Erynn Brook
@ErynnBrook 11 months, 4 weeks ago 653 views

I want to talk about this thing.

No not Piers Morgan, I give no shits about him.

I mean this thing of criticizing women’s sensuality and then saying that they should get by on just their talent. Cause we see it everywhere...

And it comes up in a lot of different spaces:
And it comes up in a lot of different ways:
It’s interesting because we know that psychologically speaking, conventionally attractive people are better received.

Attraction can shift as you get to know someone on an individual level, but overall our society privileges people who look good.
I don’t understand the question?
Anyway, what I was going to say is that it’s interesting. Not that we treat attractive people better or that sex sells or that people can use their attractiveness to advance in life.

No, it’s interesting that we critique this in this way when women do it, specifically.
Suddenly when a woman wears a tank top when she’s streaming people say “well I just think she should have to get ahead on talent instead of cleavage”.

Or if you’re Piers Morgan “well I just think Little Mix should use their talent to sell records instead of nudity.”
It’s painted as an unfair advantage that women have over men. It being boobs. Breasts. Bazongas. Let’s get right to it, folks. This is the big sticking point. How dare she use her body-her boobies-in this way?! How dare she be aware that she has them?!
And you can stuff the evolutionary fascination with tits where the sun don’t shine. Cause I’m definitely not talking about why people care about boobs. I’m talking about why people care that people who have boobs are aware that they have them.
This may come as a shock to some of you but women live in their bodies all the time. Breasts are so sexualized in our culture that I wore 2 sports bras, one on top of the other, before I even developed breasts. That’s how dedicated I was to not becoming a walking pair of tits.
I strapped those suckers down, hoping it would stunt their growth, or at least if they sprung up unexpectedly I’d be prepared. No such luck in my case.
Despite the fact that I live with my breasts 24/7, they’re treated like a public commodity, something everyone and anyone can comment on at any time.
Honestly if I could leave my breasts at home I would, like 98% of the time. Just take them out for special occasions or something. That’s how much shame I’ve absorbed about my body, my breasts.
And do you have any idea how difficult it is to literally carry around a shame-filled reminder that your body is simultaneously not your own and entirely your responsibility? It’s a mindfuck.
I wrote this last year. I don’t know if I’m any closer to reclaiming my body. I don’t know if it’s too late for me. I don’t know how to fix this. But I do know it’s not just me and it’s not just in my head.
You’re fucking right I’m complaining. I’m not writing this thread to be helpful to you. I’m not fixing rape culture in a twitter thread. Did you even read the whole thing before you came in here telling me I’m not “helpful”?
Yes! And even if you’re not “intentionally” using it, you’re just a little outside of someone’s personal definition of “proper”, you still get flack.

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I don’t have a son, but if I did, and he was accused of sexually assaulting someone, I would look him in the eye and ask him what he had done. And he would know from my face that lying would be the worst choice he could make.

I don’t have a brother, but if I did and he was accused of sexually assaulting someone, I would call him up and say “is it true?” And he would know from my voice that lying would mean the end of our relationship.

I do have a husband, and if anyone accused him of sexually assaulting someone I’d look at him and say “tell me what happened.” And I would know if he was lying in that moment.

And if they lied I would come out and say “they’re lying.” And if they told the truth and they had done horrible things I would come out in support of their accuser. And if they told me a story about how nothing happened, I’d say I need to hear it from her.

There are plenty of wonderful husbands, brothers and sons who were shitty boyfriends, shitty dates, shitty friends, shitty acquaintances, somewhere at some point in their lives.

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