sought out a mentor in the first place.

If you do this, ascension is inevitable.

FIEs read body language.

They can instantly tell whether you’ve got it or not.

Focus on 3 things:

-Chest out
-Eye contact
-Speak slowly

Nod. Accommodate your words with hand gestures. And don’t interrupt.

Ever.

If you do, apologise & let them speak.
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Your 9 to 5 job can transform you into a man of value.

Stop working for the money. Work for authority.

This is a lesson from my dad.

A life hack.

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You spend at least 40 hours a week at your work to make money.

Thats over 2000 hours a year. If you want these hours to mean more than just money, & help you develop your character,

then your approach towards work must change.

Its an overlooked topic that industriousness has tremendous mental & psychological impact on men and their transformation of becoming high value.

Here's a step by step blueprint on letting your job mould your character.

If you want your job to infiltrate your personality and mould you into a man of value,

you need authority.

So the first step is to assess the landscape of your job & whether you are able to attain this authoirty.

If you're in a work environment that makes you a supplicant to every person, quit your job.

I never recommend rash decisions, but working in a place where you are NOTHING but a subordinate, with ZERO opportunity to move up,

is psychologically damaging to your manhood.
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How to find the motivation to do something.

Requested by followers

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I lean heavily towards psychoanalytic theory & Nitzschean philosophy.

That means with regards to this thread,

I believe not everyone has the ability to be motivated. And those that do, have multiple personalities constantly affecting their motivation.

Ill address accordingly.

Nietzsche believed not everyone can achieve an aim,

that they lack self-determination; which is a combination of self-control & self-legislation i.e

the ability to write laws in place that will help attain an aim while suppressing desires that directly/indirectly disrupt it.

This thread assumes you have the ability to set yourself an aim that generates enough motivation for you to pursue it.

Obviously the "how" of this thread will fail those who don't possess this quality.

Some will disagree & claim everyone possesses it.

And yet still fail.

Having the motivation to do something cannot be pinpointed or quantified. There's infinite amount of reasons on what compels people to do things.

But there is room to work and generate motivation for those who have none,

(assuming they possess the trait in temperament).
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How to vet a woman. Qualify her by setting your standards.

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If you want to vet a woman properly, you need to separate two components that makes up who she is;

Macro scale - her deep values that make up her belief system.

Micro scale - her everyday habits & behaviours.

Macro cannot be easily modified, the micros can.

A woman's belief system in life takes one of two pathways,

she either chooses a path of independence, where her values shape around it,

or she chooses to seek femininity.

One directly conflicts with the other. The more independent she becomes, the less feminine she is.

Obviously you want a feminine woman. And that would mean to vet how far she is willing to go in her line of career. If career ascension is her aim, her belief system does not align with yours.

Her career must stop somewhere for her to be able to regain her feminine nature.

Determine how agreeable she is. By default, all women are more agreeable than disagreeable.

That means a woman who's gone out of her way to become disagreeable (for example career ascension) is a red flag, unless circumstances justify it.
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Men need to know when to take responsibility.

They also need to know when to refuse it.

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The word responsibility is being used as if its a mandatory quality for men to possess.

It's not. The conditions that make up the responsibility is what determines whether it should be upheld or not.

If a man is to take responsibility, he should first determine which domain it falls under.

If its family, unless they reached a level of disownment, responsibility meets no conditions.

It's a mans duty to carry as much as responsibility to alleviate his family's burden.

Outside family, responsibility should have at least one of 3 elements in exchange for upholding it:

1. An incentive
2. Authority
3. Leverage

Ideally you want responsibility to beget all three. Most of the time, you start off with only one.

Your new found duty must be rewarded in one way or another. Theres no reason to uphold anything unless you are rewarded. Its a waste of your time, effort & devalues your worth.

You might learn a thing or two, which can be valuable, but overall, it is value exchanged for nothing.
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I turned 30 recently.

While far from old and wise, I have learned a few things along the way - on life, business, writing, investing, and growth.

Here are a few important lessons learned...

Embrace Failure

Put simply, failure leads to growth.

Do not hide from failure. Seek it out. Allow yourself to be uncomfortable. Embrace it.

The most transformative moments in your life will always come from failures.

Stand on the Shoulders of Giants

As Isaac Newton famously wrote, “If I have seen further, it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.”

You will only go as far as you can see.

Seek out mentors who champion your cause and empower you to see further.

Prioritize People

Everything in life comes down to people and relationships.

Networks compound as well as any financial investment.

Build an army that is deep and wide.

Cultivate deep relationships, but also learn to appreciate the power of weak ties.

Give > Receive

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