If the situation is such that you cannot cope with the relationship, the best thing to do is walk out and stay out.
A lady came to my office claiming her husband was a two minute man and
Rather than cheat on your spouse, the honourable thing to do is quit the marriage
I know many people would rather want to eat their cake and have it, in principle, people who do that are scums and cheats
Either you are the husband or the wife, you have a duty to yourself to stay
If the situation is such that you cannot cope with the relationship, the best thing to do is walk out and stay out.
A lady came to my office claiming her husband was a two minute man and
She hadn't done anything yet...
She was just considering it because of the frustration the quick ejaculation issue the husband has was causing her
She made sure she dragged her husband to
She had been talking to him about it and she really wanted him to take her serious on the issue so that they can address it
Her husband didn't form
He acknowledged that he had a challenge and had tried so much to address it to no avail
They have a daughter and the
His openness and sincerity impressed me
Many men do not like to talk about their sexuality or deficiency in that area because they assume it belittles them
He was not like most men
I asked him a salient question that day
I said
He said yes
He said it might not be the same thing but he would try to live his life as comfortably as possible
I loved his answer and I
He said to me afterward "I don't believe a man of God can be so practical and unreligious"
I laughed and prayed with the two of them
The wife got pregnant again
That is how couples work
When i see some of the readers of https://t.co/fpgcW18qCu reading some stories and commenting that sexually frustrated women would most likely start cheating, i cringe.
Cheating is always an option but not to the honourable of godly
Rather than cheat, quit!
I hate the
Many homes are like that nowadays
Wife is sleeping with other sexual partners
Husband is sleeping with other sexual partners and both are wearing a ring and pretending to fool everybody by acting
Lying in words is when you say things you don't mean to honour or know to be untrue
Lying in action is when you are not something and you claim to be it
A broken marriage is far better than a sham of a marriage
The implication of unfaithfulness is very far-reaching and
I have seen on over twenty occasions how the implication of unfaithful marriages hit some people and drained life out of them
A man recently found out his children belonged to his uncle (his father's younger brother)
The uncle died and wrote it boldly in his will
This was a
His wife had always maintained she was faithful even when he suspected something could have transpired between her and his uncle
He had to take everything in faith
He died a month after the reading of the will
He died at the age of forty-eight
He was a
The children hated their mother
They also found out the truth the wrong way and blamed their mother for putting them in that situation without preparing them for it
Their mother denied it, told them the uncle was a bitter man who was lying from the grave
The children decided to conduct a paternity test to find out the truth
The woman ran to the office of the Brother in Jeans & T-shirt
She wanted the Holy Spirit to intervene and change the children's DNA to their biological father's DNA so that she
A consequence she should have faced right at the beginning by walking out of the marriage or refusing to cheat
She was still looking for the path of the least pain
Being a cheat is a NO!
If you're reading this and you're already cheating on your
Unfaithfulness breeds contempt and mistrust
Unfaithful spouses end up begging to be loved and respected even by their own children
Their end always felt like the end of Judas
When you get to a point when your
It is best to do the right thing at the right time.
If you have come to dislike or disdain your partner to the point where you can cheat on him or her, you should just call a meeting and say "Enough is enough"
To stay married
I met a young man who caught his girlfriend red-handed while cheating on him
Everybody said "If i am in your shoes, i will cheat back"
He said "Her wrongdoing cannot compel me to act wrongly. I will not be
That young man won my respect for life
I have equally met ladies and guys who said "I cheated on him/her because he cheated on me first"
I found that excuse to be dumb
You could have just walked away rather than become into a slime pit
This happened in Ibadan when i was a teenager
Unfortunately for him, the lady he got to cheat with was the fourth wife of a herbalist
He hit something called "Magun"
That thunderbolt cut
If he was wise enough to see beyond the pain of being cheated on to the point where he realized that the cheat was actually the biggest loser, he would still be alive now and most probably have a family of his own and a wonderful life
When you hear married men and
Unfaithful spouses are death traps
The dangers lurking in between their legs are deeper than sheol
Marriage is honourable
Being a cheat is shameful!
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I should mention, this is why I keep talking about this. Because I know so many people who legally CAN'T.
How do I know they have NDAs, if they can't talk legally about them? Because they trusted me with their secrets... after I said something. That's how they knew I was safe.
Some of the people who have reached out to me privately have been sitting with the pain of what happened to them and the regret that they signed for YEARS. But at the time, it didn't seem like they had any other option BUT to sign.
I do not blame *anyone* for signing an NDA, especially when it's attached to a financial lifeline. When you feel like your family's wellbeing is at stake, you'll do anything -- even sign away your own voice -- to provide for them. That's not a "choice"; that's survival.
And yes, many of the people whose stories I now know were pressured into signing an NDA by my husband's ex-employer. Some of whom I *never* would have guessed. People I thought "left well." Turns out, they've just been *very* good at abiding by the terms of their NDA.
(And others who have reached out had similar experiences with other Christian orgs. Turns out abuse, and the use of NDAs to cover up that abuse, is rampant in a LOT of places.)
How do I know they have NDAs, if they can't talk legally about them? Because they trusted me with their secrets... after I said something. That's how they knew I was safe.
And if the environment at the org was toxic or abusive, it is not uncommon to not realize the extent of that toxicity/abuse until after you're out. But by the time you realize that you signed under duress and presumed good faith where none existed, you're out of options.
— Lauren Thoman (@LaurenThoman) February 16, 2021
Some of the people who have reached out to me privately have been sitting with the pain of what happened to them and the regret that they signed for YEARS. But at the time, it didn't seem like they had any other option BUT to sign.
I do not blame *anyone* for signing an NDA, especially when it's attached to a financial lifeline. When you feel like your family's wellbeing is at stake, you'll do anything -- even sign away your own voice -- to provide for them. That's not a "choice"; that's survival.
And yes, many of the people whose stories I now know were pressured into signing an NDA by my husband's ex-employer. Some of whom I *never* would have guessed. People I thought "left well." Turns out, they've just been *very* good at abiding by the terms of their NDA.
(And others who have reached out had similar experiences with other Christian orgs. Turns out abuse, and the use of NDAs to cover up that abuse, is rampant in a LOT of places.)
