Developing psychology & exerting willpower to not eat a pantry full of your favorite snacks
or
Not having those temptations in the house
Many 'solutions' being presented to people don't work
Designed to cope with the problem instead of resolving it
*Thread* - the hack is wack
The Master Life 'Hack' to Solve All Problems
Developing psychology & exerting willpower to not eat a pantry full of your favorite snacks
or
Not having those temptations in the house
Many 'solutions' being presented to people don't work
Designed to cope with the problem instead of resolving it
You can't resolve or remove the darkness
You can only add more light
Recent viral obsessions with 'healing', 'being stoic', 'mental models & psychology'
They all serve their place AFTER the root has been handled
Before adding 'hacks', remove things causing conflict
If a person fears confrontation & is not assertive
Techniques & thinking offer some support, but the real question is
Why is this the default behavior?
All solutions are merely Band-Aids to mask & cope with the symptoms
In reality the real root of his fear of asserting himself & confrontation may likely be:
These max-out the bandwidth available for discomfort,
Therefore there is no more available room to take on additional discomfort (confrontation/assertiveness)
Which further maxes out the bandwidth for uncertainty tolerance & discomfort tolerance
So again we can ask
What is more effective?
OR
- Fixing the chemical stress
- Developing physical strength
- Getting on top of his finances
To actually BE more certain, confident, and assertive
Due to having bandwidth available for discomfort/uncertainty tolerance
But it's something you must do consciously & constantly
Like always remembering to stand up straight for good posture
vs developing muscles/flexibility to have good posture as your default
without 'doing' anything
Instead of applying a technique or 'hack' to compensate for something
Resolve the deficiency itself which then makes your default expression the optimal one
They share many great points which help people
However, pretty much everything shared articulates qualities expressed on how you would act
IF the root issue was not there
Instead of having to do techniques or consciously calculate how to not look needy
....actually develop a life in which you got other sht going on
Multiple sources of good emotions
Multiple emotions for fun & excitement
Important tasks keeping you busy
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***THREAD***
I’ve been on the phone with colleagues about the hack all morning. None of us can figure out why #CISA chose this particular response to the breach. Couple of things struck us as curious.
The agencies targeted are not responding how you might expect...
I’ve been on the phone with colleagues about the hack all morning. None of us can figure out why #CISA chose this particular response to the breach. Couple of things struck us as curious.
The agencies targeted are not responding how you might expect...
JUST RELEASED: Emergency Directive 21-01 calls on all federal civilian agencies to review their networks for indicators of compromise and disconnect or power down SolarWinds Orion products immediately. Read more: https://t.co/VFZ81W2Ow7
— Cybersecurity and Infrastructure Security Agency (@CISAgov) December 14, 2020
Many conversations happening on #WhatsApp (WA) groups about new #WhatsAppPrivacyPolicy .
This thread has arguments to help ditch WA & move to @signalapp:
https://t.co/En4fe9VxUN
Share, use, copy-paste, modify with understanding as you deem fit on any platform in whole or part
1/n
Note: No affiliations, conflict of interest
Info presented with NO bias, prejudice, malice or indemnity.
Open to corrections: individual tweets may be deleted, tweets added to thread or corrected as replies.
Points that are unclear or uncertain are marked with "(?)".
2/n
CONTENT OF WA MESSAGES SHALL REMAIN ENCRYPTED END TO END.
BUT, there's data: contacts, group affiliations, co-affiliations, locations (live?), frequency of contacts, *tags* generated when we send or forward a message or file to contacts or groups, links, clicks on links, etc.
3/n
It is unclear whether this data is anonymized.
NOTHING in latest policy *prevents* the collection, retention, sharing or sale by FaceBook (FB: owner of WA) of this data in part or whole whether with identifying information or anonymized.
Meme source:
https://t.co/nMDTUlb0rl
4/n
Companies need to make money & generate profits:
To create software, install & maintain infrastructure.
Google, FB, Insta, Amazon etc sell data created from our content & data generated from our interactions (searches, clicks, purchases etc).
This makes many uncomfortable.
5/n
This thread has arguments to help ditch WA & move to @signalapp:
https://t.co/En4fe9VxUN
Share, use, copy-paste, modify with understanding as you deem fit on any platform in whole or part
1/n
Note: No affiliations, conflict of interest
Info presented with NO bias, prejudice, malice or indemnity.
Open to corrections: individual tweets may be deleted, tweets added to thread or corrected as replies.
Points that are unclear or uncertain are marked with "(?)".
2/n
CONTENT OF WA MESSAGES SHALL REMAIN ENCRYPTED END TO END.
BUT, there's data: contacts, group affiliations, co-affiliations, locations (live?), frequency of contacts, *tags* generated when we send or forward a message or file to contacts or groups, links, clicks on links, etc.
3/n
It is unclear whether this data is anonymized.
NOTHING in latest policy *prevents* the collection, retention, sharing or sale by FaceBook (FB: owner of WA) of this data in part or whole whether with identifying information or anonymized.
Meme source:
https://t.co/nMDTUlb0rl
4/n
Now that #WhatsApp have updated their terms, forcing users to share their data with #Facebook, here's our suggested update to that notification you see at the top of your chats.#WhatsappNewPolicy #WhatsappPrivacy pic.twitter.com/FjxFGBm6Q8
— Privacy International (@privacyint) January 7, 2021
Companies need to make money & generate profits:
To create software, install & maintain infrastructure.
Google, FB, Insta, Amazon etc sell data created from our content & data generated from our interactions (searches, clicks, purchases etc).
This makes many uncomfortable.
5/n
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Characteristics of a personal moat below:
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As Andrew Chen noted:
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Things that might get commoditized over time (some longer than
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In the internet economy, what has become scarce are things like specific knowledge, rare & valuable skills, and great reputations.
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Characteristics of a personal moat below:
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— Erik Torenberg (@eriktorenberg) November 22, 2018
Moats should be:
- Hard to learn and hard to do (but perhaps easier for you)
- Skills that are rare and valuable
- Legible
- Compounding over time
- Unique to your own talents & interests https://t.co/bB3k1YcH5b
2/ Like a company moat, you want to build career capital while you sleep.
As Andrew Chen noted:
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— Andrew Chen (@andrewchen) November 22, 2018
3/ You don’t want to build a competitive advantage that is fleeting or that will get commoditized
Things that might get commoditized over time (some longer than
Things that look like moats but likely aren\u2019t or may fade:
— Erik Torenberg (@eriktorenberg) November 22, 2018
- Proprietary networks
- Being something other than one of the best at any tournament style-game
- Many "awards"
- Twitter followers or general reach without "respect"
- Anything that depends on information asymmetry https://t.co/abjxesVIh9
4/ Before the arrival of recorded music, what used to be scarce was the actual music itself — required an in-person artist.
After recorded music, the music itself became abundant and what became scarce was curation, distribution, and self space.
5/ Similarly, in careers, what used to be (more) scarce were things like ideas, money, and exclusive relationships.
In the internet economy, what has become scarce are things like specific knowledge, rare & valuable skills, and great reputations.