Dear Nigerian men,

If you’re going to ask a woman out on a date.

“Mind chilling at, let’s hang, we could chill at, etc.”

Are not how to do it. It communicates the consistent noncommittal BS that is tiring.

That’s probably why she’s losing interest after you indicate meeting.

She’s not one of your guys. It shows low effort when you do that.

She’s a woman that wants to be asked out like you made an effort.

“Would you like to go out with me?
Can I take you to so so and so?

Does 8pm work for you?
Can we do lunch at so so by 3pm?
What don’t you eat?”

Act like you’re making an effort to actually date her.

Call to find out if you’re still on, don’t just be quiet till it’s time for the date.
Call to cancel plans or communicate a change in time, go there early, don’t dress like you just came out of your bathroom to fry egg.

Smell nice, use deodorant, hold the door for her, ask if she’s comfortable where she’s sat, if she complains about something being wrong with her food, ask if the waiter can do anything about it.

Don’t text someone you’re going out with at the time of the date with ‘sup’

‘Sup’ what sir?

Why is she the one texting you to find out if you’re still on for the date?
Did she beg you?

Why are you asking someone out to dinner and going there with track suit and bathroom slippers?
Is it crack, love?

PLEASE NAU!